What is the best way to serve food at a wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Food
Post # 31
623 posts
Busy bee

I love buffets! Sure they are not as fancy as plated courses but I love the choice of food. I dont get food envy because, stupid as it is, I also get anxious wanting what I see someone else have and wanting that food option. ha! Yep dumb I know but come on ladies I am not alone here!

I also love that I dont feel hungry or wish I had more food and can drink knowing it wont all go to my head.


The more food the better

Post # 32
1316 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

you need food, really at any hour, cuz everyone eats at different times.

Ie: my lunch is around 1-2 pm. my dinner time is around 9pm. that doesnʻt mean i donʻt snack in between but i do expect food at a wedding that last longer than 3hrs total regardless of times.

and personally, buffet is my preferred style cuz iʻm so picky. I canʻt eat salad and i dont like deseert, im not a big meat eater, but that pasta/rice dish is getting demolished so giving me a plated meal with pre-determined proportions is not ideal to me. BUT good food is good food  as long as there is food 🙂


Post # 33
4237 posts
Honey bee

To me, heavy hors d’oeuvres are like…meatballs or sliders or bacon wrapped scallops. Not fruit and veg and chips. Those are pretty light!

Could you go with a buffet rather than plated meal to keep costs down?

Post # 34
2132 posts
Buzzing bee

Holy heck! We started our cocktail hour with platters of club sandwiches and rice paper rolls – 5 kinds of sandwich and 4 kinds of Rice paper roll. 

We then served 6 different passed hors d’oeuvres, before moving to dinner and serving dinner rolls, entree, Main with 4 sides, then cake. Trust me when I say that people definitely eat at weddings! 

The wedding I was at on the weekend didn’t have enough hors d’oeuvres, there was no entree, and the Main was served really late. I was fucking fuming and didn’t enjoy the entire night. Whenever I think of their wedding I think: disaster. 

Please feed your guests properly. Even if it isn’t at a meal time chips and salsa, and fruit and vegetables isn’t enough. 

I also prefer plated. On our wedding night everyone ate at the same time and enjoyed being served. The wedding I was just at had a buffet, the first few tables were finished well before mine was even called. I saw people from the first table go for SECONDS before   most of the other tables had been served. 


Post # 35
3838 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

People definitely eat at weddings. 

We had a plated 3 course dinner and of course everyone ate it! Unless your wedding is clearly a morning or afternoon tea you need to serve enough food for a proper meal. If your parents don’t want to pay for it you’ll have to. If it was dinner time and there were fruit and chips out I’d assume that was the appetiser and I’d be waiting for the real food to come out!

Post # 36
7910 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Fruits/veggies and chips/salsa are definitely not heavy appetizers. If you’re wanting something simple and economical, sandwiches might be a good option for you. 

Post # 37
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Update: My fiancee asked me to add…they did what your parents suggested at his Aunt’s second wedding, and everybody ended up getting food after the wedding was done because everyone was starving.  

Post # 38
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

It’s better to have too much food than too little! Where I am (UK) weddings tend to be 10-12 hours long.

Typically there will be ceremony between 12-2pm, followed by the wedding breakfast at about 4pm, this is usually a 3 course sit down dinner, followed by wedding cake. This will be followed by drinks and dancing, evening guests will arrive around 8pm, and a cold buffet or a hog roast will be served around 9pm, often with wedding cake served then too. Party usually finishes around midnight.

If your wedding takes place during a meal time/s then you need to serve a meal, or meals. Serving nibbles like your parents are suggesting can cost a fortune to do properly, you may find it cheaper to serve a buffet, or a plated meal instead. A cake and punch reception could work well, especially if you have an afternoon wedding. Afternoon tea weddings aren’t unheard of in the UK –  tea, sandwiches, cakes, scones with clotted cream and jam, little tartlets etc. – yum! An afternoon ceremony lets people get a full English breakfast, have a snack before the ceremony and then enjoy cake for the wedding breakfast.

Post # 39
1892 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

jesstheglambert :  If your wedding is at dinner time, serve dinner. Its that simple. 

Post # 40
863 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I’m with you, I don’t agree that people don’t eat a lot at weddings. I would also consider chips and salsa and veggies and fruits ‘light’ appetizers rather than heavy apps.  When I think heavy apps I think more hot foods, meat-based things, richer items, etc.

Post # 41
267 posts
Helper bee

Idk who your guests are but I will eat almost anywhere. I’m curious to know where you parents got this very inaccurate idea.

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