Post # 1
…when well-intentioned loved ones chirp in with their opinion on your wedding every five seconds?
I’m newly engaged and I’m already feeling overwhelmed by how opinionated people are being about my wedding that doesn’t even have a date yet! lol I’ve already heard everything from “I’m not coming unless you have a shrimp cocktail” to “Don’t use mirrored plates in your centerpieces, that’s so tacky” to “Photography is so not worth the expense.”
Mind you, I don’t agree with any of the comments I’ve listed as examples (I like mirrored plates!), and I’m sensitive by nature, so everyone giving me their two cents is quickly becoming a burden.
So my question is: What is the polite way to respond to such comments or questions that gets across the following message: “Thank you for your input, but it’s my wedding, and my money, and if I desire your opinion I will ask.”
or is there a way to get that across politely at all?
Post # 3
I’ve just been saying “thanks,” and then going on about my merry way, doing what I want and disregarding the advice immediately. 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2010 - Indian Head Camp, Honesdale Pennsylvania
Smile and nod. Smile and nod.
Post # 5
“Thanks for your suggestion- we’ll have to think about that one!” Then, either think about it or immediately discard it from your mind- depending on what the idea/ suggestion is.
Post # 6
I agree with the smile and nod. It works so much better than saying it’s my wedding blah blah blah…you don’t have to take the idea and they leave thinking you have. Everyone leaves happy!
Post # 7
I always use the “I’ll definitely run it by my fiance to see what he thinks!” and then promptly ignore. As Veggie said, smile and nod works well too. 🙂
Post # 8
hahaha smile and nod seems to be the consensus and I must agree… some things are better to just ignore! You will get a lot of it, so just roll it off your back and move on!