(Closed) What is the groom’s family paying for?

posted 12 years ago in Money
  • poll: What is the groom's family paying for?

    Nothing, it's tradition for the bride's family to pay for the whole wedding.

    Just the rehearsal dinner

    Rehearsal dinner and tuxes

    A significant monetary contribution to wedding expenses, please say how much or what percent?

    Just the Honeymoon

    Rehearsal dinner, tuxes and honeymoon.

    Some other combination of the above, please explain.

  • Post # 3
    1131 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2021

    You don’t have an option for nothing. Such as the bride and groom are paying for everything. 🙂 That would be my answer, since it’s a vow renewal.

    Post # 4
    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    My husband’s family paid for the rehearsal dinner and our open bar.  My parents paid for the reception venue, catering and my wedding dress.  My husband and I paid for everything else.  We did not take a honeymoon, just a mini-moon.

    Post # 5
    735 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    In addition to the Rehearsal Dinner, they are paying for a pre-wedding/engagement party at their and FI’s home town this weekend.  A lot of FI’s friends who are financially unable to travel will be there.  It was supposed to be a post-wedding/reception…but timing just didn’t work out.

    They are kind of going all out for the Rehearsal Dinner, though, incl. doing favors.  I’m touched by how excited they are for this.

    Post # 6
    44 posts
    • Wedding: December 1969

    not one damn thing 🙂

    Post # 7
    800 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Rehearsal dinner and our plane tickets and hotel for the honeymoon.

    Post # 8
    468 posts
    Helper bee

    My in-laws paid for the Rehearsal Dinner, tuxes, honeymoon, and flowers for the church.  They tried to pay for more but my mom got offended and told them she could pay for it all perfectly well, thank you.  (FWIW I think they meant well, but they can come across as pushy and stepping on toes.)

    Post # 9
    67 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2021

    Our parents are actually splitting all costs 50%.

    Post # 10
    253 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    His dad pretty much has just given us chunks of money here and there to use as we need to. Our total budget (not incl my engagement ring) is about $19,000 andddd I’d say he has contributed about $4,000 or $4,500. Sooo about 20-25%.

    My parents have put about $8,000-$9,000 toward it, sooo about 45% andddd the rest was us.

    Post # 11
    12 posts
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We are paying for everything ourselves

    Post # 13
    632 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    50/50 for all wedding essentials between my parents and the FI’s parent’s

    $25,000 + $25,000

    Post # 14
    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    His parents have given us 10k, which is going towards the venue, food, and drinks. My parents have bought my dress and are helping with other little expenses. We are paying for everything else…which is a lot, but we are so grateful for everything both sets of parents have given us.

    Post # 15
    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Neither sets of our parents are paying for anything (would have voted A, but went for G instead), and we don’t expect them to. We think that the bride’s family paying for everything is outdated, and since his parents don’t want to shell out anything, we’re paying for it all outselves, and quite honestly, we’re proud of that. We want the start of our lives together as husband and wife to be completely bankrolled by US. Sure, our budget is tiny ($5000), but we don’t need an extravagent affair, so we’re not concerned.

    We will be involving both families in non-monetary ways — for example, his aunt will be doing the photography (we hope!), my dad will be doing videography, his mom is going to help with paper products like the guestbook/invites/etc., and I’m sure my mom will be happy to help with the food — but all of the bills will be paid for by us two.

    Post # 16
    1194 posts
    Bumble bee

    Rehearsal dinner and possibly day after brunch (or possibly splitting brunch with my parents).  Also I think Future Mother-In-Law is getting us a photo booth for our cocktail hour.

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