(Closed) What is wrong with just being happy?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@MrsFuzzyFace: Yay! I love this. We are happy too and sometimes when I read some stories, I wonder to myself if extreme doubt, fighting and belittling each other is just a prelude to divorce 🙁

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m the same. My Fiance and I don’t fight, we may argue about something but we never fight. My friends don’t get it, they think that we’re putting up a happy face when we’re with them when really we’re not.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

@MrsFuzzyFace: Misery loves company.

Also, divorce and dysfunctional relationships, sadly have become the norm in our society. How many couples do you know that have been married AND happy for more than 10 years? Not many. I don’t even have any girlfriends in relationships that I would consider healthy, let alone happy. It is more comfortable for people to believe everyone is suffocated by jealousy, infidelity, and screaming matches because that is what they know. Healthy and happy relationships are rare so if you’re in one, you’re lucky. I wake up thankful every day.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

I think people are talking more about the “fake” happy. The over-the-top, bragging “we have a perfect relationship” happy. Not the real-life, we get along and work things through happy.

I know people that fall in both.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think sometimes people ARE putting up that front. It doesn’t mean that every happy couple is. It also doesn’t mean that couples that argue respectfully aren’t happy couples either.

I’m sort of in the middle on this topic, honestly, because Fiance and I do bicker, though I wouldn’t say we “fight.” We kind of bicker like an old couple. Think Debra & Ray on Everybody Loves Raymond. Doesn’t make us less happy as a couple, ya know? I feel like people judge no matter what.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I love this too!  I dont’ like to tell people “oh, we don’t fight” because they think there’s no way that’s possible.  It’s not like we agree on things 100% of the itme, but we know how to work it out without really arguing. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Fiance and I get crap for this ALL the time!

We rarely argue let alone fight. We just aren’t that couple. We get a long really well.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I know a lot of couples that do pretend that they’re happy. DH’s brother and SIL does that whenever we’re around, but then we hear from other ppl that whenever they visit it’s WWIII. My husband and I bicker once in a while, that’s only natural…but we never fight.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@MrsFuzzyFace: Exactly. People can’t just accept the fact that every single relationship is different, has ups and downs, and has a way of working itself out. I find it odd really that people are so “either this way or that way” about relationships after we’ve been having them since, ya know, forever. 😉 lol.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I know a lot of couples that do pretend that they’re happy. DH’s brother and SIL does that whenever we’re around, but then we hear from other ppl that whenever they visit it’s WWIII. My husband and I bicker once in a while, that’s only natural…but we never fight.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We get crap about this from our friends, but that is because no matter what, we don’t air our dirty laundry in public. We don’t have yelling fights, but we have minor things to work through.  That is just reality, but we never talk about them with friends and family.  Even if he does or says something in public that I don’t like, I wait until we are home to discuss it with him (that is if I am still miffed about it which usually I am not).

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@tksjewelry:I do the same thing. I believe it’s inappropriate to yell at your spouse over something they said in public. It’s a personal matter and I’m very private.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am so glad you posted that, I felt that way when I read a post on here a while ago complaining about how unrealistic it was to be ‘that happy’. 

Fiance and I are ‘that happy’ we dont fight, we communicate really well. If one is irritated with the other we talk about it. We never ever go to bed with something on our minds and we give eachother time to think and talk about something. 

We get on so well and some of my friends find us irritating to be around because we are so happy.

 I just came to the conclusion that its just a minority of ppl who feel negatively that way and people are happy like that more often than not and its society and the media thats made people cynical.

Be happy! Love life and enjoy it together! Thats my motto. 😀

 

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