(Closed) What is the point of a bridesmaids luncheon?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

I had a bridesmaids luncheon for the purpose of introducing the majority of my BM’s to one another, since I had only 2 that really knew one another.  It was a nice, informal way of introducing the girls. 

Post # 33
32 posts
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m pretty sure I’m going to have to have one – 2 of my bridesmaids live in British Columbia and haven’t seen eachother for close to ten years, and 2 of them are from Ontario and are flying out for the wedding.

Post # 34
1011 posts
Bumble bee

I was my sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor.  Her other 2 BMs were from out of town.  Her jr. BMs were her now husband’s nieces, also from out of town.  Athough I knew the BMs (and they knew each other), no one knew the jrs.  I hosted a limited menu lunch in a private room at a local restaurant for my sister, the BMs, the jr. BMs, their mom, my mom and the groom’s mom PLUS the friends who were “coordinating” the wedding and reception.  I would have had it at our club’s dining room, but it was closed for the holiday weekend.  It gave the female wedding party a chance to get to know each other and my sister to us “special” gifts.  Mostly, I did it because my mom frowns on family hosting showers.  This was not a chance to give gifts to the bride, but to “honor” her.  We held it the day before the wedding since everyone had to come in from out of town.

But, yes, it is a Southern thing.  That being said, no one did it for me.  And, there was no point since my sister was my only attendant (other than the flower girl).

Post # 35
1215 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@nolabee39:  I am totalllyyyy writing that down. Pizza + margaritas for a Bridesmaid or Best Man luncheon. Perfection.

Post # 36
194 posts
Blushing bee

The only time I ever heard of that, was in one of those ridiculously expensive wedding planners that I have no intention of following. I honestly bought it as a teenager, because I fell in love with the wedding dress designs. At one time that is what I wanted to be. 

Anyway, it is definitely more of a Southern tradition, where they truly do believe a bigger is grander and better type of thing. If anything, I will have my girls come over one night for poker and strawberry daquiris. 🙂

Post # 37
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@elysion:  I completely agree with you. My bridesmaids don’t know eachother and there’s so many they want to get to know eachother, so its not so awkward!

Its your wedding and its your traditions 🙂 DO what you want

Post # 38
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@elenagilbert:  Being from The South, it isn’t bigger is better. I was raised it is about being polite. I am having an Afternoon Tea for my mom, future mother-in-law, future-sister-in-law (matron of honour), future niece, (bridesmaid), and my grandmother. I haven’t asked my fsil, & fn to do anything except show up, but I believe it is just the polite thing to do. Being Southern isn’t about being bigger & better, that is just a sterotype. By The Way, we are only having about 50 people at our morning wedding, so not big & grand. Just my two cents. Every bride is different.

Post # 39
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s normal in my circles, but I’m going far more casual than tradition (and certain family members) would dictate; I’m not one for anything fancy, and neither are my girls.  And since this will probably be the first time that they get to meet each other–and we’ll all be frazzled anyway with last minute preparations–I’d rather that we all just relax.  Their initial reaction was ‘we get to have another party’?  Then they said just to make sure there were good moz sticks and plenty of beer!

Post # 40
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

This is my first time hearing of it and I love the idea, I plan on gifting things to my bridesmaids, but I want to spend sometime with them and thank them for being my girls!!

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