(Closed) What is life with 2 under 2 really like?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

jjbeebee :  the problem is that 6-12mo is like the easiest age for young children   Usually sleeping pretty well, non mobile, no real need to discipline yet…so you get baby fever before you realize how much work a 2 year old is haha.  I swear that is why so many people have baby fever when theirs is 6-12mo! 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

jjbeebee :  I’m living it right now! I LOVE it! I have a 15 month old and a 2.5 year old. I will say that when my youngest got to be 12 months old it got a lot better, my older one was happy to have someone to chase after and the youngest was happy to be on the same playing field as her older sister once she was walking. The first three months it was a lot, I felt like it took a ton of effort to get out of the house for a day and overnights with long drives were not the most fun.  My girls play together, even if it’s just parallel play which helps Darling Husband and I have a little more time for eachother and to get some stuff done. I feel like once the first 12 months pas by it’s not really much more effort with two than there is one. I feel like a sibling is the best gift a parent can give a child!

Post # 20
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Sugar bee

Until one of them hits 5, super hard.  But after pre-k, easier than having 1 imo.

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

jjbeebee :  Oh just the 2 year old is more work than either a 1 year old or baby.  Sure I was a bit more sleep deprived with a 4 month old, but all you really need to do is keep them fed, warm, safe, etc.  Mine wasn’t the greatest sleeper (didn’t sleep through the night completely until after 18 mo) but she wasn’t terrible (woke up once, and luckily I could easily fall back asleep).  Either way, I think I’ve only had a handful of nights in 2 years where I actually slept all night without waking up.  I always wake up now, at some point.  Once they hit about 1.5 they start getting more difficult IMO, mostly due to discipline, tantrums, whining, and not listening, etc.  But still, you need to do what feels best for you and you just deal with it.  I’m sort of happy I’m due at the end of November with #2 so I won’t feel bad not leaving the house as much.

I have friends who are not close to their siblings (but close in age) and other friends who are 10+ years apart from their siblings and are close as adults (obviously were too far apart as children to be playing together though).  It really is all about the personality in the end (for adult relationships).  My husband and his youngest brother are 8 years apart and are just as close as the ones 2 years apart.  So it’s a combo of personalities and the way you raise your children.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I was one of 2 under 2, apparently I ignored my brother outright for the first 9 months of his life, and after that my mother describes it as “living with tasmanian deveils”

We were 18 months apart and my youngest sibling (there’s three of us) was born a week after my 4th birthday, so you can imagine the chaos. Aparently my mom’s life was like that video of the woman trying to clean up the baby panda cage, her words upon seeing it were “I can relate” and a lot of laughter.

BUT, I will say, that having my Brother and Sister so close to me in age as kids and now as adults was the most amazing thing. All my friends who have siblings who are 4+ years apart barely interact with each other, my sibs and I and their significant others are great friends and spend a ton of time together! I love our closeness in age

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Mine are almost exactly 2 years apart and aside from crabby moods, it’s not too hard. My oldest has always been very independent, so she’s usually fine when I need to do something with the baby. And DS is a very easy going baby. They are 2 1/2 years and 8 months now and they play with eachother all the time. 

I will say though, going out with them is not always easy by myself. Before DS could sit in a shopping cart I had to put his infant carrier in the cart and dd sat in the little seat, which means next to no room for groceries. So we turned weekly shopping into a family outing and Darling Husband and I each have a shopping cart and a kid, which dd loves because we would have cart races. Even when DS was able to sit in the seat, we still do our shopping as a family. 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My son is just 2 and my daughter 6 months so – well it is hard work and pretty all consuming but also well I love it !

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

jjbeebee :  My girls (6 and 7) are 13 months apart.  Then I have a 3 year old son and 6 month old daughter.  The girls were so much fun that close in age — still are even though they are polar opposites and bicker some now.  I was and am a Stay-At-Home Mom, so I feel like that made it easier in terms of keeping a schedule.  Having same gender can be rough as they get older…who is who’s friend, who owns what clothes, etc.  People always ask if they’re twins.  The diapers were out of control, but that was the only big drawback as babies.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Butterfly6 :  Ha.  I use to laugh at the whole “terrible twos” thing.  Not my kiddos.  And then five hit and holy crap!

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m pregnant with #2 and DS will be 22 months when the second is born. He’s 18 months now and getting easier daily. I found 7-12 months to be the easiest so far and then walking, willfulness and tantrums happen. We have been working hard on positively shaping behaviors and I notice it’s really working, especially as his communication gets better. I’m okay with the fact that both will be in diapers, I really only change my son about 3-4 times a day and it’s quick. I will say that I have given my first a lot of freedom to learn, explore and practice skills. He’s quite advanced in fine and gross motor skills and problem solving, which I think is due to me not helicoptering over him. Obviously I don’t let him do things that will hurt him badly. I think this independence will really help me when I have another little one. He’s as independent as my friends 2.5 and 3 year olds, so it’s almost like a bigger age gap. We will see if it works out though! I hope these two are super close!

Post # 28
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Sugar bee

stuckinwonderland :  lol…yeah, you think you have dodged a bullet if you didnt get the terrible two phase. But alas, the universe is not that kind and sooner or later…

Post # 29
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Helper bee

I don’t have kids yet but my older sister and I are 18 months apart and I love that. My mom says when I was a baby my older sister would try to take me everywhere, but she’s always been tiny so she would have to literally roll me across the floor and apparently I didn’t mind. When we were 11-12 we would fight alllllll the time but since then we’ve been BFF. 

My mom is glad she did it that way but she talks about how sometimes my sister would cry, then I would cry, and she would just cry too haha. Though it may have been especially hard for her because my dad was deployed sometimes. 

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