(Closed) What is WRONG with people???

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
1132 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Honestly I would have thought that your center stone is a 1.5 ct. It looks huge on your finger.

Congratulations on your engagement, your ring is absolutely STUNNING!

Post # 33
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s just.. really strange when people put you down about ring size. It’s either too big or too small or the style isn’t good enough.. we can’t win when it comes to jealousy.

Post # 34
1099 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  As hard as it is, I would have felt hurt over that, too! Why is it that, out of 100 positive comments and one negative comments, the negative comment gets us the most? That’s how I am, I always fixate on that one negative comment.

  Rest assured, you have a gorgeous ring! I don’t know where she gets off making comments about the size. I love rings that have the side details :-). I agree, there is probably some jealousy on her part, plus…she’s just stupid! Unfortunately, there are always some people out there who lack tact. Some of my friends and I have called it Dwight Syndrome (after the guy in The Office).

Post # 35
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Your ring is absolutely beautiful.  I can’t believe people can be so snarky sometimes.  Don’t let it get to you! 

Post # 36
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Gah! SOMEone didn’t get the memo that you don’t discuss the four Cs with the bride unless she starts the conversation! : / In her defence, maybe that last co-worker vented to this one about her “small” ring, and so she felt you’d feel the same?

Post # 37
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

First, that ring is VERY beautiful (and DOES look like a full carat or more IMO), and second I would let that (insanely rude) comment prepare you for just how insensitive and mean some people can be about engagement rings (by people, I mean women- sorry but true, read more on these boards for similar experiences to yours). When I first got my ring, I was EXTREMELY aware of it on my finger… and also extremely sensitive to people’s comments on it. I had alot of nice compliments, but alot of inappropriate ones too. From “That looks too big to be real” to “Are you going to upgrade in the future?” to a complete stranger grabbing my hand and blatently asking how much it cost??!!! At first it made me feel plain wierd- I hated the stigma attached to dimaonds and women/status. My standard answer now to every comment no matter what it is is “Thank you! I Love it!”, and I try to remember the way I felt when someone shows me thier ring for the first time. Congrats on your engagement! 

Post # 38
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

YES…unfortunately some ppl are just that rude. I just want to add not that it matters, but there is nothing “small” about your ring. It is beautiful on you. =)

Post # 39
2402 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

your ring is gorgeous! did you know diamonds can scratch glass? maybe you should vandalize your co-worker’s car. kidding!

here’s what I would do: when she’s within earshot, talk really loudly about your ring so she can overhear you. say something like: “I had some comments that it’s small, but I think girls who care about that kind of thing are petty.”

(disclaimer: I don’t think a girl is petty for liking big diamonds, it would just be a dig at your co-worker.)

Post # 40
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@J Dubbs: Psssssh. Don’t listen to her stupid mouth. Your ring is a dazzler! I’ve gotten a little ring snark (I have a .61 solitaire and size 5 fingers….it’s the best thing I ever could have hoped for) from some dumb chick who looked at it and said “It’s cute and you can TOTALLY upgrade later on.” I just looked her dead in the eyes and asked “Why would I need to upgrade?” As in “bitch I DARE you to say what you really mean.” She dropped the matter pretty quick. It’s not always nice to counter rudeness with rudeness but daaaaaaamn it feels good sometimes!

Sorry for digressing. But seriously….your ring is really, truly beautiful and you shouldn’t take those tactless comments to heart. Congrats and welcome to the hive!!!

Post # 41
2159 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I equate people like this to people who buy expensive cars to *ahem* overcompensate. Chalk one more up on the jealousy board; apparently she’s pathetic enough to need to get her jollies off belittling your gorgeous ring.

Post # 42
707 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

That is so awful! I also wear a .75 center stone. And my whole ring is also about 1.5 karats. I also have bigger fingers (6.5). I haven’t had anyone tell me the ring is small, but that is probably because of my environment. In fact, people are usually pretty impressed by my ring. I am a senior in college, so most of my engaged friends have very small rings. Even so, it is SO rude to comment like that on something so special!

Post # 43
616 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010


Post # 44
5323 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@J Dubbs: Holy bananas! That is a gorgeous ring!!!!!

Post # 45
33 posts
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yeah. Definitely jealousy. Your ring is amazing. It’s best to not think of the one negative comment and bask in all of the glorious positive ones. 🙂

Post # 46
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Your ring looks like a perfect size. What was she expecting, something you could ice skate on??? Sigh, I think sometimes women who are into the big diamonds forget that for some of us it’s just too much ring and then it stops feeling like an engagement ring that you wear every day and more like an expensive cocktail ring you would wear to a formal gala. That being said I have seen women rock the larger rock and they rock them well, so it’s all about the wearer. 

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