Post # 1
Hi Bees! My wedding is in 2 months and I get annoyed that the people around me seem to overuse the word Bridezilla. I like watching the show but I get called a Bridezilla for stuff that I think is just me asserting my opinion about my own wedding.
For example, somebody called me a Bridezilla because I said that my coordinator won’t be letting anybody into my ceremony if they’re late. My ceremony is 30 minutes long and in a smallish historical mansion. It is so short and it would be disruptive if somebody entered while things are going on. I don’t want people walking in while we’re giving our vows! But I’m fine with people coming in afterwards and enjoying the cocktail hour/ reception.
So what’s something that you’ve been called a Bridezilla for?
Post # 2
I do not blame you one bit!! At a friend’s wedding, two ‘coworkers’ walked in during the middle of the ceremony with their dates, who they met two days before at the bar. It was such a distraction and I would have been pissed, since the two girls were invited just because the bride didn’t want to exclude the office and they brought their very CLASSY dates.
My Fiance actually called me a Bridezilla because I want to approve my bridesmaid dresses before they buy, even though they will only be given a general color scheme and length guideline to follow. I thought I was being generous by letting the girls find a dress that they feel good in and at whatever price range they want.. still not seeing how it’s being Bridezilla lol
Post # 3
A family friend called me a bridezilla because I want an unplugged ceremony.
He’s actually one of the main reasons I want to have one! My FIs brother got married not long ago and many guests(who will be our guests also) were standing in the aisle taking photos and even stopped the bride halfway up to get their shot!
Post # 4
It’s a tradition where I am from to have a cookie table (or tables…). Family members pitch in to make a boat load of cookies leading up the wedding that are displayed at the reception and people load up to-go bags of cookies before they leave. I really do not like cookies and am breaking tradition and leaving out the cookie table. I have been called a bridezilla because of it.
Post # 5
I was called a Bridezilla exactly once.
My mother was making vests for the Groomsmen, and I was at the fitting she had for my future brother-in-law. This is what my mother does professionally, so I was sitting there on the couch doing something wedding related.. seating charts? I don’t remember. She asked me what I thought, and if I wanted to change anything. I looked up and said, “It looks really nice, but it needs to be snugger on his waist.”
She rolled her eyes and said, “Okay, Bridezilla.” Not 45 seconds later, she pulled on it near his waist and said, “Hmm. Looks like this needs to be snugger.” My future brother-in-law gave me a look and almost started to laugh.
I guess she wanted me to just say “it’s wonderful” when she asked me what I thought? Maybe she thought I was too direct about it? Maybe she was expecting me to suddenly change my mind on the style and that’s what she was asking (even though it was already completed other than the final fitting)? Maybe she thought my inattention was rude and I should have been watching with rapt interest (which I would have found awkward)? Did she mishear me, perhaps? I don’t know. My mother and I have never had the sort of relationship where casually insulting each other was the norm. It actually still really bothers me, but unfortunately it was only the beginning of my mother slowly coming unhinged the closer it got to my wedding.
I asked my brother-in-law and husband (who was also there) when we left if I’d been rude, and they were both like, “Uh no, that was totally uncalled for on her part.” My husband said my eyes nearly popped out of my head when she ended up agreeing with me.
Post # 6
I wanted the flower girls to wear matching dresses. This was only a big deal because there was an age gap (3 and 8 or 9) and the older one didn’t want to “dress like a baby” and her mom (DH’s aunt) told people that I was forcing her to wear what I picked out because I was a bridezilla.
My photographer wouldn’t photograph my DH’s aunt with me, because she was wearing a white lace dress. She took pictures of her with DH’s side, just wouldn’t let her be in a photo with me. I had no idea this was happening but I’m secretly glad because I was fuming about the white dress.
We purchased the gowns for the bridesmaids and suits for the groomsmen. When one of our bridesmaids and one of our groomsmen (married) informed us (the night before) that they couldn’t make it because she was in labor, we had two other close friends wear the attire and be in the party last minute. Otherwise, that money (plus the cost of a bouquet and bout and all that) would have gone to waste. Our friends definitely didn’t mind being asked last minute. Anyways, DH’s aunt felt it was disrespectful of us to replace our original friends who couldn’t be there, and thought we should have just eaten the costs. She sought me out to tell me so before the wedding and I was so annoyed. She called me a bridezilla to my face (the other two examples were behind my back). But whatever! We had fun and I’m glad we asked our friends to step in!
Post # 7
It’s totally overused. Ugh!
Post # 8
lol my bridesmaids jokingly call me a bridezilla all the time. Theyre asking “what shoes do you want us to wear?” “Do you have specific hairstyles for us in mind?” “What style of makeup do you want us to have”, and my replies keep being the same: “I don’t care” “it doesn’t matter, whatever you want” “I DONT CARE!” They’re like “GOSH STOP BEING SUCH A BRIDEZILLA!” … I think I’m almost TOO “type B”, and they want some direction!
But my fiancé called me a bridezilla the other day because we got in an argument over invitations. I was saying that they HAD to be sent out very soon as we were reaching the 6 week deadline. He’s like ” it’s no big deal, don’t be such a bridezilla”…… well actually it is a big deal when our guests open our invitation saying “please reply by _____” and that date has already passed lol. Ugh, some dudes are clueless about all the time, effort and stress put into wedding planning.
Post # 9
I was called a bridezilla by a friend (who happend to be my maid of honor at time but no longer is, we also no longer speak to each other) because I asked to many wedding related questions and wanted a direct answer.
Post # 10
I posted about this issue a few weeks ago: I was called a bridezilla because I asked for the last names of my FI’s friends’ SOs so I could address their invite envelopes to them and their SOs. It “put pressure” on their (9month – 1 year relationships) and they just wanted a plus one… sorry guys. I want you and your SO not some random you meet a week before the event.
Post # 11
The photographer we hired set up a photo booth which was part of our overall package. What he didnt tell us was that our guests were being told they would get those pictures via email, but in fact were redirected to a site go BUY them for more than $20 a pop. My wedding is not a Las Vegas attraction and this made us look horribly tacky. We were also planning on giving these out with the thank you cards and had already paid for this in the package. I emailed him asking him to remove them from the frequent emailing site that badgered them to buy the pictures. He apparently told another client, which i had already referred to him at that point, that I was a bridezilla.
Post # 12
DH’s stepdad officiated our wedding. I found out two days before the wedding that his stepdad didn’t even take the day off of work and DH’s family is LATE.TO.EVERYTHING. Not a couple of minutes late, I’m talking multiple hours late. I had to leave the mall (when I was looking for bridal party gifts) because I started crying. I got in my car and called him to tell him how nervous this made me since he works 2 hours away from the venue and would still have to pick up Mother-In-Law, check in to the hotel, and get ready. He acted like I was out of line and called me a bridezilla. And all day on my wedding he called me bridezilla. And for a few weeks after the wedding. DH had to eventually tell him that everytime he called me a bridezilla that it really hurt my feelings and to please stop.
Post # 13
How are you making it unplugged? I don’t want phones or photos either
Post # 14
We had a boat for our wedding, there was no other way into the ceremony. We made this very clear that there was one
20-minute boat trip in, we weren’t going to shuttle people willy nilly for two hours before the ceremony. Mother-In-Law nearly had a fit because what if someone shows up late and just wanted to go to the reception??!
Well, sucks to be them. The person she was concerned about showed up four hours late
to SIL’s wedding, brought a random uninvited guest, and then skipped out early to go to bars….at a wedding with a full bar. Literally ate and left. And it wasn’t that the guest didn’t like boats, as we offered to put them on the vehicle shuttle for the 5 or so guests that had specifically asked us if there was any other way in (motion sickness/fear of water). It was literally only because this guest apparently couldn’t function in an adult-enough fashion to get to anywhere on time, ever.
Post # 15
Last weekend my sisters threw us a shower in my home state and afterwards we hungout playing games and such. We played this awful game called Spontuneous where you have to scream out words to songs! Any time I felt like I won, I was called a Bridezilla…it didn’t even have anything to do with the wedding!? LOL I feel like the second you become a bride that word is just automatically associated with you, even when you are a total Bride-Angel! 🙂