Post # 1
I was just thinking…why do we put out favors? Here are the answers I think of:
- To thank guests for coming (thank you cards?)
- To show hospitality to guests (food/drinks/dancing?)
- To remind guests they attended (pictures?)
- To remind guests of your anniversary for years to come (huh?)
- To gift the guests (WHY?)
I honestly do not know why we have favors at weddings. And I read that donating money in your guests’ honor should not count as a favor, since you’re doing it for yourself, not the guest. So…why have them?
Post # 3
Ours is going to be to thank everyone for coming and just in general being there for us and to show hospitality because it will probably double as the out of town bag. I do think donating money though counts as a favor and personally as a guest it would not bother me.
Post # 4
Hmm… Good question. I can tell you that the only reason we’re having them is that we needed a way for FI’s favorite Mexican food place to be represented without actually having them cater the wedding :). We’re doing small glass bottles of taco sauce. 😛
So maybe add to that list “To share something the B&G love with their guests?”
Post # 5
@jo.lee: OOh! See now that’s a good reason!
Post # 6
Honestly, as a guest of a wedding I have never liked the ideas of Chotchkies. I think 90% o the time they are tacky and worthless and a waste of money. your thank you cards say thank you period end of story. IMO and for my wedding we will be doing donations with a note on the table that says in lue of gifts, we have donated to “X” charity in honor of our our grandparents in the name of friends and family of our wedding.
Post # 7
I’m glad someone asked this! I really do like thinking of it as sharing something we love with out guests though. It makes spending the money easier…. BUT, I can’t think what that would be!!!
Post # 8
@staceynrick: who just got married did a little box of candy with a story behind each. 1 was a buffalo staple of sponge cake being that the groom was from buffalo and the other piece was a staple piece of candy from her home town. At least it was edible and a sweet little story!
Post # 9
My sister is doing the cheapest favor possible…but honestly, I would rather she not even do any. I just don’t see the point of having a coaster, CD, bookmark or what have you, with the couples name and/or wedding date on it. My sister is doing edible favors…but still…even then I am sure everyone won’t take them. Definitely an optional expense.
Post # 10
You know, I think I should have been asking “Why?” a lot more while planning this shindig. I think that would’ve saved me a lot of stress. Well, crap.
Post # 11
We used ours to thank guests for coming. We had homemade cookies for everyone, and I think it’s nice to give them a little extra thing other than just a thank you note for attending a day that is that special to you. Especially for people who travelled and spent a lot of money to get there.
Post # 12
We didn’t have favors. Most of the little tchotchke things are wasted on me but I would enjoy an edible favor!
Post # 13
I am not doing them. I never take them when I’m a wedding guest. i am doing a bag for out of town guests, in their hotel room.
Post # 14
You make so many good points!
I also think they can be a waste/tacky, and I don’t like to waste things.
We ended up doing a donation, but that was definitely more for us, and spun out of the whole ‘I can’t believe we are spending so much money on this one day’. Giving some of that to a good cause may have helped us feel a little better.
Post # 15
@ddw: Great answer…well, crap.
@MightySapphire: Thank you so much for making a post like this! Finally!
Such a waste of time & $, and get tossed in the garbage. My mom was just telling me how she worked a rehearsal dinner last night (shes a caterer) and they had favors at the Rehearsal Dinner (1st…why?) They were stemless wineglasses w/ the B&G’s name engraved on them. (2nd …Why in the world would I want just 2 glasses, with someone else’s name on them?! )
Dinner (2 since all Out of Town guests are invited to RD), dessert, cocktails (open bar!), brunch – isn’t that enough? Thank you notes of course too.
Phew. Sorry to vent, but again… WHY?
Post # 16
We are having a photobooth, so our favors will be the pictures that print out that our guests can take with them. We will get all the photos on a CD from our photographers, so we have no need for the hard copies ourselves.
Edible favors are nice sometimes, but you still get so much waste! I have known people who take their favor home and throw it out there because they just don’t want to be rude and leave it the wedding.