(Closed) what is the ideal gap between kids?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
  • poll: I think the Ideal age gap between kids is

    2 years

    3 years

    4 years

    more than 4 years

    LESS than 2 years

  • Post # 32
    1932 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2008

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    @zippylef: AGREED!!! I was a nanny for four kids under the age of four, and there were three of them in diapers at ONE TIME! It was way too much to handle, and it was gross. Some days, it was like 20-25 diaper changes in one day! Ick. yuch. ehglkjd.

    It all depends on what you want, OP. 

    Here is what my family looked like several years ago:

    Oldest Sister: 20

    Older Brother: 18.5

    Me: 15

    Little Brother: 12

    Little brother: 8

    little sister: newborn

    So: my oldest sister is nearly 5 yrs older than me and we didn’t get along at all growing up, but we’re best friends now that we’re older. But she and my older brother were best friends growing up and shared all their HS friends.

    My oldest brother is about 3.5 yrs older than me and he and I have a good relationship, not super close, but not distant at all.

    My little brother and I always have been, always will be close.

    My brother who is 7 years younger than me, we don’t get along that well, but he’s still a teenager, so that will probably change.

    My sister is 15 years younger than me and she is more like a niece than a little sister. But we have a good relationship 🙂


    That being said, I like 3yrs apart, I got along with my siblings that were 3 yrs apart from me, it wasn’t too much/too little. A lot of families seem to have kidsd 2yrs apart, it’s more common. And that works too.

    I think I’ll want to wait, I like zippylefs advice, wait til they’re potty trained lol! That’s about 2.5-3yrs old. sometimes earlier. 

    Post # 33
    509 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Since I’m 31, and will be 32 when Timbit comes, ideally about two years is what we’re hoping for. We want to be done having our kids by 35 (or be pregnant with our third that year, if we are so blessed).


    there was three years between me and my younger sister, and seven years between hubby and his sister.

    Post # 34
    4822 posts
    Honey bee

    You will get annecdotal stories up the ying yang, but at the end of the day a different relationship doesnt mean its the best or worst.

    I know siblings who are close who are great friends, I know people who are YEARS apart and it took awhile but now they are great friends and mentors. And I know people do dont get along despite the age.

    Its very dependent on personalities, upbringing and factors you cant predict. I think the best age difference is when YOU are ready for another child.

    Post # 35
    984 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    For me it’s not so much about relationships as it is about letting my body heal. I’m not pregnant but from the sounds of things from friends, family, and the bee, your body takes a pretty good beating. I think medical experts say it takes something like a year and half to 2 years to recover from pregnancy. I think I would also like to have the first out of diapers before I have another one in diapers. 

    Post # 36
    1212 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’d like 2.5-4 years between kids. My sister and I are 3.5 years apart and get on swimmingly. I also like the idea of having the older kid out of nappies before the next one comes along!

    Post # 37
    2495 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

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    @Mrs. Spring: I totally agree!!

    DH is case in point.  He was an incredibly active child and was quite a handful.  Mother-In-Law waited till he was 2 1/2 before getting pregnant with SIL 1 because she couldn’t handle another one so soon.

    All of my siblings and I are exactly 2.5 years apart.  I don’t think my parents planned it, though.  I like the space because we’re all 2 years apart in school and it allowed my parents to enjoy having kids in different stages of life at all times.

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