Post # 1
one of my BMs is in another wedding, and before i got engaged, she was telling me about the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress the other bride had selected. here is the dress i’m talking about
long story short, she was complaining about how it cost $200 — and she was NOT happy about this at all because she didn’t even pay that for her prom dress. she never complained to the other bride about it because she recognized it wasn’t her day, but she did to me. to a degree, i definitely agree. it’s a short, simple, dress and while beautiful, it seems like a LOT of money to spend on a dress.
but now that i’m looking for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses myself, it is really hard to find an inexpensive long Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. initially i was going to go with short dresses but since my dress is a full ballgown with a ton of sparkle, i felt like short dresses didn’t match the elegance of my dress.
and because of the complaining i heard from my Bridesmaid or Best Man about the other dress she had to buy, i’m being excessively conscious about how much my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses will be because i don’t want her to feel the same way about my choice.
honestly, i don’t really care all that much about what my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses look like aside from color. i want a light blue and dark brown sash. that’s it though.
what do you think is too much for a long Bridesmaid or Best Man dress? and… what do you think is typical of a long Bridesmaid or Best Man dress? lastly – has this ever happened to you with one of your BMs (what did you do)??
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens
My Bridesmaids dresses were about 230 after taxes in the bridal store but I found them online at houseofbrides.com for 120$!!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens
Here’s a picture 🙂 Bari Jay 103
Post # 5
I’m stressing over this, too! I really didn’t want to make my bridesmaids pay a ton of money, but I’ve been searching and searching and it’s really hard to find any good ones for under a hundred- even for short ones. My sister had long dresses and we paid $150. It’s getting close to prom season, so maybe you can find some off the rack (although it will take some sifting through the “promy” dresses!) For long dresses, I would say $150 is the highest I would pay without complaining. Good luck!
Post # 6
@Miss Marine: Those dresses are gorgeous! I say that mostly because I had thought about it for my wedding dress! 🙂
Post # 7
I think $200 is the cap, any more is a little excessive. My sister’s were more than that. It was really hard to find a nice, modest dress that complemented her gown, as well. We were just happy to find what we did, we didn’t really talk about the price.
You may want to look into purchasing the dresses online through bestbridalprices.com (that’s where my girls ordered through) or netbride.com We ordered dessy dresses for about 40% less than the bridal salons wanted for the same dress, and they had free shipping.
Post # 8
I think you’re going to get a huge range here. It all depends on your personal finances, where you live, and how ‘thrifty’ you are as a person. Some people don’t mind dropping $200 plus on a dress, where others will balk at that. I have been in two weddings. I paid $200 plus alterations and taxes for the first one, which I thought was too much (plus I was 22 with little money). In the other, we went off the rack and the dress was about $70 including tax and no alterations needed. I think the bigger difference was that the first one I can never wear again, whereas the second one I’ve already worn again.
I would discuss price points with your bridesmaids. Ask them what sort of budgets they are comfortable with, but make sure you mention that you are having a hard time finding inexpensive, formal dresses.
Post # 9
I had this problem with my bridesmaids as well. I’ll tell you though, we went through dress after dress and while the prices didn’t end up differing too much, the winning dress was one that most of the girls felt they could wear again. We ended up getting Alfred Angelo style 7122 (cobalt blue dress, navy blue sash -i’m sure you could get this one in your colors) for about $140 at a signature Alfred Angelo store. This dress has more a pencil skirt, whereas the other dresses I looked at (Alfred Sungs) were a-line. Sometimes it’s not so much about cost of dress, as much as it is making the girls feel like it is rewearable. Hope this helps!
Post # 10
I’ve been in about 6 weddings in the past two years and each time I crossed my fingers in hopes the dress did not cost more than $200. I have to get everything altered (I’m 5’1″) and that is an extra expense most people seem to forget. I would actually suggest looking at David’s Bridal. I’ve gotten two long bridesmaid dresses there for under $200 and they were pretty decent. You may also want to consider heading to your local Macy’s or other department store during prom season.
Post # 11
I think it really depends on the individuals & their finacial position.
To me, $200 is a lot of money for a dress, especially if it is a dress that I won’t likely have the opportunity/desire to wear again.
However, I have coughed up that amount on two separate occassions for weddings, because I was close to the brides & didn’t want to cause a fuss (it’s not like I can’t afford it. It just seems impractical to me…but I am terribly frugal)
Post # 12
My Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are 135, I definitely knew I wanted to stay under 150.. because I know if I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man I wouldnt want to spend more than that. For me personally 200 is more than I would want to spend on a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress unless I really really loved the dress and would wear it many more times.
Post # 13
I agree with the above posters. To me, anything $150+ is a bit much for a dress, maybe up to $200 for a full length one. If you’re not too particular on the look, could you give them the colors and the length and let them choose their own? And like other bees have mentioned, department stores have some nice selections that are relatively cheap, like JCPenny or Macy’s.
Post # 14
For me, maybe im overly cheap “Frugal” at times, I tried to make it a personal goal to cap my Bmaid dresses off at $150! I am willing to use HouseofBrides.com and etc. if I do find a style that I do want that is over that!
Have you tried to find any alternative/compromise to this dress? It is very pretty!
Best of Luck!
Post # 15
@Brianalaura: i know $200 was too much for my one Bridesmaid or Best Man that was complaining … but i also don’t know how to breech the topic of what their budget is. talking about money makes me feel so… uncomfortable. if i could afford to pay for their dresses i would – but i can’t. how did you bring the topic up with your BMs?
@pengoala: the problem with them being able to wear it again is, if the color is a light blue, honestly when would they ever wear it again? the last wedding i was in, the dress was a royal blue with a sheer organza layer on top and i’ll never wear it again. the bride picked the dress bc she felt we could wear it again – but i’ve yet to find a place where it’s appropriate. =
Post # 16
I think $200 is too much to pay for a bridesmaid dress. The bridesmaid attire doesn’t stop with the dress usually either. There are often shoes to buy, shawls to wear, and hair to be done. Being a bridesmaid can really add up – and for students or new professionals, it’s hard to find a spare $400!