What is the opposite of love?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It is one of the first things that popped into my head actually! I can be selfish too and my Fiance is totally selfless… I’m right there with ya!

Post # 4
1103 posts
Bumble bee

That’s an interesting thought and I think it depends on what you mean by "selfish". In Oprah land, being selfish is a good thing – it means taking time for yourself to do the things you love, so you can be a better, happier person. I don’t think anyone would say that’s the opposite of love! If they mean you only care about yourself at the expense of all others, then maybe it is the opposite. I have heard that apathy is the opposite – hate is not the opposite because it is passionate, like love. Apathy has no passion or energy associated with it, so it’s the opposite. I don’t know if I agree, just putting it out there into the debate 🙂

Post # 5
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I never knew Oprah was the standard on ethics…

Selfishness is definitely the opposite of love, and I think we all need to work on that sometimes! 

Post # 6
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Hmmm…  interesting query, m’dear!  I don’t think that I necessarily have my own opinion on this, but I like the idea that mountain.bride suggested:  It certainly makes sense that if one were apathetic, they would not be able to express love.  What about self-loathing?  I know that the times when I am able to give the most love to others is when I’m happiest with myself.

Post # 7
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Indifference.  Selfish people love themselves, no?  🙂 Not the opposite…

Post # 8
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

ooh interesting. I think that selfishness or love of your self is opposite (or far from) the love of another person… but, I agree with Miss Bravo – I’ve always thought the opposite of love is apathy. Hate is in the same spectrum as love – you still have strong emotions involved. And Selfishness implies that you are caring more about yourself than another, not necessarily that you don’t care at all. Apathy is farther away.

Post # 9
1156 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York

apathy.  hate is actually quite close to love.

Post # 10
340 posts
Helper bee

I second (or third) apathy.

Post # 11
7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

My first thought was apathy too!

Post # 12
16 posts
  • Wedding: January 2010

Pope John Paul II taught that the opposite of love was to use.  It’s so true!

Post # 13
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

This is just my opinion but it can be dangerous to view true love as being totally selfless.  Self-care is very important to loving others fully and being a great partner in the relationship (whether that person is your husband, sister, or best friend).  The greatest loves of my life are the people where we can lean on each other for support, affection and encouragement but where we can also live freely, knowing the other has a full and joyful life that is their own doing

Post # 14
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I say indifference.  Like Mrbee said, hate and love can be remarkably tied.

Post # 15
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with Miss Bravo – Indifference.

Post # 16
2022 posts
Buzzing bee


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