(Closed) What is the proper etiquette to state ‘no kids allowed’?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We put “Adult Reception” on our invitations.  I would also make sure to put a line on your RSVP cards that say “__ of __ guests attending” where you fill in the second line with the number of guests (or a line that says “__ seats have been reserved in your honor”).

Post # 4
Member
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

one way is to state “adult reception only”.   you can also try the “we have reseved  2   seats”  for you and hope that they get the clue

there are lots of threads here about how people have done the above and still get rsvp’s for extra people, only last week the invite was for 2 and rsvp’d back 12 – yes, 12

goodluck!!!!

Post # 8
Bee
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

Yup – we are going with the ‘adults only’ thing, I think – even though my gutter brain reads that like something pervy. 😀

Our venue, once hearing we weren’t having kids at our wedding, said they’ve had brides use the ‘at the request of management’ line on their invitations in fine print, so that the ‘blame’ is partly off the bride & groom, but I’m not sure how many people would actually read that & plead ignorance, ya know?

Post # 9
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47 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

On the RSVP cards you can put “Number of adults_____” rather than “Number of guests____”.  That should be a big clue.  The rest pretty much has to happen word of mouth or on your wedding website.

Post # 10
Member
756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

A friend of mine who got married recently stated on the invitations: “We respectfully request that you leave the little ones at home.” I thought that was a nice way of wording it.

Post # 13
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10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If you are putting adults only, I reccoment the second line indicating how many seats your are reserving.  We did this for our wedding and had to call a bunch of people who still RSVP’d for their children although the invite said “Adult Reception”  We were in the same boat at you, if we invited children we were looking at another couple thousand dollars in just kids!

– Good luck, people can get REALLY touchy on this one

Post # 14
Member
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We put “adults only cocktail hour and reception to follow ceremony..” on ours.

Post # 15
Member
31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Adult reception to follow is the proper etiquette. However, they will assume they can bring the kids to the wedding, which means more chairs. And some will leave before the reception since they have to take the kids home. I agree with you completely. We had no kids at the reception. Our Son and Jr Bridesmaid made an entrance with us, changed, and left. It was great. And we got wild!

Post # 16
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2496 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

On ours, we set it up where it read:

__________________________
we have reserved            seats in your honor at our reception

 

Then, I wrote in each guest’s name on the line, and I wrote in how many total seats were reserved for them in the blank.

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