Post # 31
- Wedding: County courthouse
It was definitely hard for the first few weeks. But my kids would play together and my oldest would “help” me with the baby. It really helped that we got out oldest potty trained a few months after our youngest was born. Yeah my oldest would get jealous…but she loved her sister most of the time. Good luck bee…it isn’t easy having 2 under 2.
Post # 32
My children are 16 months apart. My son turned 3 in March and my daughter will be 2 this Friday. I would not change it for the world. We wanted to have them back to back for a few reasons.
1. Age: I turned 33 one month before I had my son and I was 34 when I had my daughter. Although I do not consider myself to be “old”, we still wanted to be a decent age when THEY got older.
2. Since we were already getting less sleep, changing diapers, etc., we wanted to just go ahead and knock it out. For me, I could not imagine going through all of that and then starting all over seven years later. It works for some, but that wasn’t what I wanted.
Is it hard at times? YES! However, I have an amazing husband and we DIVIDE AND CONQUER lol…… literally. It is so much easier if you work as a team. My husband gets my son ready for bed and I get my daughter ready for bed and then we switch it up during the week. My husband does their bath routine and I get their clothes and stuff ready for the next day. He drops off at daycare and we both pick-up. Whoever gets home first — cooks dinner…We really work well together.
My son and daughter are SUPER close. The daycare center they attend told us that their bond is so amazing. They said they have never have seen anything like it. They play together so well, they also fight 🙂 (my daughter — the youngest is bossy lol) but they said they take up for one another all day, everyday.
Now that they are 2 and 3, we ROLL! My son is potty-trained and my daughter is in the process of being potty-trained. My son AND daughter are helpful. When it is time to change her, she says “I get pull-up”, ahahahah which means it is DEFINITELY time to get her in underwear and my son runs and go get the wipes.
I love and say go for it. I think that it is hard no matter which way you do it (gap or no gap).
Here are a few photos of them when they were younger. Again, there are pros and cons for having them back to back and having a gap. Good Luck with whichever you decide 🙂
Post # 33
Thanks for your input!
Oh my! They are cute! And yay for having such an amazing DH! Definitely helps make that age gap easier 🙂
Post # 34
My sister and I are 10.5 months apart (mom was turning 36 when she had me and I’m the oldest) and even though now we’re friends now growing up was HARD. 2 girls going through tantrums, 2 girls starting periods and hormonal changes, proms, college payments… All at the same time but without the twin “connection”. We were a mess!
Post # 35
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
I would have liked a little less than a 2 year gap, but after working at a day care and getting a new job (high school teacher yay!), I think waiting longer works best for us. The kids I work with that are less than 2 years of age do not truly communicate and are still in diapers. Eating is a show. They seem quite needy. It would be hard to have two “babies” at the same time. I am thinking that 2 to 3 years is a much better gap in my opinion as many of them can let you know that they need to poop closer to the age of 2. They have a better sense of what “No” means and things of that sort. I work with kids 3 months to 2 years old.