(Closed) What is the groom’s family paying for?

posted 11 years ago in Money
  • poll: What is the groom's family paying for?

    Nothing, it's tradition for the bride's family to pay for the whole wedding.

    Just the rehearsal dinner

    Rehearsal dinner and tuxes

    A significant monetary contribution to wedding expenses, please say how much or what percent?

    Just the Honeymoon

    Rehearsal dinner, tuxes and honeymoon.

    Some other combination of the above, please explain.

  • Post # 62
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    They are being amazingly generous and I’m so thankful because neither of his parents are very well to do, but it was important to them that they help out. They are giving us a set amount that will cover the rehersal dinner and our accomodations for a honeymoon.

    Post # 63
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    My parents are gifting us my dress, and $2000, his parents are paying for rehearsal dinner, no idea what they are giving to us as a wedding present, and we are paying for the entire wedding ourselves

    Post # 64
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    $7500, or 75% of our budget.  My family’s contribution?  Zero.

    Post # 65
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    They offered to give us a significant sum of money (I think Fiance said 10K) but we haven’t taken it directly. As of now, I think they are picking up the bar tab (appx. $7500), rehearsal dinner and a few other smaller things. Nothing has been finalized but its still early!

    Post # 66
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I don’t know yet what they are paying for our giving us.  We have tried to ask without seeming rude.  But they just keep telling us that whatever we need to do do we’ll do.  Having said that my dad is giving 10,000 my mom won’t committ to a number.  We plan to pay fo part of it ourselves but it is making it harder to book/purchase things without knowing how much you are getting from everyone.

    Post # 67
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    Sugar bee

    My husbands parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and the alochol portion of the wedding reception which was a significant amount.  They also gave us a monetary gift to use how we please (but not on stupid stuff like Wii games ha) They also hosted the day after brunch at their house for about 75 or so people

    Post # 68
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    My Future In-Laws had a small hippie wedding so they can’t comprehend why we want a ‘big’ wedding.  Our budget is just under 10K including rings and honeymoon.  They are paying for the Rehearsal Dinner and his mom also chipped in $1000 without telling dad because "Liz deserves to have a nice day" : )!!!  All of our RSVPs are in and we are surprised by the number of FIs relatives attending.  He only has a few relatives on the east coast, but at least 15 people are coming from either CA or LA.  We weren’t expecting any of them to come.  I’m hoping Future Father-In-Law will feel generous on wedding day and help pay for their side of the family.  I was hoping for maybe 60 guests and we are up to 80 now! It’s all very exciting and we’re thrilled they are coming, but those 20 extra dinners are suddenly making me feel very frugal.  

    Post # 69
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    My Fiance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves so I didn’t expect any contribution at all from my future in-laws.  They totally surprised us by giving us some money towards the honeymoon.  I’ve been so excited, especially because it was so unexpected.

    All week I’ve been researching honeymoon stuff instead of doing things I need to do… like study! 

    Post # 70
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    They gave us a flat $35k to use however we wanted towards the wedding (we put it towards our food/bev bill at the venue) and they also paid for the Honeymoon and Rehearsal Dinner… Very generous and we very much appreciate it! My parents put in $30k and we’re covering any overage

    Post # 71
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    297 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2020 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman

    Mr. K’s parents just paid for the Rehearsal Dinner.  We picked out the venue and it wasn’t cheap, but since it added up to about 1/40th of the cost of the wedding, we didn’t feel to bad about it. 🙂  Plus, they are financially secure.  We didn’t "bill" them for anything else that tradition says they should cover (the bouts, etc.).  It was such a miniscule amount compared to the wedding overall, it didn’t seem worth it. 

    Post # 72
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    Our parents are splitting the wedding costs – approximately $10K each. 

    But his parents also paid for our honeymoon flight, hotel and car — very generous!

    Post # 73
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    450 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I’m in a unique situation. My Fiance was born and raised in Turkey. His family is flying over for the wedding. That said, my family and my Fiance & I are the only ones covering wedding costs. However, his family is responsible for covering costs when we do our celebration in Turkey.

    Post # 74
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I selected "just the rehearsal dinner" but that’s not entirely true, because his parents are also throwing us a reception in his hometown a few weeks after the wedding, which is significantly more than rehearsal costs, I’m sure!

    Post # 75
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    They’re paying for the Rehearsal Dinner and honeymoon.

    Post # 76
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    My parents gave us $10K which covers pretty much all the deposits we put down.  We are paying the rest ourselves.  FMIL is paying for rehearsal dinner.

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