(Closed) what is with the negativity?

posted 8 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 4
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

Yeah, I’ve kind of started to be self conscious about what I post since those threads.  I have to be careful not to be too “nice” or too “mean/honest.” I’ve always tried to give good feedback and give the original poster the benefit of the doubt on various threads.  I agree, negativity has stepped up a notch.

Post # 5
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237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree as well, I think there are tons of great and postive people on here and I have already gotten some awesome ideas from boards and blogs. I know that I am just a pretty positive person in general but I always get upset to see people to have nothing better to do than complain about other people’s postings… Thats just me though!

Post # 6
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3166 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

lol after the last few weeks, i was waiting for someone to say something! i’ve been a longtime lurker and only now that i’m engaged have i started posting. it seems that there are snark cycles though, and we just happen to be in one. hopefully we can get back to more actual wedding-related posts soon! 😀

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Thank you so much.  I just commented the same type of thing on the “what drives you bananas” thread earlier today.  I came to the hive as a random search last year and fell in love with all the idea sharing, help, and friendliness and I feel like it has changed a lot, especially in the last month.  I don’t want to see this wonderful site turn into a negative place because it was such a help in planning my wedding, and has been helpful in newlywed issues thus far.  All this negative calling out just makes people nervous and hesitant to post anything.  I love everything about Weddingbee, except the negativity.

Post # 8
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1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think the knottie brides are planning an attack on us free-lovers over here! 

They are REALLY snarky there.

I haven’t noticed much of it though!  I did see a “things on WB that drive you nuts” thread, but that’s not bad!  We all get frustrated sometimes!

Post # 9
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I totally agree!  I was wondering about this earlier today actually.  I was thinking wow, and this is exactly why I don’t like the knot boards.  I mean yeah I’ve given some advice that could be intrepreted as harsh, but never actually insulted another person. 

Good Point!

Post # 10
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4159 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I admit, I posted on that thread about drives me crazy about WB.  I always try and be diplomatic about what I say though and I try never to put anyone down.  I’m the person at work and in my circle of friends who’s “too optimistic” and always looks at the bright side of things.  But if I feel like I need to say something here, you bet your bottom I will!

Post # 11
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322 posts
Helper bee

I have to admit that I took part in the “What drives you bananas” thread but honestly, it was because of the negativity that I did that, if that makes any sense at all. I really like this site, even though I’m not even close to getting engaged yet (found the site by looking things up for weddings I’ve been involved with) and the negativity and way that some people respond to those reaching out and just wanting to know that SOMEONE understands is killing me. I’m sure I’ve been guilty of not responding in the nicest way but I really, truly do try my best to not even comment on threads where I can’t be nice and supportive.

Post # 12
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389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think some people (ie. me) come to these boards for entertainment and fun. I think those posts have been funny and I’ve enjoyed them. I don’t think they are too harsh or “snarky”. If you see posts like that just skip over them so you don’t get upset. You may be one that comes here for a safe haven, but not all of us do, some don’t mind what they see as a little harmless fun.

Post # 13
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

I just have to also say, that since my time here on weddingbee, a lot of snarky stuff does go in cycles.  There’s also crazy posts sometimes where funny, made up drama happens–quite entertaining but not really wedding related 😉  This is just another time and it’ll pass, usually with some of those leaving WB.

EDIT:  Sorry, I repeated what another poster said above me :/

Post # 14
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

This is my take on it….there will be a lot less “snarky” posts if people refrain from commenting on them. If you see a post that you think is in poor taste..DON’T COMMENT and flag it for the moderators. I honestly think most of the problems will be minimized if not outright solved if more posters would do this. There is nothing to be gained when one poster points out that something is snarky…then 5 million other posters pile on and say the same thing. It’s just going to make that thread stay on the main page longer.

Post # 15
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2237 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@missjyc: ok, so I was quick to voice my dislike for the bee hating post, and I did that for my own reasons (which I think are obvious with my comments on that thread) but THIS thread is pretty counter-productive…being negative about the negativity that you’re seeing is still BEING NEGATIVE! Just something to think about…

In other words, I don’t think this is the solution.

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