What is most important when picking out bridesmaids dresses?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What is the priority in bridesmaid dress choice?
    Make sure you choose a length that each bridesmaid is comfortable wearing, regardless of body type. : (77 votes)
    37 %
    Make sure you choose parameters that ensures your bridesmaids will want to wear their dress again. : (27 votes)
    13 %
    Make sure you choose parameters that ensure all the dresses will fit the formality of your wedding. : (55 votes)
    26 %
    Let the bridesmaids choose whatever they like. They don't need to match one another or wedding. : (29 votes)
    14 %
    Money is the biggest concern. No one should spend more than $100 per dress. : (21 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 32
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Anise:  Ah yes, I forgot to mention that my bridesmaids are very different, as well. Part of the reason I just let them pick the style they wanted.

    Post # 33
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I selected formality. With cost as a close second (although $100 seems a bit of a low cap?). I don’t want my Maid/Matron of Honor to feel uncomfortable, but I could not care less about whether she intends to wear the dress again. It didn’t factor into my decision in the slightest. I’ve NEVER worn a bridesmaids dress again. Also, I think the overall aesthetic is more important than the attendants’ personal comfort. Before you flame me, let me explain. Some women aren’t “dress” people or aren’t used to wearing fancy/expensive clothes. My one and only attendant feels most comfortable in flouncy, frumpy, nylon maxi dresses. No ma’am. Not at my altar. As long as it’s a dress in which she will LOOK her best (setting aside her personal comfort level), I think I’ve done my part. I wouldn’t have a busty Bridesmaid or Best Man rocking a braless covertible number and I would have an alabaster sister in a color that would wash her out. But…you don’t like open toed shoes because you have a corn that no one will even see? Get over it. You’ll go crazy trying to alter your wedding to fit everyone’s preferences. 

    Post # 34
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    1789 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Definately think of the bridesmaids first(body type and such)

    then think of BUDGET! I was a little bitter on buying a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress for $220 and 75 alterations -.- She had a $79 one picked out at first then changed her mind, I was a little upset. All of us are students, including the bride, living on budgets. I just wish I could have saved money SOMEWHERE, especially since I had to buy friggin $60 shoes that arent even visible under the dress. Ugh 

    Post # 35
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    847 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    @sweet5k:  My main priority is that my bridesmaids geniunely like and feel comfortable in the dress they’ve chosen. I’d love it if they could wear their dresses again, but them being happy to wear it on the day without having to feel self conscious is really important to me. 

    You can’t please everyone with one dress and I think that you owe it to your BMs to make sure they’re happy with what they’re wearing on at least a basic level. If that involves compromising the vision you had then so be it. Your wedding isn’t 100% about you. Once other people get involved you have to take their needs into account. 

    For my wedding I’m requesting that my BMs pick a dress in a certain colour and get my stamp of approval (which will be handed out liberally) before buying. I’m giving them each $100 towards their dress, the rest of the price and specifics of the dress are up to them. One of my BMs already has her dress and we’re having so much fun putting her wedding look together!

    Post # 36
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    847 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    @Overjoyed:  So you should just ignore how everyone else feels altogether? That seems pretty unfair…

    Post # 37
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    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @sweet5k:  There are so many great ways to do not matching! Maybe pick a color and everyone can pick their own style in that color. (I think that might work best for your maids) You could also have varying shades of gray. A great place to look is weddingtonway.com, they make it really easy to compare dresses!

    Post # 39
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Didn’t vote because none of the options really fit.  I wanted my girls to feel comfortable in the dress on them, not just the length.  MOH is busty and wanted straps, whereas the two bridesmaids are smaller chested and like strapless.  I picked a designer and fabric, they can pick whichever dress they like best.

    Post # 40
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    @sweet5k:  I have been a maid of honor twice and a bridesmaid on five other occasions for a total of SEVEN times. Only once did I have any input whatsoever into the dress decision.  None was something that I really hoped to wear again, and I paid for each of those dresses, because I was thrilled to be given the honor to be in these wonderful ladies’ weddings.

    I personally think that the bride must first  consider the formality of her wedding as well as her own personal taste  — in terms of color, fabric, and style. THEN, she really needs to ask herself if the dress she has chosen (if she’s choosing only one style for all of her attendants), will look appropriate on the figures of all of her bridesmaids. For example, it’s one thing to choose a strapless dress that will cover the busts of even the most well-endowed maid; it’s another thing entirely to choose a gown that simply cannot be worn with a supportive undergarment or has a plunging neckline when one of the maids is a 42H.

    Likewise, it’s one thing to choose a short dress, because the formality of the wedding allows it. It’s another matter altogether to put any woman, large or small, young or old, in a dress that is five inches above her knees — unless this is standard practice for her.

    Furthermore, a bride may be in love with a clingy fabric such as silk charmeuse. However, it’s important for her to consider whether or not she will really love it on the figures of each and every maid.

    The bride’s desired look absolutely should rule; however, she truly should be a benevolent  dictator in that she should not  want any of her girls to expose parts of their bodies that would upset them, their spouses, or her guests, to have exposed.

    Post # 41
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    254 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I chose parameters that will ensure they want to wear it again. I’d say tell them any shade of grey (even if you don’t love dark grey, it isn’t a big deal in the grand scheme of things, and looks very pretty matching with other shades of grey. if you absolutely think a dark grey will ruin your whole day, then say any shade of light grey and give them some color squares from the paint aisle) and any length they want. Maybe ask for the same neckline? Like everyone have strapless, but the length and color is up to you…

     

    Post # 42
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I personally would go to a website like dessy and tell them they can choose any dress in a certain color or colors. Or any of them in this color as long as it’s strapless, but they can choose length.

    Post # 43
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

    @sweet5k:  if you get long dresses, they can always be hemmed after the wedding…

    Post # 44
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    3463 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @BridieBea:  I’m pretty sure I didn’t say that, so…

    Post # 45
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    1134 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    ultimatly pick what you like the best. i took all my girls shopping and it was not happening to all agree 100%. so i just picked one i loved, that went with the wedding flow.

    Post # 46
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I picked length that would suit all body types but length wasn’t the concern it was style that would suit all body types. I some how managed to find a dress that suits my five girls very very different body shapes and have just picked to have it in two colours to suit that fact that my girls have very different complexions as well

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