- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
*This will be a long post. I warned you*
On the local boards I’ve posted a few reviews, ideas, suggestions, and what not about venues, photographers, bridal salons, etc. in my area.
I’m glad I’ve gotten such positive response. Since I posted my first review and critique I’ve gotten a lot of emails asking for suggestions and advice. This makes me exceptionally happy because if it weren’t for the support I’ve gotten from my own ladies and the ladies on this forum there may have been a breakdown or two during this process.
Anyway a question I’ve gotten a lot is “What do you think is the most important thing to consider when picking out vendors?”
Hmm…that’s a toughy.
I mean reliability is one. Who wants to hire a vendor they are concerned won’t do what’s needed to to be done or won’t show up on the actual day?
Reasonable price is another? Why would you meet with a ton of vendors you know you can’t afford?
There are many things that *COULD* be the most important thing to consider but my answer has been and will continue to be far different.
For me the most important thing to consider is how well do I get along with this person? Do I even like them? Can I have an actual conversation with them? Can I get to know them as someone other than “Photographer,” “Coordinator,” “DJ,” etc?
My fiance have been engaged for two years. We wanted a long engagement. Doesn’t matter why. It’s just what we wanted. So for two years we’ve been slowly but excitedly planning this wedding. From going to bridal shows to clipping images out of magazines to going to other weddings and seeing what they do. We didn’t start booking any vendors until January of last year(our wedding is this September) so by the time our wedding comes around we will have been working with these people for a little over 1 1/2 years. That’s a LONG time to work with someone and not even like them.
For everything we booked we made a list of vendors in our price point who would provide the service we wanted. We asked your typical wedding oriented questions but during all of this we gauged how well we “clicked” with that person(or persons)
I know so many people who picked this vendor because they were the absolute best in the city or that vendor because they are known for having the classiest venue. But then these people turn out to be miserable, demanding people to work with.
This is a wedding, not a theatrical production. You are commiting your life to other human being and throwing a gigantic party in your honor. It’s an overwhelming undertaking, therefore you need vendors who will support you and go to bat for you. You need vendors who are just as excited about this as you are(not that fake “Congrats” but really you’re just a paycheck to me kind of person)
Having these vendors has made our engagement and planning a phenomenal experience for us. Our photographer keeps in contact with my daily. She asks about plans. She gives suggestions on details and timing. She went to bat for me when my sister was being a brat during our bridesmaids dress shopping experience. She took up for me but got the point across to my sister without causing any drama.
Our DJ went to bat for my fiance when his stepmom(whom he’s not particularly close to) complained about not being included in the mother/son dance.
Our DOC(which is the manager of our venue and provides our caterer) has gone out of his way to accomodate us.
Our baker(we’re doing a dessert and ice cream bar) purchased our guestbook tree for us. We had brought up our struggles with finding something we were happy with and wanted a picture of us included in it. She knows someone who paints. Gave them a picture of us she got off my facebook(she works from her home so she and I have gotten pretty close) gave the person our headcount and this person drew a custom tree with me sitting on a swing and my fiance pushing me. Then gave it to us as a present and it was PERFECT.
Now I know not everyone is going to have these experiences or get that close to their vendors but my point is to try and make sure you genuinely like these people as people. It makes a world of difference when you enjoy working with them and they enjoy working with you.