(Closed) What is the #1 argument you have with your SO?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

My parents definitely. My mom is very overbearing and wants to see us every weekend. His parents are very hands off and we see them once a month or so…

But even when it doesn’t have to do with how often we see them, he always seems very resistent to accepting any help from them which irks me. But definitely the #1 thing we fight about!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Our argument is the same as yours!! I like “nesting” as we call it.  I’ll have my blankets, pillows, magazines, newspapers, and books all around me and then I move to the next spot and start again.  One day my Fiance counted, and I had 13 books, 3 magazines, and 3 piles of newspaper scattered around the living room. 

Also, my spending habits.  I tend to waste my money on stupid stuff like the Hamm (from Toy Story) pez dispenser I just HAD to have.  He does not like clutter, knick knacks, unnecessary items displayed.  So I bring it to work and put them on my desk 🙂  I also eat out at lunch almost every day which is such a waste of money, while he brings things from home and is frugal when he grabs snacks out.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We argue about where to eat when we go out.  Isn’t that lame.  LOL. We don’t argue much about serious stuff.  Lately we have been bickering a little about wedding stuff, mostly his mom adding people at random…

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@JuneBride_26June2010: We pretty much have the same argument, except we are picky about different things.

He hates when I leave stuff lying around on the table/ottoman, but he thinks it’s totally fine to leave dishes in the sink, wet towels on the bed, and and cr*p all over his dresser!

Also, I have to remind him 800 times to do something (i.e. did you ask your frat brother in NC to be your groomsman yet? Have you sent the wedding gift to your frat brother who got married in May? etc) And yes… I asked him BOTH those things last night and he had done neither… sigh.

The groomsman situation is especially awkward since the frat brother he has yet to ask to be his groomsman is married and I already asked his wife to be my bridesmaid last week. She is having to keep a secret from him so he doesn’t feel left out thinking I asked her but Fiance isn’t asking him and she can’t tell him because she doesn’t want to ruin the moment of Fiance asking him!

ETA: Last night when I asked nicely if he’d done these things yet, he looked at me with super cute puppy dog eyes and went, “I need help.” So I guess we don’t really “argue” about these things any more. They are just a running joke.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Same thing with us, we argue about * toilet seat, *skip or forget to tell me things, * forget things,dates, times, * his sister getting in our relationship.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

His cell phone.  We don’t really argue about it because I have chosen to ignore it.  But it irritates me.  He is either texting or surfing the internet on his phone constantly.  It feels sometimes like we are never truly alone.  He checks his phone as soon as he wakes up in the morning.  He even takes it with him into the bathroom.

He knows it annoys me so he has cut down on it…a little.  I have chosen to not make an issue of it because he is so wonderful to me in every other way that I feel bad giving him a hard time about it.  So we really don’t argue about it…but it is my single biggest source of annoyance with him.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Neva: Haha, my Fiance does that too. We were watching the football game on TV last night (mainly due to him wanting to watch it, although I was fine with it). I look over and he’s PLAYING CHESS on his phone. Not even LOOKING at the TV.

Then whenever he hears the announcers start going crazy he’s asking me what happened. It was all I could do not to take his phone away and say “If you were actually WATCHING and not playing with this you would KNOW what happened.”

I’ve instituted a rule that if he misses something on TV due to playing with his phone, it’s tough luck for him. Maybe he’ll learn… but probably not.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

So stupid but..#1 what are we having for dinner. I’m a VERY picky eater. I don’t eat any seafood, or chicken…so it makes things hard. He is always pissed cause we eat the SAME THING EVERY WEEK.

#2 cleaning. I’m more of a tidy person…I like to see everything in it’s place. He is more of a clean freak…no dishes in the sink (yet he doesn’t want to be the one to do them??).

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Naiexoxo:  I hate the “forget to tell you things.”  We’ve had issues with that too.  But I realize he seriously DOES forget.  It’s not intentional. It’s still annoying.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Our #1 is cleaning. FH is VERY VERY messy but is in denial.

#2 prob whats for dinner, I cook every night and FH is very picky so we eat the same thing everyday or I have 2 cook 2 meals

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

It used to be the topic of where we’re going to live in the short term, but now he’s 100% on board with moving so that’s not an issue anymore. (I knew that would happen By The Way, the second he saw what our life could be like in Philly he had a total change of heart).

Most recently it’s been over housework, he’s stressed from working so many hours during his busy time (sept/oct) if he comes home and there are dirty dishes in the sink or if he has to run any errands he gets really cranky and mad. What’s worse is he bottles it up and acts like he’s OK with it at the time, then it all comes out a few days later like an explosion. I wasn’t very understanding at first, so we would butt heads especially since I didn’t like the way he communicated his issue, but I’ve kind of come around and made an effort to pitch in more for his sanity. Of course, things aren’t as busy for him anymore recently so he’s been doing more at home anyway adn the problem has kind of fixed itself.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I complain to him about eating to fast – it bugs me and him finishing 3/4 of his food before I even sit down!

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@KatNYC2011: That is too funny! He wanted to watch the game and played chess on his phone? LOL Oh my gosh…

We have the stupidest fights and they are always about the stupidest things. So stupid that I can’t even remember any good examples!

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