Post # 1
My sister posted pictures from my Bridal Shower and I saw this comment on the album from her friend’s mom that used to be neighbours (but friends with my sister…not me)
“Are the invitations out? We thought about coming up. Depends on what happens within the next couple of weeks. Love to see all of the old gang!”
The wedding is a month out. If you haven’t received an invitation, chances are you aren’t invited. It would be no problem to invite them if we didn’t have limited space and are already at our max!
Post # 3
Wow…..you think that would be common sense?!
Post # 4
I would simply comment that invitations have already been sent and the venue is already at capacity.
Post # 5
lol you can comment too:
Unfortunately, this is my wedding and not a reunion with your “old gang.”
That will shut her up, prob.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t comment but let your sister know (privately) you saw the comment and that if she asks again to let her know that unfortunately you don’t have any more room in the venue but that you hope you can all get together for a reunion another time.
Post # 8
@bakerella: my sister has already text’d me this morning asking me to reply and said that if I don’t she’ll reply with “sure you can come” …she doesn’t like confrontation. Either we’ll both avoid it or I’ll pipe up at some point…
ya definitely not a reunion for the “old gang”
come on now…
Post # 9
@rosesarered: What? Do not let your sister reply “Sure you can come”. Can you send them a private message or call them? Conversations like this do not belong on picture albums. I would tell your sis to delete the comment and deal with it privately.
Post # 11
@rosesarered: Wow seriously what’s up with your sister? Replying with “sure you can come” is more agressive and confrontational than not replying. Unless they have contacted her another way. Photo/album comments are easy to ignore…
Post # 12
Wow you would think that they would just get the hint. Maybe just comment back that you are at capacity for your venue.. sorry lol
Post # 13
How about a simple “no”? And leave it at that. Blunt and to the point.
And WTH was she asking YOUR SISTER?!?!?!?!? It’s not your sister’s wedding, anyway! It’s YOUR wedding!
Post # 14
Wow. PLEASE do not just be “non-confrontationl” here! You will end up with much bigger issues later! :-/
Just send a brief (but polite? although I wouldn’t be…) message or comment to her….
Post # 15
@rosesarered: Dude! My grandma told my cousin from chicago I was getting married and my cousin planned a road trip with all her friends to come to my wedding. I had to call and be like ‘you don’t even like me, don’t use my wedding as an excuse to party with your friends and get drunk on my tab. They AREN’T COMING’ People just baffle me!
Post # 16
Devil’s advocate: It sounds like she moved away. Even though she might be hoping for an invite, is there any chance she’s thinking about coming up regardless b/c people are going to be in town that she misses?
I think the problem sort of underscores the touchy etiquette of posting pics for parties for all friends to see where only a subset of your friends were invited to attend. Keeping it a bit quiet prevents you the discomfort of explaining to someone why they aren’t invited, and that person the humiliation of it.