Post # 1
I’m trying to explain something to my Fiance, and I might not be explaining it well, so I’m turning to the hive for help.
Please pick two options….. 1 OR 2, then 3, 4, OR 5. Let me know if it’s too confusing!
*He thinks it’s just a party, but when I asked him what their engagement party was for (which they had like a year ago) he just said “oh another party….just a long time ago?” LOL
Thanks ladies 🙂
Post # 3
Personally I think that the shower is both option one and two. You celebrate the marriage by showering them with gifts for their new life together. I tend to get a gift for the shower and give cash in a card for the wedding. I don’t like the idea of burdening a couple with lugging large/multiple packages home after the wedding.
ETA: You should tell him that it’s one of the rare opportunities where women get to “ooh” and “ahhh” over items in unison. Without the gifts women can’t accomplish this goal.
Post # 4
good call on my wording, I’ve edited to push the point a little better, thanks 🙂 and I love your ETA comment!
Post # 5
It also varies regionally. Here we tend to buy a gift for the bride for the shower, often in a theme e.g. kitchen, lingerie etc and buy a gift from the registry for the wedding.
I don’t know anyone except maybe the couple’s parenst who give cash.
Post # 6
For me it’s one and two. A time to celebrate, and also to get gifts from your registry.
I know whenever I go to a shower I buy a gift. Usually I give money or a gift card to their registry site at the wedding. (If I don’t do that I’ll have something sent/shipped to them from their registry.)
Post # 7
Good point on the local thing, I keep forgetting about that. I haven’t been to a lot of weddings before, so I’m not really sure what the norm is.
yeah, I edited to fix the wording on one and two, of course we’re celebrating! 🙂
Post # 8
Well hells bells woman. 😛
Post # 9
For me it is to 2) shower the couple with gifts for their wedding and 4) I give gifts at both events.
Post # 10
I can’t remember being at a shower before, but in the past I’ve always gotten a gift off the registry for the wedding, too. Didn’t really think about them having to lug it home…. Won’t be doing that anymore!!
Post # 11
I voted before I read your thread, haha! I voted 2 and then 4 or 5.
We give cash for the wedding gift…I think that could be a Filipino thing though 🙂
Post # 12
We give gifts for both but for the shower we physically bring the gift and for the wedding we always UPS the gift to whatever address is listed on the registry. I always use registry for bridal shower and wedding gifts except for bachelorette gifts in which I get lingerie.
Post # 13
Showers are for “showering” the couple/bride with gifts (which is done in celebration of their upcoming marriage.
I also will always purchase a gift for the wedding as well (but I never gift cash, although many do).
Post # 14
The whole point of a shower is gifts, which is why I didn’t have one – awkward to have a shower when you’re not registered anywhere!
I always give gifts for both.
Post # 15
haha I do that a lot, too 🙂
ah, didn’t even think about bachelorette gifts, thanks!
Thanks again for all of the feedback, ladies! I ended up going with a registry item for the shower gift, and we’ll probably do cash for the wedding.
Post # 16
I think it’s both to celebrate the upcoming marriage and shower the couple with gifts from their registry.
I usually give a gift from the registry for the shower and then cash, (or a gift from the honeymoon registry – if they have one) for the wedding.