(Closed) What is the thank you etiquette for a group gift?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Do they all work in the same department? I’m tempted to say I’d write them a big group card and include everyone’s name on it – even if not everyone pitched in. It’s kind of covering your back and still acknowledging that they all had a part of it.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i had this happen at my shower, FMIL’s coworkers all pictched in and got us several kitchen essentials. and i had one coworker who decided to gift us on her own, but had signed both the group card and her own to us.

i played it safe and sent a thank you card to everyone individually with thanks for all of the gifts and added in “giftcard” to the coworker who gave us a separate gift as well.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

If you knew who contributed, I’d say that they should each get a separate thank you note.  But since you don’t, I think you’d be alright with a single card to the whole group.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

If you don’t know who contributed in the department, just do a single group card to everyone. I think that’s perfectly fine!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

When preparing to send my “thank you” cards after my bridal shower, I researched to see what the etiquette is on group gift thank you’s- and it said that you should send each person a separate thank you note. Even if you’re not sure who didn’t contribute, I would send the thank you notes to each person anyway, just to be safe. No harm will be done if you thank someone who didn’t technically contribute. Hope this helps! 🙂

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper

Do you know who “led” the gift contributions? You could write a single thank-you and give it to the leader to circulate among contributors.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We received a nice gift from my former co-workers. I sent separate thank you notes to everyone who wrote in the card. Best to be sure.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

you should absolutely write individual thank you notes!  did they not sign a card?  if you dont know EXACTLY who was included is there maybe one person you can ask? (someone you suspect may have led the gift-giving?)   or, if you really cant figure it out, i would just send thank yous to everyone….better to accidentally thank someone who didnt contribute than to leave out someone who did.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

At my office, it is considered normal to write an e-mail to the entire department thanking them for the gift (if indeed it was a department-wide event, even if not everyone contributed).

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I personally would ask one person who might know best, who all it was whom pitched in. This way you can personally thank them individually which always means more to people. Plus I would like to know for future reference if someone had an event like that, to be sure to get them something as well. Because maybe someone you wouldnt expect to pitch in did and you would hate to not return the favor one day.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would try to find out who all pitched in. I would ask and just say that you are writing thank you notes and want to make sure you include one for everyone who pitched in.

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