(Closed) What is non-traditional about your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are totally non traditional.  We are doing a Pagan Handfasting and it will be a Halloween evening ceremony with a gothic/Victorian/Steampunky theme.  I am designing and making everything from my dress to my girls dresses and just about everything else. Only a few things will be bought. 

Post # 4
4582 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I just wanted to say I love both of your theme ideas! Enchanted Forest sounds awesome… and I wanted a Halloween wedding so bad – I wanted to make it a masquerade ball with those old timey masks on sticks as the favors… but alas, Fiance just wasn’t into it.

Post # 5
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Let’s see…

– We saw eachother before the ceremony (which I highly recommend)

– Both my dad AND my mom walked me down the aisle

– Our wedding music wasn’t really traditional at all

– We didn’t have a meal at our reception, just desserts

– We didn’t have a DJ…or alcohol


Post # 6
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yeah my music will be gothic metal from the ceremony to the reception. The reception will be a Halloween Ball so the theme still works for the music.

Post # 9
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

for me the most non tradional would have been the old toothless homeless guy with a empty wine bottle and spoon that was in the band

slept together the night before
no wedding dress
no photographer
dunked my head in a bucket of water minutes before our wedding
went scuba diving immediately after the wedding

Post # 10
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re doing a first look. Non-matching bridesmaids dresses (lbd of their choice). Contemporary music for the processional and recesional.  No ending time for the reception, it’ll just kinda flow into after-party. There’s probably other items, but those are the ones my grandma gave me grief for.

Post # 11
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

– We ran away in the morning with his two kids and my brother and his brother as witnesses

– Had lunch at a non-classy asain take-away shop ๐Ÿ™‚ dine-in ๐Ÿ™‚ in our wedding clothes… was great ๐Ÿ™‚ we always go there so they knew us and were like “why are you all dressed up?” LOL plus we got extra’s like drinks and prawn cracks lol just little things

– We had a BBQ dinner that night with our friends and family to tell everyone what we had done that morning ๐Ÿ™‚

– basically not a reception just a party…

– We weren’t going to have a cake but my mum was sneaky LOL


I wish i could live that day over and over and over again <3

Post # 13
2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

man, I wish I could pay an officiant with art!

we’re doing a fusion ceremony with several cultural and religious influences including a Celtic handfasting as well as a contemporary interpretation of Saptapadi (Seven steps) that will take place later/after the ceremony.

there won’t be a procession or an ‘aisle’ per se, but rather the ceremony space will be circular (from the four compass points & representative of The Way[Taoism]).

I won’t be ‘given away’ or escorted to the altar, and neither will my partner be, we will meet each other there as a half way point, or go together.(eta: my partner just said he wanted to moonwalk down the aisle..I am not sure whether he is serious or joking haha).

No veil, as it is not an arranged marriage & we already live together.

No sit down meal, just a mid afternoon ‘snack'(appetifs, finger foods etc) with a bevy of desserts.

No dance floor and no special dances ie: father/daughter, mother/son etc etc. No DJ [ipod!] or MC, No speeches.

Later in the evening (after the ‘reception’) we will travel to our island by boat and have a celebratory pyre(this is when we will have the Saptapadi ritual), and musical festivities much along the lines of a pagan solstice celebration.

Posed photos will be minimal, and not the traditional brides family/grooms family/attendants stuff.

eta: we will be spending the night before together, and not adhering to superstitions about it being ‘bad luck’ to see each other before the ceremony.

 oh and! no tosses [garter/flowers] no flower girl or ring bearer, likely a tea/knee length dress unless I wake up one day having been visited by a dress fairy and find a typical wedding gown in my closet.

Post # 14
503 posts
Busy bee

Planning on getting married on the beach with 10 or under guests. No chairs, just gathering around, my dress will probably be tea length, and our reception will be dining with our guests at a restaurant by the water…not a planned reception, just yummy dinner on an open deck ๐Ÿ™‚  I love the simplicity of it!

Post # 15
1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Oh, so much… but some of my favorite non-traditional things were:

– Wedding party was all kids (our seven nieces and nephews, all under 12)

– Instead of a flower girl, we had a “ring princess” – she carried a starfish wand and we tied the rings to the ribbons

– Guests created the aisle by forming two rows, and then they gathered around us (standing) for the ceremony

– I walked half-way by myself, and then my groom walked (actually, “jogged” :)) toward me and we walked the rest of the way together

– As soon as we were declared married, we went straight into our first dance (it was a sunset beach wedding and we danced to “Into the Dusk” by Ben Harper)

– We served Key lime pie instead of wedding cake

– No garter throw/bouquet throw/cake cutting

A few pics:

Our Wedding Party

Our Sunset Dance

Our Ring Princess with her Starfish Wand

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