(Closed) what is WRONG with me??

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2765 posts
Sugar bee

That’s not "nothing"… you have a lot to be stressed about!!!

A year commitment is a huge deal! Is it possible to do temp work while you look for another part time job?  I used to temp for years and while it’s not a ton of fun… you can’t beat it for commitment free employment!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I second the temp job.   I have being doing temp work during the day and I have a job at night that allows me to sleep.  It works pretty well.  I found the main thing the temp agencies are looking for is a high wpm.  My job right now is mind-numbing, but it helps pay the bills.  The employer also realizes that you don’t have any commitments to them either. 

As far as feeling depressed, I can totally understand that, too.  The wedding which occupied all of your thoughts is now over and you have the real world waiting on the other side.  Never a fun prospect with the economy in its current condition.  I deal with depression, and I just need to remember to take a step back and put thing in perspective.  Also, my therapist told me when I was looking for a job, even though a job is important, if I know for sure in my heart I would hate it, then maybe the money isn’t worth it.  

 I hope you feel better!!!

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

This is totally not the main part of your post at all, but men need to learn how to feed themselves- and us! My fiance couldn’t cook when we started dating but now he surprises me with dinner sometimes when I walk in the door. It’s lovely, and assuming you want a family, it’s nice to have a dad that doesn’t just order pizza when mom’s not there (but we did love Dad-solo nights bc of that…).

Honestly, I’ve been unemployed for a while and I think you should you take the job. Having less financial stress will help you feel better, plus it’s only a few months until they go back to school. I used to work with 2nd graders so I know it’s tough sometimes with kids, but get hubby to learn some easy dinners (spaghetti and pre-made meatballs is an easy start, or chili, anything you can slow-cook. Just toss it all in and leave it) to help ease the transition. Just my humble opinion 🙂

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

If the thought of taking the job is making you this unhappy (or at least contributing to it), I would say skip it. You’re not supposed to be miserable until *after* you start the job. Just kidding.   I do agree with the others, though, that you should consider doing temp work – a year is a long time to commit to something you don’t want, especially after you’ve only been job-hunting for two weeks. 

Post # 9
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2640 posts
Sugar bee

Actually, I was thinking maybe you should take the job.  So.. I guess I think you made the right choice. 

See the way I see it, if you are committing for a year, and are really going to school after that, this is a great way to earn extra money, and save up for when you’re in school.  And if they’re in school starting September, maybe there’s a way for you to eventually work Pt and go back to school. 

As for the child with food allergies, I guess it might depend on the allergy, but hopefully the mom just doesn’t have the food in the house.  That way you can be at ease with making them whatever, without owrrying too much.  From what i’ve heard, kids with peanut allergies, can’t really be near it or they’ll react.  So it probably wouldn’t cut it for her to allow older sister to have a a pb&j.  But if it’s milk, maybe that’s a different story. 

Good luck.  I think it will work out just fine.  And I bet once PMS dies down, you’ll feel a bit better.  Hugs.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

If it makes you feel any better, I had to take care of child with Celiac’s disease (no gluten products) and when you look at it on paper, it seems like if he eats anything outside of air, he could really be jacked up. In the long run, as someone pointed out, they will not have those products in the house or they will make it explicitly clear what is okay for him/her to eat in the house. They are probably also the type of parents that do not allow the child to eat a lot of foods outside of the house but will pack snacks for him. You’ll be just fine. I’m glad you found a job!

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