Post # 47
- Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA
I used to work for a jewelry store. When men came in looking for engagement rings, we usually started out by showing them 1 carat solitaires unless they already had something specific in mind. That said, I think having a ring you absolutely love is more important than the size.
When Jim and I went shopping for a ring for me, I knew exactly the style I wanted. I wanted an emerald cut three stone ring with baguettes on the sides. The first ring we tried on was 3 carats. GORGEOUS ring…but huge and gaudy looking on my small hands. Then we tried on the same style ring that was 1 carat. GORGEOUS ring and it complimented my hands much better. We decided to upgrade the center stone with a certfied 1/2 carat diamond to enhance the step of the stone sizes.
While waiting for the stone we selected to arrive, I asked the jeweler to get in a 2 carat version of my ring, and I’m so glad I did. I didn’t like the way the 2 carat ring looked on my hand as well as the 1 carat ring, and once the 1/2 carat center stone was in place, I absolutely LOVED my ring.
It was the smallest of all the rings we looked at, but it was the perfect ring for me. Jim could have easily afforded a much more expensive, larger stone, but it wouldn’t have been the perfect ring for me.
When I show people my ring, I don’t ask if they want to see my ring…I ask if they want to admire my ring. That’s how much I love it!
Don’t worry about the size, the quality, or any of that stuff… The most important thing is that you are totally thrilled with it.
Post # 48
Your ring is lovely!
Here’s my story . . . I’m middle-aged. For my first marriage, I did not have an e-ring, so no diamond (I did not want to support Apartheid at the time; also, my fiance was broke). 🙂
I remarried two years ago (on Monday). My then-fiance bought me a diamond engagement ring and wedding band from Tiffany’s. (I really wanted a diamond, after not having one the first time.) We saw some beautiful sparkly ones at Helzbergs, too, but he was pretty set on Tiffany’s for the quality! So who am I to complain . . . 😉 My ring is about .6 carat, I think, with more diamonds in the band. It’s lovely, and he was very proud and happy to buy me a high-quality Tiffany ring. I have more diamonds plus tanzanites in my wedding band.
I’ve shown it to friends and not been sure they were impressed . . . though they all made appropriate polite noises. 😉 And I am in the Midwest, too, but a lot of women seem to have bigger rings than mine. But I don’t care if they are impressed or not. I love my ring, because he lovingly helped me pick it out and wanted to get it for me so badly that he made payments on it for like a year to afford it.
Long way around to say, I agree with everyone else here. Size does not matter; it’s the love that matters. 🙂 Enjoy your ring!
Post # 49
When we went ring shopping, I tried on several different size stone rings. I had a few picked out, but they looked too “common” to me. Almost every ring I tried on looked like one that a friend already had. I wanted something unique and I finally found it. I have not been able to find another like it anywhere. I didn’t care how big the diamond was, I just wanted it to be different. My FH could have affforded a bigger diamond, but I would much rather put the money into fixing up my home. I own, he rents. We will have a blended family, so putting another bedroom in my house was more important than having a huge diamond. I have not gotten any comments on how small it is, they usually say how different it is and they have never seen another like it. As long as you LOVE your ring, who cares what anyone else says.
Post # 50
My ring’s center stone is .61 ct. It seems that that is “big” in the Midwest (hardly ever see anyone with something over 1 ct, I don’t think I’ve ever seen a 2-3 ct center stone in-person on someone’s finger).
It also helps that I have small fingers, size 3.75. I thought I wanted 1ct, but trying them on, I then changed my desire to around looking at around .50.-75 ct because I thought the 1ct looked too big and overwhelming on me.
Here’s the website’s sample ring, shown with a 1ct center stone.
And my ring on my finger, with a .61 ct center stone.
Post # 51
Mine is a 1 ct stone and 1 1/3 ctw. I’m 5’11” and my fingers are really long. I got a wider band which I shopped for with my Fiance and then left the center up to him.
I think the 1 ct fits the band and my fingers really well… but sometimes I feel self conscious when people see it and make a really exaggerated “WOAH” remark. To me, it’s just right, and it’s not the best stone ever… but it’s perfect for us. To be fair… I think the prongs and setting actually make it look bigger…
Post # 52
acey, what a beautiful ring! i love how unique it is!!
and heatherrobin, it really is a beauty!
i do think it is wise to go quality over quantity first..however, to the bees who were financially able to go with both..that is wonderful too!! i think taking into account of ages, professions, etc all make a difference..and hey, i am a waiting bee..so i am drooling over the fact your men finally did the deed!!! hehehe!
seriously, they were all done with love and consideration…so enjoy!!! 😉
Post # 53
Mine’s 1.1 in the center, with .8 on the side stones, and then some smaller stones on the sides of that. It is also extremely white. I’ve seen bigger, smaller, different settings, etc. Honestly, it is as individual as your clothing, hair and other accessories! Settings also make a big difference. If I block out my side stones with my fingers and look like a solitaire, it looks huge compared to how it loosks with the side stones.
Post # 54
It depends on your area. Where I live .25 to a carat diamond is normal. Anything over a carat is considered huge around here!
Post # 55
In my experience the people who make the most comments about carat size are those who aren’t engaged or married and haven’t been ring shopping–they don’t know what the market on diamonds is like at all.
I have a 1.25 center stone, 1.5 tcw, and I’ve heard comments all over the map. From “I won’t accept anything under 2 carats” and “Oh, how cute” (with patronizing grin) to “Holy cow!” I just try to block it all out now.
My ring is perfect– for me.
Post # 56
I have no clue what the national average is. Mine is 1 carat total – .75 center stone and .25 side stones. I would have gotten a bigger center stone, but my fiance chose to purchase the store’s “special cut,” which I agreed with him doing. It’s more sparkly than a normal diamond.
Post # 57
my ring is a 1/2 carat but is a completly colorless dimond and almost no inperfections princess cut. yes we could have done bigger then a carat for the price he paid but the big the diamond at a lesser price means a cloudy diamond and i would rather have a diamond that sparkles with ever move of my hand
Post # 58
Do you like your ring? Because that’s the biggest consideration.
I am among the first of my friends to get engaged at 22. I picked something that I loved – a 0.43 solitaire. It’s simple and elegant and completely me.
My friends with small rings told me my diamond was huge. My family who typically gets married later in life (around 30) told me my ring was “cute,” which in family talk means “Holy crap, that’s tiny.” It bugged me for a little bit, but then I got over it because no one else has to wear it but me.
Post # 59
I think your ring is gorgeous and suits your finger nicely. It looks much bigger than .75ct on you!
Post # 60
I love your ring! Its beautiful! No I dont think your ring is too small at all. Rude friend! I have a friend who has a 3 carat ring and to her everything is small. My ring is .5 center and.5 in accents. We had originally picked out a larger ring but the few thousand difference was just not something I wanted to go with. Im not a jewelry gal. You want to spend the big bucks? Buy me a car! At least I can use that! haha
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Post # 61
i think the stone size is important. In that it has to fit you and your personality!
I was honestly embarrassed by my ring until i started to get used to it. Now that I am I love it… (i still hate that people stare) but how do you tell someone who you love that you are embarrassed by a ring they are so proud of choosing all by themselves!
I have small 4.75 fingers with a 3ct solitaire. and live in a small western town. EVERYONE commented and noticed at first (the grocery store clerk included)
I was completely surprised by the proposal so obviously had zero input! I think if you love your ring and more importantly what it represents, then who cares what size it is!