Post # 1
I am currently in my TWW period and I am going bonkers.
My mind is playing tricks on me because I swear I am feeling odd already and it only has been 5 DPO. My Darling Husband already wants to buy me a pregnancy test. I told him its best to wait.
I am not sure what has been worse, the waiting for him to propose or waiting to see if AF shows up. I am very regular so I will know right away if I dont get AF that something is up.
Post # 3
TWW for me, mostly because the proposal caught me by surprise. I was never “waiting”- we dated a year and then he asked me to marry him. We had several marriage conversations and were living together and I knew it would come so I just enjoyed our relationship.
Post # 4
@Ballet513: Yeah I can see that the TWW is harder, I think it is because it can mean so many different things.
Post # 5
I’d say proposal, because not everyone knows IF, let alone WHEN it’s coming. TWW is assured to be a finite amount of time awaiting an answer. If “no,” the status quo doesn’t change; you’re where you started in two weeks. At least you still have the security of your Darling Husband by your side through the TWW, and can commiserate together if you have to try again.
Post # 6
@StuporDuck: So true, I guess I just forgot how it feels to wait for the proposal because I am so nervous about waiting for the BFP.
Post # 7
@Mrs.Jansen: I;m with Ballet on this one, I had no idea he was going to propose.
Post # 9
I voted proposal because I was waiting for years!! Getting pregnant came as a surprise for us. So I guess I’m the opposite of Ballet513 and ChuckNorris .
Post # 10
@S2013: “Two Week Wait” I believe. The time between ovulation and AF
Post # 11
I would say proposal, because some women wait YEARS for a proposal to happen…and well, that’s never fun.
Granted, some women never conceive, but that’s not as common as women waiting years for a proposal.
Post # 12
The TWW was worse for me because I had possible fertility issues and it felt completely out of both mine and hubby’s control. Waiting for him to propose was hard sometimes but I knew it would happen eventually 😉 and I already had the man by my side, so I couldn’t lose that much!
Post # 13
Hands down it’s the TWW for me. We’d already talked generally about getting married, so while the proposal itself was a total surprise, I was comfortable that it was going to come at some point. And I knew it was important to him to surprise me, so I was happy to wait and let him do it on his terms.
The TWW, on the other hand, is brutal! I hate just waiting for…something. And while I know each cycle is eventually going to end one way or another, I’m constantly wanting to speed time along. I’m anxious to find out if AF is coming, if so, I’m anxious for that to end and ovulation to get close so we can start trying again, then I’m back to anxious to get the results. I think it’s harder because I knew my Darling Husband was going to propose, but I don’t have any reassurance that we’ll be able to get pregnant, or what kind of timeline it will be on. I could always nag him a little if I got too impatient, but I don’t have any real control over this.
Post # 14
Urg! I couldn’t answer. Both are difficult and tied together for me. While I was “waiting” I was baby crazy and we couldnt try for a baby until we were married so that “waiting” was as much waiting for the ring, as for the chance to TTC.
TTW sucks too though. Both are tough.
Post # 15
I think TWW. If you’re waiting for a proposal I would think you already know it’s coming (at some point). For me, the more exciting part was meeting the guy I knew I’d marry–not the actual (amazing) proposal. If you don’t know IF a proposal is in the cards, I’m not sure that I’d be waiting for it. I’d be having some serious conversations. With the TWW, you could have this amazingly good outcome, a long TTC journey begin, and a million things in between. And you have limited control over it all.
Post # 16
@Torrid: i don’t know that it’s not as common to wait years to conceive vs waiting years for a proposal. particularly in your 30s.
I think it just varies from person to person. . .each individual 2ww is not as hard as waiting for a proposal, I don’t think (unless you are only waiting for 2 weeks!)
but all the 2ww combined (I have now had 12 unsuccessful 2ww) can be tougher than waiting for a proposal I think.
However, I did not really wait long for a proposal (maybe a few months btw when I was ready vs when he proposed) so I can’t relate as much. I can definitely see someone who waited 1-5 years for a proposal, feeling that it was harder than even TTC for a year. I think it just varies person to person.