(Closed) What is (or was) your engagement length… and why?

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: What is (or was) your engagement length?
    No length because we eloped : (0 votes)
    under one month : (1 votes)
    0 %
    one through three months : (5 votes)
    2 %
    three to six months : (28 votes)
    9 %
    six to nine months : (28 votes)
    9 %
    nine to twelve months : (47 votes)
    16 %
    twelve to to fifteen months : (50 votes)
    17 %
    fifteen months to eighteen months : (49 votes)
    16 %
    more than eighteen months : (91 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    6.5 months. We graduated from college in May, and once we got settled into our new apartment and paid down the little student loan he has, we got engaged. We don’t want a big wedding, just a small planned elopement on the beach. So it’s not like we needed a year or two to plan. Fiance is a teacher so we want a summer wedding (and future anniversary trips), but we live in Texas and couldn’t do an outdoor wedding in July or August. So we came up with June 5, the Sunday after he gets off for summer break.

    Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We had always planned on a long engagement to save money. We were engaged for 2 years and honestly didn’t even do anything the first year except pick a date (which we had to change anyway, lol). It was really nice to just enjoy that fiancé time πŸ™‚ 

    Post # 4
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    We got engaged in April last year, and it was way too fast to get married that summer, which automatically meant our engagement would at least be a year, and we wanted a summer or early fall wedding, so that automatically extended it past a year. We played around with dates, found the venue we loved, and settled on Labor Day Weekend so our family and friends wouldn’t need time off work to attend. So we just stumbled into a 16-month engagement. It wasn’t a big deal to us to have a longer engagement, because we wanted to enjoy being engaged and didn’t want to rush planning. Also, we’d been together seven years by our engagement, so what was another year and a half? Most people we know have had an engagement of a similar length.

     

    I have lovvvveeddd having a long engagement. It takes a lot of stress out of planning and has helped us relish this last phase before marriage.

    Post # 5
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Our engagement will be 22 months. We got engaged in August and decided we wanted a late spring early summer wedding. This upcoming spring just felt like it was rushing it and we are in no rush. It’s forever so why rush it? And this way we can make sure we get the wedding we want πŸ™‚

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    submart:  2.5 years. There wasn’t really a rush to get married. My parents wanted to pay for our wedding and my mom had just started a new job, so they saved up for about a year (without dipping into their emergency savings) to pay. We didn’t mind waiting and it was less stress to just have time to plan and figure things out without a critical time crunch. 

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We were engaged from October to very early December of the same year. We got married for love, and I needed health insurance too, so the sooner the better in our case. 

    Post # 8
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    Our engagement will be about 15 months. Partly to save up some money but also because our date all depends on when he can get leave time. 

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

    8 months. We wanted to get married on our anniversary, and had already been together for over 7 years. 

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    11 months. I always had thought a year was a good length, and we decided to get married in December, so it just worked out πŸ™‚

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee

    northshorebride:  Haha. I got engaged the same month as you and also wanted a summer or fall wedding so we had a 5 month engagement and got married last September!

    Our logic was that we didn’t want to wait over a year to get married or get married in a miserable Chicago winter/spring so we jumped on an early September date. We had a smaller morning wedding which meant there were more venues available than if we tried to pull off an evening event.

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Our engagement is 6 months. We got engaged March 2016 and will get married this September, 2016. We’ve already been together for over four years and I’m a person who easily stresses – so it’s easier for me to just stress for 6 months than stress for over a year. πŸ™‚

    Post # 13
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    287 posts
    Helper bee

    It will be a few days under two years when we get married. Essentially he wanted a house before a wedding (which I agree with) but I wanted a commitment first (engagement). Got engaged in August ’14, got a house April ’15, started planning from July ’15 and will be married this August πŸ™‚

    Post # 14
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    143 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    We were engaged in February and already had a cruise planned for June so we just decided to get married then!  Roll the wedding and honeymoon all into one.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    2 years and 2 months. We had only been together for 11 months when he proposed so we weren’t in a rush, plus I wanted to get married on my dad’s birthday (he had passed away before I met DH) and it just so happened that it fell on a Saturday in 2014. I really loved having a long engagement, although in the beginning it seemed like a long time to wait! 

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