Post # 1
I started a thread a few months ago asking if the brides family members are suppose to wear the wedding colors because my cousin asked what my colors were so she can buy a dress. Well, now I have a ton of guest asking me what are my wedding colors because they need to buy something to wear. I know it’s just a color but I don’t want the majority of my guest showing up in purple. And no they are not asking because they want to avoid the color because some have said they already have something purple so they don’t have to buy anything. Some say that they saw a cute purple dress and so and so store and they hope its still there. Some tell me they don’t like to wear purple. This is just so strange to me.
Post # 3
maybe they want you to know (by looking at what they’re wearing) that they put thought and effort into looking good for your wedding by coordinating with it?
Post # 4
I wouldn’t have thought it was a done thing. I asked my mum if she was going to wear something in our colours (blue/silver) and she just said “no…” like ‘duh wtf?’ Her response amused me greatly.
Post # 5
i quite like the idea of guests coordinating with the wedding party, but im quite obsessive with things being symetrical so for me it wouldnt be an issue.
Post # 6
I agree it’s weird but they’re just doing it to support you. Try telling them nicely that you only want the wedding party in your colors so they really pop.
Post # 7
i had people ask the color to make sure that they DIDN’T weart it. Could that be the case?
Post # 8
I think it would be nice if everyone wore my weddng colors. Then they would all match!
Post # 9
We had a wedding last weekend and one of the guest had on the exact same yellow silver and white dress that the bride changed into for the reception. Can you say embarrasing. Im not a fan of the idea, I think it takes away from the wedding with everyone matching.
Post # 10
I’ve never heard of that. Just fib a bit and say your still deciding colors, and you welcome quest to wear any color they want.
Post # 11
if your biggest problem in life is your guests wearing purple.. id say you have it pretty good. move on.
Post # 12
It’s a bit strange guests asking about colours – none of mine have. However, I really don’t think you can do anything about it, people are free to wear what they want.
You could try requesting that people avoid that colour but don’t be too strict. A friend of mine requested no black to be worn at her wedding (I didn’t think it needed to be a request as surely noone wears black to a wedding!) and surprise! loads of guests wore black. Hate to say it but some people just have a habit of wanting to do the opposite of what is requested of them.
Just smile and enjoy your day!
Post # 13
You can’t tell guests what to wear at the wedding. You can say you haven’t decided yet and that you’d be happy for guests to wear any color, but you can’t tell them they can’t wear purple, or even that you’d prefer them not to. That’s a bit rude, IMO.
Post # 14
haha when i finally figured out our colors and told my Future Mother-In-Law she immediately ordered a dress in one of the colors.
Post # 15
that’s so strange to me – when I get invited to a wedding I DON’T match the wedding colors – I want it to be clear I’m not in the Bridal Party…that’s what my mom always told me to do. Huh.
Post # 16
What culture are you? In my culture, you match the wedding party. I’m West African and that’s how many weddings in my culture have been. Most guests, especially close families wear ‘aso ebi’ which is something designated by either the bride/groom or the families to show the close relationship to the people getting married. I only see a majority of guests not wearing ‘non wedding colors’ in what I’d term ‘American’ weddings. Different strokes 🙂