(Closed) What is more important? The ring or the proposal?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What is more important to you, the ring or the proposal?

    Amazing ring

    Elaborate proposal

  • Post # 47
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

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    @MrsGo:  Sorry OP I didn’t mean my comment towards you, just a general statement. 

    Post # 48
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    @MrsGo:  The ring! No question. I agree with your man, the ring I will wear every day, the important thing about the proposal is that he asked me to marry him. 🙂 We had a simple proposal at home, which definitely suited us. It remains one of the happiest days of my life! I have zero disappointment that it wasn’t elaborate. But the ring he gave me- I chose it with his help. It is stunning! I admit, I’m happy with both.

    Post # 49
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I believe that great experiences together can really enhance a relationship. It sounds like the man in your story really cared about doing something special for her & I’m sure she felt loved. I’d much rather have an amazing trip with my husband than a fancy ring. And she can always upgrade later!!

    Post # 50
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I definitely vote for the ring. My husband and I picked out my ring together. I absolutely love it. It means so much to me and is something that I will wear for the rest of my life or will pass on to my children or grandchildren. A lot of thought, time, and money was put into it for it to be perfect. And it’s something that lasts. It will always be around. My proposal was 100% free. It was a sweet proposal at home where Dh told me that he loved me and couldn’t spend his life without me. It was very special and meaningful. But there was no reason for it to cost any money. Plus, we don’t have anything to show for it. Obviously, DH needed to ask me, but I just wanted something simple. It was perfect for us.

    Post # 51
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Actually I did not need an elaborate proposal or a ring. I got a simple, yet gorgeous ring (that I did not ask for and rarely wear) and a simple proposal. Good deal. I probably would have laughed my butt off if he tried something fancy while proposing.

    Post # 52
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I loved his proposal and I love my ring but those aren’t really what matter to me. What really is important is that I have someone who loves me more anything in the world and I feel the same about him. I just am so lucky that I get to spend all of my days with an amazing man. 

    Post # 53
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    Honey Beekeeper

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    @MrsGo:  “I was simply looking at it as a scenario where say your partner had X amount that he/she wanted to spend on the ring and proposal. Would you prefer them to spend half on the ring and half on the proposal (amazing dinner, trip, dance number or whatever it was that would be very “you”) or would you prefer they spent more on a higher quality ring and a simple, but still meaningful and romantic, proposal?”

     That’s a no brainer, then.  The ring. 

    Post # 54
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2000

    Can’t people just answer the question?! It’s either a Ring or Proposal, there is no option C… LOL!

    For me – hands down, the ring.  I never cared for a Romantic Movie type proposal.  As long as my man is genuine, I’d be happy. As a matter of fact, we also had a low key proposal.  He told me after that he was going to propose the following month when we’d be in Europe, but he couldn’t wait another 30 days to propose to me, so did it the following day when we went to the beach.  It was very “us” and I would’ve had that over an Eiffel Tower proposal any day 🙂

    Post # 55
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Hmm..I voted the ring. I’ll have that forever. The proposal lasts seconds. 

    Post # 56
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Of course, the most important part is that he wants to marry me. That’s what really matters. But out of the two, I would say I care more about the ring than the proposal. 

    Post # 57
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I guess I don’t fit into this at all.  He didn’t really propose…we just decided to get married.  I told him I didn’t want a ring but he got me one anyway about a month later.  🙂 

    Post # 58
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Ring… no question.

    I didn’t even want my Fiance to “propose” per se. We talked about getting married, and then bought a ring. No element of surprise there. I hate surprises and I am a hard person to surprise (big ones anyway) because I’m very Type A.

    I spent over a year researching the ring. My Fiance wanted to get me something I loved. Neither of us gave a hoot about the proposal. We were 2 adults who decided we wanted to marry… I didn’t need him to ask me since we were already on the same page.

    This isn’t to say that we’re not traditional in other ways, but a fancy proposal didn’t really work for us as a couple.

    ETA: And the proposal lasts what… a few seconds? Becomes a nice, memorable evening? You wear the ring FOREVER…

    Post # 59
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    Newbee

    The ring…for sure. You will wear that every day for the rest of your life. When the love of your life asks you to spend the rest of your days with him, who cares where or how that happens.

    Post # 60
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I am so over the ring.  I have looked with my friend, my sister and yesterday he wanted to go looking just the two of us.  We’ve looked online, we went and tried on rings.  I love a lot.  I love twisted split shanks, more diamonds than less, and anything that sparkles.  I am not particularly picky!  The store manager at Birks was very upset with me.  I don’t need or care to have a IF D colour diamond.  I’m quite happy with something a little less perfect (like me?), appearing white to the eye and eye clean.  Thankfully for him the SO piped up that he was more about quality.  Meh.  I’m so over picking this stuff.  It’s all in his hands.  I said I was done.  It’s his choice now.  

    And I don’t need a huge elaborate proposal.  We’re already well into the planning of the wedding.  I just want a proposal.  

    So I couldn’t really answer your poll.  Neither of the two options matter that much.  I want a ring and a proposal.  Neither need to be over the top.  

    Post # 61
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    For me, the ring was more important. I did get a proposal, but it was just a formality and something he wanted to do. We’d been together for years and years and had already decided amongst ourselves to get married. Actually, his “re-proposal” with my new ring this year was much more romantic and elaborate than the real one.

    I also opted for an elopement over a wedding, so my rings are really the only “bridal” thing I have obsessed over.

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    @Diamondgurl:  “Can’t people just answer the question?! It’s either a Ring or Proposal, there is no option C… LOL!”

    Yeah, I totally agree. There’s so much “Nothing material is ever important, I’d have been thrilled and over the rainbow with an impromptu twist-tie proposal in a garbage dump! All that matters is the relationship!” on WB. I understand the sentiment, but if that’s really true why spend money on a wedding at all? Just go down to the courthouse, make it legal, and get right down to the point of putting the relationship front and center.

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