(Closed) What is the most stressful piece of planning for you?

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The most stress for us came from finding a venue. We live 8hrs from NYC where the wedding was. Much of venue searching happen on the itnernet. I would fall madly in love with a venue and be SO disappointed when we visit. Sigh. It took us 9 months to find the perfect venue but it was well worth it! Wink

The other was more of a situation than a person. My husband’s SIL was unable to come so only his brother and his 2 young girls (also our FGs!) were coming. Throughout wedding planning my Mother-In-Law would keep asking me how we were going to logistically conform to their feeding and napping schedules. It really stressed me out because at that point we felt our ILs were always everything about that brother and grandkids (understandable! they are their first grandchildren). Culturally there are certain things that HAVE to happen at a certain time on the wedding day. And I’m sorry if it coincides with their nap time. They have two options either take a earlier nap or don’t be there for that part of the wedding day that is important to me. My Mother-In-Law just kept asking me and seeming like she was hoping I would come up with a solution. Like it was the most important decision about wedding planning. It stressed me out because I love those girls but this is one day, they will survive without a nap for ONE day.
Of course on the day of it was not a big deal at all like my husband and I thought it would be! I just wished that my Mother-In-Law would have figured out the solution on her own since she thought it was her problem to solve. Or let the parents figure it out, like it’s their job!

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I lost a lot of sleep over the guest list, but it all worked out in the end! 🙂

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

The most stressful part for me was after I sent out my invites, waiting for people to RSVP. We were shocked by how few people actually mailed it back and there were a lot of surprise No’s.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Guest list & seating for sure!!!

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Any details that involve OTHER PEOPLE. Example I’ve been waiting a final guest list from my future Mother-In-Law for five months. 

Stuff I can do alone, I enjoy. Like choosing centerpieces, hair, etc

people complicate things, because they never seem to understand that i’m on a strict timeline with deadlines (I’m a student, so I’m annoyed that I have to now address invites during my finals)

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The guest list is definitely becoming a big part of the stress for us! People are already starting to ask when we’re going to send STDs, and we’re realizing that some people assume they will be invited though we had not been planning on inviting them. Trying to strike that right balance between doing what we want and trying to please others is tough! People always say we should just do what we want to do, but there always seem to be a lot of additional considerations to factor in.

Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The guest list is for SURE my biggest wedding related stress. And it’s not one person, or one situation, there are multiple reasons why it’s making me crazy. I’m a perfectionist and a people pleaser and guest lists are just NOT for people like me.

 

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

…getting RSVP’s.

…getting certain vendors to call me back.

…explaining to my Future Mother-In-Law that it would not be necessary for them to get a hotel room next to ours.

…quieting my inner control-freak.

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

The most stressful is staying on budget. Some parts of the wedding are way under budgeted. We have had to cut a few things out but, nothing to important just the little extra details me and Fiance probably would have been the only ones to notice. CURRENTLY the most stress is our marriage commisioner. We booked her 7 months in advance. She is one of the best in the city. We originally decided the ceremony at 4PM but, we changed it to 5PM. Handed out invites and now are scrambling to find someone to marry us at 5PM because she got booked at 6PM that same day and won’t do a wedding more than 2 hours apart. Now we are 2 months away and have the choice of finding a new commisioner or mailing out invites with new times. Grrr.

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

The centerpieces are stressing me out like you wouldn’t believe. :/ I can’t see to find anything that i like.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

– Balancing everyone’s demands (just because the FIL’s have said they will give us some money, they certainly haven’t and don’t really seem to be in the position to do so, but still make demands like hijacking the guest list and inviting people they haven’t seen in decades).

– The guest list.  I work with 300 people and we all know each other.  I can only invite about 20.  Drama.

– Thinking, “is this the best decision?” Re: decor, etc……

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

-thinking.. I can’t stopthinking about what else I should be doing, what I could be doing, what I shouldn’t be doing errrr

-RSVP people adding guest that weren’t invited

– DIY projects my Fiance isn’t into it and my BM’s are out of state it’s like a full time job 🙁

– Stress and arguing over stupid stuff liek him not helping and people adding kids on to our list. errr

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Honestly the whole thing has been stressful and very time consuming, I feel guilty about all the wasted hours looking at invitations cards for example…literally days…I am extremely picky and givng me too many options is disasterous

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Dress shopping was also extremely stressful because I couldnt find a dress I loved, and salons are very pushy and unhelpful after the first 4 dresses you try on 🙁

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

money – we made the mistake of not establishing a budget at the beginning so it’s been un uphill battle the whole way.

Biggest stress right now is getting people to RSVP!

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