(Closed) What is the point of a bridesmaids luncheon?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

What’s a bridesmaids luncheon???? I was never invited to one…

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Also, neverheard. Is it a regional thing?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My mom almost had a heart attack when I said I wasn’t having one! I think it’s just a Southern thing? Honestly, I just had NO MONEY left. We paid for most of the wedding ourselves and after the wedding expenses, gifts for the girls, and everything, I just couldn’t drop another couple hundred dollars on a fancy meal. If you have the time/money to throw one, great. But it’s definitely ok to skip.

ETA: For those that don’t know, it’s traditionally a nice brunch/lunch/tea held in the days before the wedding. The bride takes all her bridesmaids out, and maybe her mother/grandmother, and she pays. Any more it doesn’t have to be a lunch, but a nice dinner, drinks, etc. But still…I had no cash left!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

The only reason I can think of actually doing it officially (like, if your bridesmaids/friends never get together for lunch anyway?) is if you have bridesmaids from different areas of your life and you’d like them all to meet and get to know each other better.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I had one about three weeks before the wedding.  I just had tea, cookies, and cupcakes.  It was fun!  It was nice to bond with all my girls.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

I’m not having one either– but it’s because none of my BMs can be in the same room without a fight breaking out between any of them. (Long Story!!!)

 

But it’s basically just a tradition to thank them for being with you and for all their help. It’s a good time to give them any gifts you have for them, it doens’t have to be a lunch, it can be dinner or drinks just as easy– but it’s a nice gesture to thank them for their help. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

@Calybug:  In the South it’s a much grander and bigger tradition, and it’s traditionally much more of an “event”– but I think taking them to a nice lunch is perfectly acceptable too. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m not doing one and I have never heard of one till I started planning my wedding and I’m from the south. Just another unecessary expense if you ask me. I’m having a hard time enough getting all the girls together to even get their dresses! So no, I’m not doing it.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve never heard of it.

I’m getting together with my girls for a lunch, but that’s because I don’t want a shower.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I did this just as a part of the day before the wedding, before we went to get mani/pedis and such.  We did it at a local bar and grill and it was a fun time to relax and unwind.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i’ve heard of this, if by some miracle on earth i have the money for it at the time… i probably will treat them to lunch and drinks… because we all like to do that stuff anyway, i won’t do it because it’s a “tradition” .

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think this is just one of those superfluous events that would be super fun but not needed if your bridesmaids know eachother well or if it is tough for them to travel beyond the wedding and the bridal shower. I think you can do something similar but not as formal by just having your girls out to lunch or drinks even the day before, maybe even prior to the rehearsal or something.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I didn’t do one, but the ones I have been to have been hosted by someone other than the bride.  One bride’s mother hosted something for us and another bride’s aunt had a brunch the morning of the wedding.  It was just something nice to do for your bridesmaids and a good time to get together.  I don’t think either of those cost a lot of money, just a few homecooked dishes.  

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