(Closed) What is the secret to feminine arms/shoulders?

posted 5 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I have the same problem with my legs! Once I start exercising, they get a bit bulky and look less feminine. I had this problem even when I was very thin, doing ballet as  girl/teen. I would do so much for willowly, feminine legs! Honestly, the closest I get is just not exercising them too much, and avoiding too much weight or resistance. I feel like it just comes down to genetics. The bright side is, I bet no one else notices it. When my legs get more muscular, I get a lot more positive comments, even if I’m miserable because my legs have gotten proportionately bigger.

But seriously, if any bees have the magic secret, I’m listening!!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I really think it’s genetics – and the grass is always greener on the other side seemingly πŸ˜‰ I am willowly with long, thin limbs and CANNOT, for the life of me, put on any muscle. I was always jealous of girls with sculpted shoulders and legs! 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I want to know, too!  I used to be on swim team and I box.  As a result, I now have what is known as man shoulders.  I also put on muscle really easily, so…I’m stuck!!!  I can’t ever wear my hair up with a strapless dress…whyyyyyy…

For the wedding, I tried to lose the man shoulders so I stopped boxing for awhile and started just doing a ton of cardio in the hopes that my muscles would just go away.  I still do yoga once a week to keep things toned, but my bicep size has definitely gone down a bit.  Maybe it’s just the type of exercise we do?  I remember when I swam like 3 hrs a day I refused to wear anything strapless. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I used to do ballet and I was always told that lower weight/higher reps bulds long and lean muscles as opposed to doing higher weight/lower reps for bulky muscles. For instance we used to do a lot of workouts that involve holding your arms in the air for LONG periods of time. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Dareebs:  Lol just to elaborate we held them at a 90 degree angle (straight out from your body) and sort of went between rotating them to doing flapping motions and holding them still. Apparently if you can hold them for a certain number of minutes it’s equivalent to so many push ups. I don’t remember but I’m def going to google it now!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Dareebs:  When I tried that, my overall shoulder/arm size went down, but I feel like that jiggly part in the back of my arms got jigglier -______-  But I am wearing my hair down, so at least I have something to hide them under πŸ˜›  Also, boxing is so fun…

On the plus side, if I ever do the Hulk pose in my wedding dress, it’ll be super convincing.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

@sablemuse:  +1 Ballet workouts are amazing. The best is that I would be drenched in sweat after dance class, particularly on the strength training days (weight-free). Trying to get your body in the exact positions with precise, deliberate motions works you out a lot harder than peiple think (and develops strong, lean muscles).

@Dareebs:  OP, I’d recommend ballet/Barre (you don’t have to do pointe, either) or pilates. I have naturally “cut” arms. So I am hyper-conscious about not overdeveloping my shoulder/arm muscles. Both of these tone/strengthen my limbs wonderfully without making me feel like a Mr. Universe candidate.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Dareebs:  Lol idk those weren’t exactly technical instructions just a description of what would end up happening. It’s a bitch holding your arms up for that long!! HAHA

I can’t find anything on Google. It’s possible that whoever my instructor was at that time made the pushup part up. I *can* tell you that we were all deathly afraid of lifting any kind of serious weight that would make us bulk up.

Nowadays I think it’s mostly genetics. I’ve tried to put on muscle and it’s actually pretty hard for me. I used to date a trainer and we would work out every day with weights (I didn’t get too crazy but I lifted my fair share) and I never really bulked up. The guys at the gym used to go on and on about how a woman being muscular just takes her from hott to OMFG hott and how cool it would be if I could get some muscle but I had to accept the fact that it’s probably never gonna happen. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Dareebs:  Girl barre is not going to work after one or two tries.. lol! It’s a long term commitment. You have to get married to it, move in with it, do it’s laundry and cook for it! LOL

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Dareebs:  Imagine you are trying to hold your arms perfectly still and then they start wobbling a little. So then you decide screw this, I’m going to intentionally wobble and put some concentration into it and just do a million little mini flaps so small that nobody can really see them but I know they’re there because I’m dying of boredom. That’s how.

 

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