(Closed) What is the best way to…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Can you not just leave the dog for 24hrs? Feed it inmediately before & after, give him a few toys & a bed to sleep on? Have a neighbour check up on it? 

Sorry, I know it’s not the response you were hoping for but I would be seriously pissed off if someone had called to cancel, VERY last minute, with that as their excuse. I would imagine that the bride has probably paid for both your meals already. I’d do everything possible to be there, RSVPing yes and then cancelling last minute is a low blow in my books and will not go down well with the bride.

If you must cancel, you should probably lie LOL

Post # 4
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had a few people have to cancel the WEEK before my wedding, and that was enough time to make a few small adjustments with our caterer.  As long as you let her know sooner rather than later, she should be able to alter her headcount.  Please do be courteous though and give her a heads up ASAP since most people need to give a final count two weeks prior and a final confirmation 48 hours prior.  I’m sure she’ll understand 🙂

ETA- I have three dogs, one of whom has separation anxiety and does not do well when left alone for more than a work day.  So, if a friend in a similar situation had dog sitting issues & had to cancel, I suppose I’d be more understanding than most considering I have been in that position before.

Post # 5
13010 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@KellyLouise:  I agree.  Can a neighbor let the dog out and feed it?  It’s very rude to cancel on a wedding last minute.  If someone cancelled on me after RSVPing because they failed to make adequate arrangements for their pet, I’d be pretty offended and hurt.  You knew when you RSVPed that you’d have to do something with the dog.  You should have been more clear with your parents about the weekend, or you should have made kennel reservsations up front.

Post # 6
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Aren’t there other kennels? We have like 10 right in my area.

My dog’s favorite way to spend the weekend without us is with a dog walker. She likes to stay at home and the dog walker comes 4X a day to take her out and pet her.

Post # 8
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

As a dog owner and someone without reliable friends or neighbors, I understand your problem. This is really the exact same problem as a parent whose babysitter cancels at the last minute and can’t find a new one. A child can’t be left alone for 24 hours and in most cases neither can a dog. Just call the bride and explain that your plans for having the dog taken care of fell through and you won’t be able to make it. Your other option is to know your dog’s max time for being alone and only go for part of the wedding.

Post # 9
9648 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

let your friend know ASAP, hopefully she will understand 🙂 i wouldn’t want to leave my dogs alone for 24 hours either, and they aren’t crated

Post # 10
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would say you need to come up with alternative arrangements.  I mean, seriously?  You can’t go to a wedding because you can’t find a plan for your dog?  I had 4 people cancel on coming to my wedding at the last minute, which meant over $1000 wasted.

ETA: I hope you are planning to still send her a gift

Post # 12
814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Crated? As in… he lives in a crate? Can’t you leave it open so he can come and go? Also you wont be gone 24 hours, weddings don’t take 20 hours.

Post # 13
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’d find a pet sitter who can come in and walk the dog. I think it’s getting to be too late to cancel. If you are dead set on cancelling, then you need to call the bride today and see when her final numbers are due. If she’s already turned them in, then it’s time to give a very generous cash gift to offset the cost. I’m sure some would disagree with this, but you know how expensive weddings are and you can imagine how ticked off you’d be at wasting money on people who don’t follow through.

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