(Closed) What is more important? The ring or the proposal?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What is more important to you, the ring or the proposal?

    Amazing ring

    Elaborate proposal

  • Post # 32
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I voted ring.

    Just because I was pretty pick in what I wanted(because I didn’t want a diamond and wanted something totally unique and one of a kind) And that’s what I got.

    Big, over the top proposals are SO not my thing(nor his) in the end, I got the perfect proposal for us…simple…outdoors…just us and one of our dogs. <3

     

    Post # 33
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    Blushing bee

    The ring for me..its something Ill wear every day, the proposal doesnt have to be elaborate for it to mean something special…regardless he is still committing his life to me

    Post # 35
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @MrsGo:  I wouldn’t want too much spent on the proposal. My proposal wasn’t expensive, even though it was more elaborate and thought out than other people’s proposals. He took me to the Biltmore and hired a photographer, I’m sure it cost under $500 total for both. So, I guess I’d say that I’d rather more on the ring, but I definitely wouldn’t want the proposal skimped on. You can do something meaningful and thoughtful without it being expensive. So, to answer your question, I’d prefer more money spent on the ring, but I would still expect an elaborate proposal.

    Post # 37
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I DID NOT VOTE

    Because as the wording stands… I don’t believe that EITHER of these are important…

    AMAZING Ring vs ELABORATE Propoal

    Now if you had asked Ring vs Proposal, I would have said Proposal every.single.time… because without a Proposal there can be no future Marriage

    Now if it is a case where I had to choose between just these options…

    Then a AMAZING NICE Ring given with much care & affection is more important to me than a YouTube worthy Proposal

    Hope this helps,

     

    Post # 38
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MrsGo:  neither was important to me at all… My fiancé planned a romantic proposal and I got a stunning ring, but honestly he could have proposed on the couch at home with no ring and I would have been over the moon with joy. However, I’m not really into jewerly and elaborate surprise proposals aren’t really done in my culture, so my expectations are a little different – I can certainly understand how it can be underwhelming to feel like your guy (or lady) didn’t put any thought into asking you to marry.

    Post # 39
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I agree that neither are very important at all, but after some time no one talks a bout the proposal and you can’t pass it down to your grandchildren.

    Post # 40
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I voted for the ring, because that’s something I plan to wear on my finger for the rest of my life, and you can have an amazingly sweet proposal without spending a ton of money πŸ™‚

    I told my now-FI that I really wanted the proposal to involve him getting down on one knee and pulling out a ring in a velvet box. When it became clear that I was very picky about the engagement ring itself, but we didn’t want to pick it out together before we were engaged, we decided he would propose with an inexpensive, whimsical ring, and he went with the dragon ring in my profile pic, and it was perfect!

    We were on vacation in SF, and I knew the proposal was coming, and he took me to a couple of places we’d been to before, and told me what they meant to him, then to a beautiful part of Golden Gate Park we’d never been to before, to symbolize our future together, and he popped the question there. πŸ™‚ Then we went to Ghirardelli square for chocolate, then took a trolley to our hotel, where we were upgraded to a suite for free (and usually when we’re in SF we stay on an air mattress at his brother’s), and then we had dinner at an amazing Greek restaurant, and I’m part Greek, and I loved it. And the next day we partied at an awesome concert, then we went to my hometown and I was able to celebrate with my family.

    Post # 41
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

    Aha, I see what you mean now. 

    In that case, I suppose I’d go for the ring.  Unless the proposal involved a trip…. hmmm. Not sure. Both of those options are pretty nice as icing on the cake, which is the relationship. πŸ˜€

    Post # 43
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    Buzzing bee

    I couldn’t vote, but I would say neither of those answers are important for me. I didn’t get a proposal and didn’t want one. It’s just not something I’ve dreamt about or even wanted. As for the ring, I did get one for fun, but it’s not really important either. We’ve been ”engaged” without a ring for months. 

     

    Post # 44
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MrsGo:  I hear you… I just really couldn’t choose πŸ™‚ I guess the ring? At least that retains some value, an elaborate proposal sounds expensive and I am pretty frugal πŸ™‚

    Post # 45
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @MrsGo:  I get what you’re saying ; ) OF COURSE the person prposing to you and the foundation and relationship you have is the most important part, that’s a given. In our society today though, we keep seeing more and more elaborate proposals, and entire threads are dedicated to ring specs, so they obviously MATTER to people a great deal, otherwise we wouldn’t be talking about it!

    To me, I’d rather have a nicer ring than a proposal. I’m not much for spectacle. 

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