Post # 47
when i was picking my bridesmaids dresses i went to all my girls and asked them what they wanted in a dress and matched it with what i knew i wanted. the biggest issue was trying to find something that would work with all their different body types. but that would be my suggestion, see what they want, then you can worry about finding what fits the formality and if they can wear it again.
Post # 48
@pixiecat: That makes sense. I too feel that cut/strap issues are best decided on a case by case basis and I would never choose one dress for everyone. Of course each Bm will pick out their own style with their preferences in mind. At the absolute most I would request a color, fabric and length and let them figure out the rest.
Post # 49
Thanks for the responses everyone, this was very helpful in figuring out what priorities are. I guess I wasn’t quite clear: I would definitely not pick one dress for all girls to wear. There is just no way to accommodate all the girls and they know far better than I do what looks good on them. I would like for all their dresses to be the same length and maybe the same color, but different shades of the same color might be ok.
I think what I decided is that bridesmaids comfortability comes first so long as those comforts are not inappropriate for a daytime formal wedding (ie: everyone has to wear a dress, it has to be nice). After that I rank budget. David’s the the most expensive I’d ask my girls to do, but even those prices appear too high to mr…I’d recommend choosing clearance dresses.
Beyond that, if the bms have an issue I’d deal with it on a case by case basis.
Post # 50
@sweet5k: well can you get a long dress she can cut? It’s your wedding, do what you want.
Post # 51
Oops. I am a stickler for accuracy, and it’s too late to edit my prior comment. Although it’s not at all relevant to this thread, I just wanted to correct my error and note that I actually was a maid of honor three times, and a bridesmaid four times.
Post # 52
My biggest priority was money (all of my bridesmaids are in very different financial situations, so I wanted a dress that wouldn’t leave them eating ramen for the next month). After that, I wanted a dress that everyone would be comfortable in. I knew one Bridesmaid or Best Man doesn’t like strapless, so I stayed away from that, and very short dresses, since I knew another is a little more conservative than the others.
I wasn’t too concerned with the “wear again” factor. I tried to do the mismatch thing, but that was just too difficult to get them to match without being identical haha.
Post # 53
It’s one thing to honor their requests but like you said, you can’t 100% please everyone.
Post # 54
I bought my bridesmaids dresses a few days ago (really early, but its the last time I’m going to see my bridesmaids until the week of the wedding). My biggest prority was finding something they liked, but which I liked too. My plan was to try and get them to pick a dress themselves, but I had veto power. As I’m not too keen on formal bridesmaid dresses and I’m not planning a super formal wedding, I thought a short dress from a high street shop would be best.
Unfortunately as all my girls live in different cities, and I live on the other side of the world, we didn’t get to have one big shopping trip as I’d hoped. What ended up happening was I went shopping with Future Sister-In-Law for something different when we spotted the dress and both loved it. Then I went shopping with little sis, and she loved it. Then went shopping with big sis – she tried on the dress and wasn’t too keen, but we kept looking and couldn’t find anything else we both liked. So in the end she was happy to get the dress (and I paid for all 3 dresses anyway which helped). So it was a combination of keeping my bridesmaids happy (well 2 out of 3), and me getting my own way.
Post # 55
@sweet5k: I get that your friend likes the idea of wearing the dress again, but realistically she probably never will.
For me, the most important thing is price, but comfort comes a close second. Most brides think about how much they are dropping on their weddins and often they don’t take into consideration how much being a Bridesmaid or Best Man costs – which is why BMs HOPE they can rewear the dress again.
It’s not just the dress they have to pay for, but also the alterations. Chances are, even if the bride doesn’t require it, they are going to have to buy shoes.
However, it is YOUR wedding and if you choose certain colors, just go with the colors. There is NO chance you will make everyone in your wedding party happy. Someone will always have a complaint about something.
If however, you really think the BMs could rewear the dress, go with long – your Bridesmaid or Best Man can always get it altered from a long dress to a short one to wear to another event.