(Closed) What is the Bridal Shower for?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What is the bridal shower for / Where does the registry come into play?
    Bridal shower is JUST to celebrate their upcoming marriage, do not purchase a gift : (5 votes)
    4 %
    Bridal shower is to shower the couple with gifts to celebrate their upcoming marriage : (53 votes)
    44 %
    You don't buy any gifts for the wedding : (4 votes)
    3 %
    You buy a gift for both events : (27 votes)
    23 %
    You buy a gift for shower, and cash for wedding : (31 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Personally I think that the shower is both option one and two. You celebrate the marriage by showering them with gifts for their new life together. I tend to get a gift for the shower and give cash in a card for the wedding. I don’t like the idea of burdening a couple with lugging large/multiple packages home after the wedding.

    ETA: You should tell him that it’s one of the rare opportunities where women get to “ooh” and “ahhh” over items in unison. Without the gifts women can’t accomplish this goal.

    Post # 5
    46606 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It also varies regionally. Here we tend to buy a gift for the bride for the shower, often in a theme e.g. kitchen, lingerie etc and buy a gift from the registry for the wedding.

    I don’t know anyone except maybe the couple’s parenst who give cash.



    Post # 6
    5106 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    For me it’s one and two. A time to celebrate, and also to get gifts from your registry.

    I know whenever I go to a shower I buy a gift. Usually I give money or a gift card to their registry site at the wedding. (If I don’t do that I’ll have something sent/shipped to them from their registry.)

    Post # 9
    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    For me it is to 2) shower the couple with gifts for their wedding and 4) I give gifts at both events.

    Post # 11
    1909 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I voted before I read your thread, haha! I voted 2 and then 4 or 5. 

    We give cash for the wedding gift…I think that could be a Filipino thing though πŸ™‚

    Post # 12
    19 posts

    We give gifts for both but for the shower we physically bring the gift and for the wedding we always UPS the gift to whatever address is listed on the registry. I always use registry for bridal shower and wedding gifts except for bachelorette gifts in which I get lingerie.


    Post # 13
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Showers are for “showering” the couple/bride with gifts (which is done in celebration of their upcoming marriage.

    I also will always purchase a gift for the wedding as well (but I never gift cash, although many do).

    Post # 14
    5095 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    The whole point of a shower is gifts, which is why I didn’t have one – awkward to have a shower when you’re not registered anywhere!

    I always give gifts for both.

    Post # 16
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think it’s both to celebrate the upcoming marriage and shower the couple with gifts from their registry.

    I usually give a gift from the registry for the shower and then cash, (or a gift from the honeymoon registry – if they have one) for the wedding.

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