Post # 17
I think the size of your ring is just fine and your ring is gorgeous! I would be offended if someone asked me a question like that about my engagement ring! To me I think it is more important to think about what my engagement ring means and my relationship with Fiance. I know I will never have the biggest diamond, fanciest wedding, most perfect children etc etc… Life is too short to worry about what other people think of you and your life!
Post # 18
Mine is 1ct and I’m 20 (he’s 21) so any larger and everyone would assume it’s fake, though it’s not. We stressed a lot to pay it off but we did it and now we’re working on savings. 🙂
I think yours looks perfect for your hand size… I can’t believe someone thought it was small. I think I read that the avg is between .5 and 1.5, and if that’s the average, then people have above and below that. It should depend on what looks nice and what you can afford. Your ring is beautiful. Some people have no manners, either. Just remember that when people say things like that, it’s a reflection of them and not you.
Post # 19
in my area, my one carat is on the large size! it really depends on where you live and who you hang around…
Post # 20
My Fiance got me a solitaire that was just under a full carat — and at the time I was disappointed because I wanted bigger. Yet, what was important to me was getting the wedding ring I wanted. I can always upgrade my center diamond later :]
Post # 21
My centre stone is just under a carat. We got a fabulous qualiy stone. When the jeweler told us that going from 0.91 to 1ct would add $$$$$$$ to the price of a stone that would look exactly the same to a casual observer, we went with 0.91. I’m 30, I live in NYC and people tell me all the time how gorgeous my ring is. It looks large enough to me. Any bigger, and I just don’t think it would work. Of course when I go home to London, all my friends think my ring is enormous. None of them have over 0.5 ct.
Post # 22
That’s pretty rude of someone to say to you…
I think the “norm” is for it to be full of meaning and love…as corny as that sounds. Most people who make stupid comments like that have no idea what goes into an e-ring and the differences between cuts/clarity/color, etc. A 1-ct nearly flawless is not the same as a 1-ct E or w/e the letters are. I can’t keep it all straight!
I think your ring looks beautiful on your hand and as long as you’re happy, that’s all that really matters!
Post # 23
I think size varies with place and age. Mostly age — the older you are when you get engaged, the more you can afford. I have a 1.1 ct ring, but it has great coloring, the “hearts and arrows” cut, etc. It was a fortune.
Fiance is 30, and has a pretty good job, plus we live in DC, where income is a tad higher than other parts of the country.
There’s no way in hell if we had gotten engaged 5 years ago he would be able to afford that.
Post # 24
First of all, your friends are rude for saying that it’s small. Point blank. That being said as others have mentioned the ‘average’ depends on where you live and factors such as income and age groups. If you can’t afford a 5 carat ring, you don’t buy one! Or you buy a smaller ring with excellent clarity instead of just getting a larger ring. My ring is a bit bigger than a carat I think but I honestly don’t really know because the size doesn’t matter to me.
Post # 25
It totally depends on geography, I work in finance in Manhattan and you see 2ct rings (at least) everywhere
Post # 26
I have no idea what average is. I do know that once you get to 1 carat the price goes waaay up. So I know a lot of people go for ‘at least 1 carat’. Mine is slightly over 2 and I think that’s bigger than average, but not in NYC.
Post # 27
um, my ring is only a little over a carat but i know it cost more than a few of my friends who have 1.2-1.5 ct’s.
and that’s totally rude of someone to say to you. it’s also strange to me because out of my entire office (mostly women, and we all make decent salaries), i have the biggest ring. i always feel blinged out here..can’t wait until i get a blingy wedding band haha .
Post # 28
I like this sentiment from the article “The fact of the matter is that a diamond engagement ring should suit the individual it is being given to and should be affordable to the person buying it. The true purpose surrounding it is the thought and love with which it is given.”
Post # 29
vistagirl, i could not have said it better! that’s a wonderful statement! thank you!
Post # 30
I totally agree with vistagirl. That is a wonderful sentiment! I also think egb is right- ring sizes will look different on different fingers. My ring is .3ct or so, and (especially in person) it looks like a good size for my fingers. 1ct would look HUGE on my fingers in comparison.
As far as average size is concerned, I think that while there is an average ring size (its a statistical concept), its a pretty useless concept here. Each couple needs to evaluate their own situation and find the right balance between style and affordability. If that’s a lovely .3ct ring like mine, then great! If it’s a 3ct ring, also great! Smaller, larger, diamond, non-diamond- it doesn’t matter. None of those can make a ring objectively better because there is no objectively “best” ring. Your friends are being silly in trying to play a comparison game.
Post # 31
You should have added a poll and asked for what people have… mine center is over 1 ct and its the largest of anyone I know… so thats above average for people I know.