(Closed) What is the main reason you don\'t like Moissanite?

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Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

All this ‘because sciiience’ ‘star rock’ ‘lab made is so nerdy’ marketing is turning me away. How far one should be from science to take this seriously?)

Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

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sauvblanclover :  You don’t know why moissanite versus diamond is a hot topic, why it’s heated on bee specifically, or both?

I think,simply put, that it is heated partially because of the stigma behind both stones, because people have varying attachment to either one, and no one really likes hearing a hard opinion against the thing they like as it can make them feel not great or like something they value is being treated poorly either way. This is especially true for engagement rings. No one wants to feel poorly about that. That’s probably why it gets heated on this site. 

Now, there are arguments for why people like either stone better than the other, and that’s fine. It just comes down to what you like. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

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sauvblanclover :  Yes I would opt for the diamond. I realize my diamond ring is not a good financial investment, but it’s still what I wanted.  For the same reason I wouldn’t buy a replica designer bag, I wouldn’t buy a sim But again that’s just me. I wouldn’t judge someone else for their decisions!!! 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

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katebluestone :  I have a garnet and a tanzanite ring as well as my diamond ring. They are both mined. My tanzanite cost more than my diamond ring. I would not want a man-made stone, in any form. 😊

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

To me, it’s because it’s not real but mostly pretends to be. My husband and I work extremely hard and he bought me the best ring he could afford – granted we’re young so it’s 1ct in total but it signifies an investment he’s made in me. Same reason I spent a grand on his wedding ring. I also feel like these things should be made to last forever, like a marriage ideally should. I have a fake ring that’s a created sapphire with crystals and 3 years later is it’s already looking tarnished. My husband’s grandmother still wears her original set and she’s 85, that thing sparkles like the sun and is an heirloom. I hope my set will be the same. 

It just rubs me the wrong way… Live within your means. I hate to sound like a judgemental bitch but if someone who’s living in a small ass place and catching the bus everyday is rocking a 3ct ring, I’m gonna think they’re fake/stupid. Most people don’t even know it’s not a real diamond so they’re gonna think you have no idea how to prioritise your money. Lol seriously. And how are you going to justify asking for a raise or something when you’ve got this massive thang on your hand?! 

Just have some discipline and live within your means. 

I hope I phrased that properly. I personally think it’s pretentious af. I’d liken this to renting a mansion/fancy car for whenever people come to visit so they think you’re richer than you are. No point and kinda makes you more materialistic than someone who just has the real deal… 

That’s my 500 cents

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee

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tillymac : “To me, it’s because it’s not real”.

All you bees with moissanites are rocking holograms yo!!

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

There’s actually a really tangible reason for why people don’t like moissanite, and it’s purely social and psychological. I’ve heard somebody outline it here before, I hope I do the social observation justice, I’ll attempt to explain it: 

In our society, we use diamonds as a symbol of status. Sure, they might mean everlasting love to a lot of people, but more often than not the size of the diamond is an indicator of how much disposable income a couple has. We do the same thing with purchasing expensive cars, designer handbags, etc. Yes these things are of a better innate quality, but what they really do is send a message about a person’s financial and social status. 

When a woman purchases a diamond stimulant of a certain size (let’s say 1.5-2 carats), it is attempting to send a specific message without having actually made the investment. This makes the women that DID make the investment in a genuine and large diamond upset, because they look at it like the moissanite ladies are “faking” it and diluting their status symbol with these cheap and attainable huge fakes that hardly anyone can distinguish. 

Have you noticed that nobody gets annoyed when women purchase moissanite that’s under 1 carat? It’s because it doesn’t upset the status quo. Our society wants people to “stay in their lane”, respectively. Most of the scorn for moissanite I believes stems from this reasoning. 

By the way, I have a (slightly over) 2ct diamond. I had my own reasons. And I could care less what other women wear on their hands, if it makes them happy. But I also understand the psychology behind it all. 🙂 

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK

I think moissanite is very pretty but I dont like the splintery facets and how it makes the depth of the stone look off compared to a diamond. I genuinely prefer how a diamond performs. For me also it is not ‘mind clean’ – Yes i’ve been brainwashed to want a diamond, but I sort of see it the same way as someone who loves designer bags would not accept a fake no matter how much it looked like the real thing. The reason it gets so heated around diamonds/moissanites is because you cant say either one is the ‘designer’ brand as they are both gemstones and people will have opinions either way on which one is right for them. Thats not to say I dislike moissanite, but for something like my engagement ring, to ‘me’ the ‘real’ version is a diamond. If I was being bought earrings or a necklace I woud not mind receiving moissanite as the pros of it being cheaper and sparkly fit what kind of product I would be looking for, but I don’t hold as much importance over those purchases as I would something like an engagement ring. For those people that do choose moissanite for their engagement rings I think you are making a very sensible decision and applaud you for it, it’s just not for me personally. I just love looking at shiny things in general! 🙂

Post # 24
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Worker bee

I don’t want moissanite because you can’t find it naturally and it’s man made stone.

Post # 25
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Helper bee

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beetruz13 :  There are other natural white stones out there such as white sapphire, white topaz, and white zircon(not cubic zirconia). White zircon is especially white and sparkley and people do use them in engagement rings including solitaires. So is it also a “fraud” bc it looks similar to a diamond? Not something I’m asking just you directly, but the whole “fraud” “fake” thing is always the weakest argument to me. They are all pretty white stones at the end of the day that happen to share similarities…moissanite included.

Here is my blue spinel ring that has a white zircon halo. Don’t let the pic fool you bc the zircons throw off all sorts of rainbow:

 

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper

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chefwife :  very well articulated

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beetruz13 :  and you explain it all very well too I think. 

Im in your camp ladies. A sim isn’t for me. I’d rather a smaller diamond or different stone instead.

Post # 27
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Busy bee

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tillymac :  And how are you going to justify asking for a raise or something when you’ve got this massive thang on your hand?! 

What a strange comment, a raise absolutely nothing to do with what you spend your money on.  So if someone comes into inheritance, buys a fancy car they then shouldn’t get a merit based raise because they already own something nice?  A 3ct diamond or moissanite should have no relation to achievement at work. 

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee

I don’t like the look of moissanite. You can almost always tell it’s not a diamond. A sim wasn’t for me. 

Post # 29
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Helper bee

I think the whole marketing thing is a bit silly as well. Yes, diamonds are marketed to seem more special and rare than they really are. But if you are immune from marketing, why buy a mossanite, since they look so similar and people will assume one is the other? You are buying in to the very same marketing that tells you “diamonds (or their near identical twins) are a girls best friend”. Why not buy a CZ, or a gem stone ring, or no ring at all? We are all influenced by advertising so its silly to say that people who buy diamonds are fools drawn in by advertising but buying mossanite is just a pure logical decision. 

Btw I am not against sims, all my jewellery is either CZ, created gem stones, etc. But I just think buy what you like without justifying it, either way you are buying something unnecessary. 

Post # 30
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Blushing bee

Honestly, I would compare it to wearing a fake Louis Vuitton. It questions the rest of us who actually paid the real deal to get the diamond. 

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