Post # 1
I just got married about 2 weeks ago. We have talked about babies, my husband pretty much is ok with anything – although he agrees that we should wait at least one year. I will be turning 30 this year. We just bought a house and we have so much to do, paint, decorate, furniture shopping, etc. My plan is to wait until the house is at least ‘done’ so we can then try for a baby. I’ve heard that some have trouble getting pregnant and I could be trying for even a whole year before getting knocked up so I don’t know what to do!! Any advice? and share your plans, expectations, etc.
Post # 3
we said we would wait at least a year – so far so good! I stopped taking BC right after our honeymoon and for a while we were just pulling and praying but now I’m charting – i would HIGHLY suggest looking into it – not only does it tell you when you are most likely to get pregnant or not but it also really helps you learn your cycles and your body. We will celebrate a year of marriage in February but i think we are still going to wait a while longer, the past 10+ months have been amazing and i’ve loved just being a wife. I think we will start trying at the end of summer.
Post # 4
If you’re worried about conceiving, I’d start looking into fertility awareness now. My husband and I have used FAM for several years as birth control, but it’s also the same information you’d need to know for trying for kids. It’s very relieving to know how your body works, and I have a lot more respect for my body now. I think all women should know the details of their cycle!
My goal is to get at least one book published before we have kids. I want my writing/editing career established, and I want our finances rock solid. Other than that…I suppose we’d like to do more traveling, have a house, and get a safer car that isn’t 13 years old.
Maybe in three or so years we’ll start trying. I’m approaching my mid-twenties, and I don’t want to push pregnancy back and back until it becomes unhealthy for me, or unsafe for our childrens’ health.
Post # 5
Darling Husband and I would like to wait 2-4 years. We would like to finish school, have money in savings, and have a house;.
Post # 6
We waited two years before trying. We got married, bought our condo six weeks later, and then went on our honeymoon about 3-4 months after that. Both of us really wanted time to be a married couple before our lives were about TTC, getting pregnant, pregnancy, and baby. We’ve had a lot of fun in the past two years. We also dated 5 years before getting married too. We didn’t take that into account when we were planning our first couple of married years together.
Post # 7
We aren’t married yet, but don’t plan on trying until 2 years after the wedding. I’ll probably go off BC and start FAM/condoms 6 months before then to give my body time to regulate.
Post # 8
There have been so many changes in our life plans this week. Fiance is looking to take a job locally and is pushing for marriage in the next two months EEK! He is willing to put off TTC til after “my wedding” in August but then wants to TTC. He says he can hear my biological clock ticking lol. We won’t have a house yet as he will need to have time in on the job before we can get a mortgage. So it will be moving to a bigger place, marriage, wedding, TTC, then house. We are all out of order 😛
Post # 9
we said we would wait a year but ended up getting pregnant within the first month after we got married lol.. If you actually want to be pregnant in year maybe you can start trying in 6months?
Post # 10
I am 30 and my husband is 29. My husband wants to wait another year or two before trying, and I just want to “plan” for 2 kids by the time I’m 35. When we first had that discussion, I started to stress about my ability to get pregnant with a healthy baby. At my annual Gyne appointment, I discussed it with my doctor. He asked about our individual medical histories (both mine and my husband’s) and my family medical history (genetic and my mom’s history of ability to get pregant). Thankfully he said that as long as I am not waiting 5+ years to start, I should have no forseeable problem. Of course, that is no guarantee, but it put me at ease to just enjoy being a newlywed before becoming a parent. I highly recommend you discuss your family planning with your doctor to ease your mind.
Post # 11
A long, long way off for us (the wedding is April 2013) but our plan is to wait AT LEAST a couple years. We’ll be 23 when we get married, so right now we plan to wait until 25/26 then evaluate the situation. Right now, we’re also renting, so I’d like to get a house prior to TTC.
Post # 12
We decided to wait a year after the wedding to start trying – for pretty much the same reasons everyone else stated (enjoy being married, get settled, etc.). I went off BC 5 months before our “start trying” date, and after 3 condom mishaps (seriously, I can’t believe those things have more than a 50% succerss rate!) we decided to just go with the flow about 2 months before our planned date since our barrier method wasn’t doing anything anyway. We got pregnant within 2 months (I got my BFP 3 days before our anniversary).
ETA: I was 30 when we started trying.
Post # 13
Fiance and I would like to wait three or four years. We would like to enjoy being married for a while, and we’ve talked about living abroad for a bit first.
Post # 14
We are getting married in June, Our 5 year anniversary is Feb 9th. So we will be together over 5 years when we get married. I am 28 (turning 29 a few weeks after the wedding) and Fiance just turned 30. I bought my (our) house when I was 21, we have lived together for almost 4 years. We are going to TTC right after the wedding. I am having serious baby fever, all of our friends have kiddos, and Fiance is always saying he is ready!
Post # 15
We already bought our house this past summer and it was in such move-in condition that we haven’t even painted. In fact, there is already a “baby” room all done up in kids colours! I just turned 30 2 weeks ago and we are both ready. We plan to start trying as soon as we’re married – I’ll be going off the pill in June!
Post # 16
We woud like to wait 2-3 years until Fiance is out of graduate school.