Post # 1
The title says it all, tell me your stories if you’re comfortable with that. I’m not exactly the most forgiving person in the world so this is a question I’m pretty curious about now that my wedding is right around the corner. This question does not just apply to spouses, though, it’s for family and friends too.
And why did you choose to forgive them? Do you think you made the right decision? Why or why not?
Post # 3
I forgave Fiance for drinking and driving and getting in a car accident. We are still going through the legal part and its hard shit to deal with. Find out in June if he has to go away for abit or not, but the night I picked him up from the hospital I forgave him.
He has quit drinking, and even our relationship has improved ten fold.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I forgave my Fiance for kissing another girl during his college orientation. I absolutely think that was the right decision. I’m not exactly the most forgiving person either (there are a lot of burned bridges that lead to me) so I get it. What happened?
Post # 5
My parents. I can say that I total forgive them for all the hard times as a kid. And things were really bad. They weren’t together but on each of thier own seperate houses but they did the best they could, even though their best wasn’t good enough for most standards including my own.
They made bad descisions and did bad things that affected my life as a child in a negative way but it also turned me into the adult I am today. Did I lose out on an idyllic childhood? Definatley. Did I let that stop me from growing into a better woman, or parent? NO.
I am a firm believer that, there is a time limit that you can blame your past and your upbringing and harbor anger and resentment towards people who may have caused you pain. At some point in order to move on, and grow up, you must learn to accept and perhaps not totally forgive, but acknowledge the past for what it is and nothing you can do to change it. You are in charge of You. No matter how bad it was, someone out there had it worse and all the crying and feeling sorry for yourself is not going to change that.
they are not who they were, these days. I am jealous that my 11 years younger sister, didn’t know the mom I did, but I am glad that my children know her as she is now.
Our relationship is strained and I have days and moments that trigger me back to anger. I have PTSD from alot of the things, but I realize her upbringing wasn’t great, and my fathers wasn’t great and they were much younger than I am now while raising me.
Post # 6
I forgave my daughter’s biological father for leaving her and choosing to not be in her life permanently. He hasn’t seen her or contacted her in more than 8 years.
I made the right decision because his behaviour and choices are not something I can control. What I can control are my reactions and feelings about it, and I feel like hatred and anger is a waste and hurts no one but me. Did he ‘deserve’ to be forgiven? Maybe not, but me not forgiving him would have only weighed on my heart, not his.