(Closed) What is the polite way….

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would recommend just politely telling her that the tuxedo rental comes to this amount of money and if she wants to send it in with her son __, and leave the rest to you, that’d be great. Approaching money issues is often best when you are direct and matter of factly. If she has an issue, you can mention that the wedding budget doesn’t account for her sons attire, although you wish you could. Also, does she know about the flower girls dresses being paid for? Perhaps this is why she assumes. If this is the case, perhaps take on a percentage of the cost to be fair.

I know how difficult it can be, but doing it quick and casually may work best 🙂

Good luck!!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree you should be direct with her. Probably should have made her pay for the flower girls dresses too so she didn’t think she could do that.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ask their budgets for flower girl dresses, so you can start shopping together.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

People get nervous when talking about money. Treat the subject like any other. Be open and direct.

” Hi____, please remember to send a blanck cheque in the amount of ___ , with ___ next week at the fitting for his tuxedo. If it’s convenient, you can also send the cheque for ___’s dress with him too.”

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just let her know how much it is going to cost and let her know that payment is due that day or whenever it may be due.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

This probably should have been discussed beforehand.  Either when you asked that her children be in your wedding, or when she agreed to it.  Lol hindsight is always better than foresight I guess though right.  I always thought it was customary for people to pay for their own clothing as well.  

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

This probably should have been discussed beforehand.  Either when you asked that her children be in your wedding, or when she agreed to it.  Lol hindsight is always better than foresight I guess though right.  I always thought it was customary for people to pay for their own clothing as well.  

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