(Closed) What is the main reason you don\'t like Moissanite?

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Post # 136
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Helper bee

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maccasgirl :  Sure, I can always understand and relate to those wanting some bling bling on their finger no matter what it is lol.

Post # 137
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Sugar bee

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maccasgirl :  so did I until I got divorced…lol. And I planned on it the second time too until that one died. Life happens, Bee. And even if NONE of those happen to you, you may at some point still want another piece of jewelry. You have 9 other fingers, sugar bean. I just bought a 3ct+ emerald diamond for a RHR because the price was right at the time the opportunity presented itself but I now feel that I neeeeed an oval. I don’t have an oval. The oval is going to be moissanite and it’s going to be a big one! I like the big ones. I’m not trying to be “fraudulous” as one PP put it. I guess I COULD buy a big oval diamond if I REALLY wanted to but I’d rather not and to prove what? To whom? It’s ridiculous and sucks the joy out of the very reason I buy the shit in the first place! I just lovvvvveee ❤️ the sparkles. We waaaaaaayyyyy overthink this stuff. It’s JEWELRY and it’s supposed to be beauty and art and love and fun. 

Post # 138
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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Mrs.Bill :  and I dont get why people think the humanitarian thing to do is to end the demand for  an impovershed continent’s .most lucrative export and a major source of jobs. An ethical, transparent diamond trade, a more refined Kimberley Process, with more money going back into the communities that source them, and jobs in safe conditions is a humanitarian effort.  I mean Nelson Mandela supports the diamond trade for godssakes, he has stated plenty of times that without it his country would be completely destabilized and devastated.

 I have zero guilt over my diamond which was sourced, cut, and polished with the highest ethics in the industry through complete vertical integration. Diamonds support the most stable democracies and economies in Africa- diamonds build roads, schools, hospitals, HIV/AIDS clinics. No ethical diamonds my ass!

Again, I aboslutely get why many prefer moissanite but no ones getting a nobel peace prize while typing on their (mined) iphone and probably other mined gems and metals, about how a whole continent should be completely devastated for a shady past they learned about in a Leo movie. 

Post # 139
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Some of these responses are literally making me laugh out loud. I have shied away from this thread because I honestly can’t be all that bothered and I find the “pro-diamond” arguments to be eye-roll worthy, but this thread came up on the main page during my morning scoll again–so I bit. And I just . . . *sigh*

The “live within your means” argument is my favorite. When DH and I were talking about getting engaged, we set out our budget and then started looking at rings. We looked at diamonds, moissanites, morganites, sapphires, etc. In the end, I wanted a honking stone on my finger, so we went with moissanites. I am absolutely living within my means–we bought a ring for a fraction of our budget. Acting as if I *must* wear a tiny diamond over a “simulant” is fucking ridiculous. I find those that get uptight about diamonds vs moissanite are simply annoyed that someone can have a ring that looks EXACTLY like theirs for a fraction of the cost. It blows my mind that this gets under someone’s skin. Who. Cares.?

We spent a reasonable amount on my “fake ass” ring and I would not change a thing. As it is, I don’t even wear my engagement ring anymore, in lieu of just wearing my wedding band, so I really can’t be bothered by people’s aggressively judgemental opinions about it. 

Post # 140
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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tillymac :  Thanks for the laugh wink

Post # 141
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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maccasgirl :  I guess the question this often raises is , if you dont want to own a real diamond, why do you want something that looks very similar.

I’ll answer: I don’t *hate* diamonds–but I do find their price (and the rampant following) ridiculous. They honestly aren’t special. They are a dime a dozen and everywhere you look, you find women with diamonds. So I never bought into the “super special, way more meaningful” because it’s a diamond. I like the sparkle and appreciate that it “comes from the Earth” or whatever. But I just don’t find it overly special enough to warrant the extreme mark-ups. My husband and I looked at tons of stones and because I was do indecisive, my husband steered my towards moissanite. It was a clear stone, so he felt like it would just last longer. I wanted more coverage on my hand, so that absolutely ruled out diamond. I looked at white sapphires, but I just didn’t like their sparkle. As soon as I saw videos of moissanite–I was sold. I love my ring and I don’t feel like a fraud when I wear it. 

Post # 142
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 1984

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MrsBuesleBee :  Diamond mining companies degrade the environment immediately surrounding the pit mine. The Canadian government, despite stringent laws and signed agreements requiring diamond mines to minimize the environmental impact and restore the land once mining is finished, has found it difficult and, actually, near impossible to enforce these agreements. Mining companies find it cheaper to pay fines and move on leaving destruction in their wake and tax payers to pay for the clean up. It’s even worse in less developed nations.

As for the “income” mining provides to impoverished communities – just ask the Native Canadian bands if they have received their share of legally agreed to financial commitments. The miners in the less develped world have no protection and mines employ children. You mention clinics and I say to you one or two clinics vs all of the devastation left by open pit mining is hardly anything to shout about. One article I came accross mentioned the very minor efforts made by mining tompanies to help the communities they are in – these included financing animal breeding and reforestation programs (to repopulate the areas affected by diamond mining) however, the article made it clear that these efforts are so small they are made more as a public relations effort than anything else.

I’m glad that you’re happy with your diamond because it came at great cost.

Post # 143
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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arosebyanyothername :  But…you DO sound judgemental and bitchy.  I live in a small house in the city, and ride the bus every day to the office, AND I wear a 2.9 carat diamond.  Your theory is seriously flawed.  And rude.

Post # 144
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

If the newer moissanites had been around before we got engaged, I would’ve gone that route. I’m not a diamond expert and neither are my friends or family so I’m willing to bet if I couldn’t tell the difference between a moissy and my diamond, they probably couldn’t either. It’s a sparkly clear stone. Most people will assume it’s a diamond and you go on with your life. Once you’re engaged and married no one cares about your ring anymore except for you anyway. 😂

So as long as you feel comfortable wearing moissanite and don’t feel self conscious or perceive it as a “knock off” then I say go for it. I don’t view it as a knock off though. In my mind moissanite is a close substitute for a diamond. It’s sparkly and white and durable enough. The only hang up I have with moissanite is the oil slick thing which would be annoying. They aren’t perfect substitutes but they’d be close enough for me and my everyday life. 

Post # 145
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

fwiw I love moissy. the only reason I don’t have a moissy ering is because DH really wanted to get a diamond. If it were up to me id have totally gone that route. more sparkles and yes $$? yes plz!

Post # 146
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I considered Moissanite for maybe a split second but my husband wouldn’t hear of it and to be honest the more I read in to it the more I’m glad I didn’t go for it. For me personally Moissanite is too “flashy” by that I mean the “disco ball” effect as others have mentioned. 

The diamond engagement ring and eternity ring I have sparkle and fire just the right amount.

But each to their own as long as you have the love of your life by your side who cares what you have on your finger. 🙂 

Post # 147
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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Mrs.Bill :    Its not black and white. My diamond gave people (adults, thank you) fair jobs for fair pay- including training for highly-skilled cutting and polishing jobs and was controlled at every point through complete vertical integration from mine to retail shop. Africa would be absolutely devastated without diamonds- more corporate responsibility, more profit sharing and community development is essential. Canada doesnt NEED a diamond trade to survive, you cant say the same for Botswana.  

A marred past doesnt mean a whole industry cant be a net positive for the future. The consumer can enable that future by supporting companies that do WAY more than PR efforts and the measly Kimberley Process. I think cutting out many, many thousands of peoples jobs and their (and their family’s) HIV/AIDS treatment, and slashing the GDP of developing nations  for the sake of a scenic hillside is not vaguely humanitarian. So Ill enjoy my ethical diamond, and you can enjoy your high horse.

 

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/08/09/business/worldbusiness/09nocera.html

https://hbr.org/2017/03/tiffanys-ceo-on-creating-a-sustainable-supply-chain

http://hir.harvard.edu/article/?a=1759

http://hrbdf.org/case_studies/hivaids/hiv_aids/working_in_hyper-endemic_countries.html#.WS7XR-vytpg

Post # 148
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Blushing bee

I think moissanite is over priced. That is what I don’t like about it. 

Now that everyone is using the same 4h rough, I’m sure the price will come down. Just like it did with CZ, just like lab created diamonds (slowly) are. I can’t wait to buy a pair of earrings! 

Post # 149
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Bee Keeper

 

 

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MrsBuesleBee :  Are you hearing the words coming out of your mouth? LOL.. keep talking.. you’re doing great!

Post # 150
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

its the “fake” aspect for me…they’re so rare where I am everyone would definately assume it’s diamond. I’d go for any colored stone before a moissy. 

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