(Closed) What is more important? The ring or the proposal?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What is more important to you, the ring or the proposal?
    Amazing ring : (176 votes)
    85 %
    Elaborate proposal : (31 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 62
    4394 posts
    Honey bee

    @starla:  ita. bunch of fun suckers up in here!

    for me, it’s the ring, because I don’t have or wear a lot of jewelry and I don’t intend to, so I want to get the one piece I will wear forever right. Also, I have a hard time spending a lot on non-tangible stuff. 

    Post # 63
    457 posts
    Helper bee

    I feel that they are almost equally important, although lower in priority than the relationship/marriage. I want my bf to WANT to propose, and to do it in a way that suits us both. I also want a ring that we will both be happy with forever. 

    Post # 64
    1699 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 1997

    @MrsGo:  I received a round brilliant diamond solitaire that my dh saved for & chose along with a simple proposal on one knee. Qualiity and sincerity.

    I think wanting an elaborate youtube worthy staged proposal (especially when there is awareness of it occuring before hand) are more for public consumption.  Kind of on par with wanting a large diamond-like ring.  of course neither necessarily means the sentiment isn’t there though …

    Thus my long answer is, I think both ring and proposal are equally important but for different reasons.

    Interesting question! Smile


    Post # 65
    7529 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @MrsGo:  I would still prefer them to spend the money on neither. neither of those things in my opinion are important. The committment and the person are the important parts.

    Post # 66
    940 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

     I took the question to mean, “Do you want him to put more resources into the ring or planning some elaborate fanfare-type proposal” so my answer was the ring because I wear that every day and the proposal, while EXTREMELY special – was personal, private and endearing – just like DH. So – my answer of “the ring” means put the money there, not the Eiffel Tower at midnight proposal.

    Post # 67
    150 posts
    Blushing bee

    I say BOTH sorry can’t choose

    Post # 68
    762 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    @AlwaysSunny:  lol.  I feel this way too.  Like I just never was one of those women who dreamt of a beautiful proposal or beautiful ring.  I just never gave any of it much thought.  I like rings as a piece of jewelry, but I had no input in mine and really just was not all that concerned about what I got or how he proposed.  My proposal was sweet and funny, but I just cared that he proposed.  

    Post # 69
    5622 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Well, the proposal is the most important thing for me, as in.. he wanted to share his life with me. How the proposal was actually done, didn’t really mean much to me. [We had an intimate night, and he woke me up in the middle of the night to ask, bedside]. It was sweet, and intimate and exactly what I wanted.

    So, I guess I would say that the act of the proposal is more important than the ring.. and the ring is more important to me than an elaborate proposal.

    Post # 70
    136 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Diamondgurl:  Seriously! +1,000 

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    @starla: Amen… literally exactly what I was thinking. 

    Jeez. Kinda having a hard time understanding where the option C came from? Obviously, all of us value our relationship & our SO more than anything else; otherwise, we (hopefully) wouldn’t be planning weddings/already married.

    Seems like a lot of Bees took this as an opportunity to state the obvious, many in a condescending tone. Which is unfortunate, because OP had a very interesting question! Plus, she made it very clear multiple times that she was asking 😉

    Now: I would absolutely choose the ring, mostly for the same reasons already stated by other Bees. The ring will be what I wear every day for the rest of my life. It’s a constant reminder of my commitment to Fiance & to our future together.

    My proposal was exactly what I wanted it to be: simple & intimate, just the two of us. I don’t remember the majority of what he said; I was crying from the second he got on one knee lol. I also really don’t like having all eyes on me, so I think that would have been the one thing that could ruin the proposal for me.

    Post # 71
    731 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    it’s funny people are saying “neither.” the point of this post was to see OUT OF TWO OPTIONS, which you would place more importance on…

    Post # 72
    378 posts
    Helper bee

    In theory: The Proposal is most imporntant–because he’s ASKING, and your entering into a new chapter as an engaged couple.

    In reality: People look at the proposal as HOW he proposed, and forget that the whole POINT is that it happened. So in this way–I’d say the ring is the most imporntant.

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