Post # 16
We were informed by my now- father in law that our hotel wasn’t honoring the room block rate during the few days before and after the wedding. Basically the hotel people said if the hotel was full, guests would have to pay full price, but if there were vacancies, they’d honor the wedding rate. However, our guests wouldn’t find out until they checked in/out which rate they’d pay. This was really unacceptable and not at all what was in our contract so I spent a lot of time on the phone trying to work it out with them. There were never any raised voices, just a lot of “I really don’t think this is how the contract reads.” The nastiest thing that was said was “This is very disappointing. We’re considering taking our business to the hotel across the street.”
When we called my father in law back a day later and explained that it was fixed and he didn’t need to concern himself with it any longer, he replied “Looks like I unleashed bridezilla on them! My apologies to the staff!” He wasn’t joking. My husband defended me and said it was for his benefit, but he just laughed it off saying he hoped the hotel staff would recover from my tirade.
Oo another one: I was a little wary of talking about our wedding at work. But there was a small clique who always asked. One day they were asking about the bridesmaids dresses and I said they were all picking thier own. They pressed me on the details for it and I said they could choose any long blue dress, but that I typically didn’t like shiny dresses (taffeta, silk, etc.) and anyways it was a spring outdoor wedding so I had suggested chiffon or something light. One of them said “They can’t even pick a fabric? That’s too strict. You’re a bridezilla.” Everyone agreed, I sort of rolled my eyes and said it really wasn’t that strict a policy and they all told me to lighten up and that it was okay because all millenials are bridezillas because we’re all spoiled and entitled.
Post # 17
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
DH had a custom suit made since we couldn’t find one that he liked and he wanted to purchase, not rent. It was HIS choice, but people called me a bridezilla for spending so much on my groom’s attire… Meanwhile, I was laid back and DH was a TOTAL Groomzilla!!!
Oh, and the hotel totally F-ed up our room block and deleted our bridal suite out and gave it to someone else and the hotel was completely booked. So, DH and I literally did not have a room and found out days before the wedding. We had a contract to prove it was booked for us a year in advance. I was P-O-ed!!! I was venting about it and got called a bridezilla… really? I literally had no place to sleep, I think that calls for making anyone upset! Luckily the night before the hotel honored the contract.
Post # 18
So far it hasn’t really happened. Fiance did call me a “reverse bridezilla” at one point, because I was being really strict on a few things – but they were related to guest comfort. It was something with our photographer, I think she suggested a few hours gap inbetween for pictures and I was like NO our guests will not have to wait for us to go frolicking in a meadow for pictures. He laughed about it but I guess maybe it came out a bit harsh lol.
Post # 19
never was called one outloud…;)
We got a lot of lovely gifts that were sweet and in line with etiquette really. Deep southern family. Anyway, a friend from an even more southern upbringing – I’m talking old Mississippi money – gave us a set of knives and nothing else.
My poor northern groom didn’t realize the panic I threw. He rolled his eyes as I exchanged a “set of perfectly good knives” but he got to pick out something he wanted, so in the end everything was fine.
Except the friendship. Concidentally, those friends have dropped from the face of the planet.
Post # 20
What is wrong with a set of knives as a wedding gift? Good kitchen knives are expensive – seems like a very geneorous gift. What am I missing?
Post # 21
I’m also really confused? It seems like a really generous gift and you’ve rewarded their generosity with dropping them as friends? Huh?
Post # 22
Okay, so I just looked this up – apparently it’s bad luck to give knives as a wedding gift as it symbolises a severed relationship….
apparently though, you can give the gift giver a penny to mitigate the bad luck, as then it counts as a purchase rather than a gift.
have to be honest, id have handed over the penny rather than cut off a generous friend who bought me a gift!
Post # 23
Huh. I never knew that. Guess we shouldn’t have registered for (and received) a very nice set of kitchen knives?
Post # 24
“I was called a bridezilla because I asked for the last names of my FI’s friends’ SOs so I could address their invite envelopes to them and their SOs.”
Oh my. Yes, you are a bridezilla for wanting to properly address these men’s SO’s. You should just have addressed the invites, “FI’s friend and whoever he wants to bring, no pressure since he’s not in a serious relationship. Just whoever he happens to ask. No big deal.” Lol.
Post # 25
- Wedding: August 2017 - Combermere Abbey
My mum called me a bridezilla when I refused to let her invite extended family who I had not met since I was a child; I barely knew them. From the start I told her the ONE thing I really really didn’t want was a sea of strangers at my own wedding which I wanted to keep personal and just kept to my nearest and dearest.
I was so mad at the ‘bridezilla’ comment I didn’t speak to her for two weeks. She eventually got the point.
Then my Fiance called me ‘precious’ when I didn’t want guests milling around the ceremony and reception areas the day before the wedding (I wanted it to be kept a surprise and the set up team to do their thing).
Post # 26
My Maid/Matron of Honor called me a bridezilla behind my back to a mutual friend of ours because I was “badgering” her to buy a dress. She was my only attendant and 6 weeks out from the wedding, she had been ignoring all my calls and emails. The one time I got hold of her, she informed me that there was plenty of time and that she had more important things on her plate than buying a dress. Come to find out, she’d known for quite some time that she actually had to work the weekend of my wedding and preferred to not buy the dress and then no-call/no-show rather than just tell me in advance. She and I never spoke again. But I keep in touch with our mutual friend who told me this story about 3 years later.
Post # 27
Well that’s interesting. Never heard that before! My aunt and uncle gave me a block of knives and it was the most generous and exciting gift I received!
Post # 28
anothernewbee16 : sassyspoonicus :
dump them as friends immediately! There is nothing that can be done, they are clearly psychopaths!
Post # 29
Better call my grandma and tell her that we have to mail her a penny!! xD
Post # 30
Youre lucky you stood your ground. This is the story of my wedding and it is sucky/expensive