(Closed) What is the longest time between ceremony and reception you've ever seen?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 46
Member
5360 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

View original reply
Anonyfish:  I’ve been to one with a three hour gap. This is apparently normal in that region. I was the only person surprised. I guess the groomsmen “steal” the bride and the bridesmaids “steal” the groom and the go off and do something together. Meanwhile all the guests… I dunno. I went back to the hotel with a bunch of other out of town guests. We just hung out, took naps, got freshened up, etc. It was super weird. 

Post # 47
Member
1465 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t do gaps. I went to one wedding with a gap (and I am in my 50’s) and that was enough for me. I also married into a Catholic family and they don’t do gaps either.

I am a loyal friend who will bend over backwards for you. Need to hide a body? I’m your girl. Mom in the hospital, Dad just died, need a housesitter, is your child sick, is your spouse in the hospital fighting for their life? I am your girl – I will be there for you.
Have a big gap in your wedding and I will choose either the wedding or the reception to attend but not both.

When our 4 daughters got married they knew one of the commandments to our checkbook was thou shalt not have a gap. They had no issue with that.

Sorry – but I am super anti-gap. I don’t need to fix my makeup twice to attend what should be one event. I don’t need to rest, freshen up from sitting at the ceremony, or walk around town.

The only one I attended was in the middle of BFE. Thousands of acres of farmland as far as they eye can see, a Catholic church, a post office, and a bar. A divy bar. That was it. We drove 35 minutes to the next town to at least find an Applebees and sat their for HOURS. We left that poor waitress a big tip. It probably didn’t help either that when we got to the reception we found it was a cash bar….even for my Diet Coke.

Post # 48
Member
876 posts
Busy bee

4 hours. So they could take pictures. It was in the middle of nowhere, a in Dunkin Donuts was the ONLY place that existed in the area. So so awful. We finally get to the reception venue at the designated time, only to find that the previous wedding wasn’t over. Yeah, it was a hot sticky mess (literally -in July)

Guess it was a good learning experience since we made sure our venue only had one event a day and the gap was the 20 second walk from the ceremony garden to the cocktail hour open bars and stations.

Post # 49
Member
519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

View original reply
Anonyfish:  I’m a big napper. Like, huge. Naps are awesome. The other day I tried to plot out some sort of “getting ready” schedule for my wedding day that allowed a nap… >.>

If I was in a situation with a long gap, I’d actually get a hotel room explcitiely for the purpose of napping and relaxing. I’m pretty painfully introverted though, I’d need the private-time before dealing with people again.

Post # 50
Member
1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

View original reply
Anonyfish:  i don’t think i’ve ever experienced more than a 1 hour gap, and that was just to allow for travel between ceremony and reception! i can’t imagine being stuck for 3-4 hours with nothing to do…seems strange to me. guess i’ve been lucky so far!

Post # 51
Member
6584 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

In our circles the biggest gap is like an hour. If it were longer than that I would just skip the rest of the festivities after the ceremony. What a waste of day just waiting around!

The topic ‘What is the longest time between ceremony and reception you've ever seen?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors