Post # 1
Minor vent…our rsvps were due today and I haven’t received quite a few. C’mon people! How hard is it to drop the damn thing in the mail?! I know I’m not the only one who is dealing with this because I’ve read oodles of other posts, but I had to vent because everytime I mention it to Fiance he just shrugs and doesn’t seem to be bothered. Meanwhile, I’m highly irritated. Anyway, should I wait a few more days to see if any straggle in before I start hunting people down? (which I resent doing, but I realize some of our peeps just have zero manners) What’s the protocol on this?
Post # 3
After the RSVP it is perfectly ok to call people and ask if they are coming. I agree with you though, how hard is it to RSVP? Tick the box and post it!!
Post # 4
When it’s not your own wedding, it’s easy to forget about the RSVPs. Just give them a few days and then start emailing/ calling letting them know you’re trying to get a final count. They’ll let you know, don’t worry!
Post # 5
Yeah, our due date is TODAY. We haven’t done terrible, but there are still like 55 out there in RSVP land… probably hanging on someone’s fridge. Forgotten. We sent out 171 invites.
I put postage on it! All you have to do is write a name, make a check mark and write a number. I don’t get it.
Post # 6
I’m guilty of this. Sometimes I just receive an invitation and think ‘wow, thats nice. I’m going to a wedding!’ put it in my paper pile, and forget about actually sending it. It’s shameful, but I’d blame it on a lack of organization rather than bad manners. Until I started planning a wedding I really never though much of it.
Post # 7
I had quite a few trickle in after the due date, but never received a few as well. There are people that still “don’t know” even though my wedding is a week away. If you don’t know by now I will assume you aren’t showing up, if you do have fun finding a spot to sit because I didn’t make an escort card for you. I am ready for the day to come and for the stress of it all to be over!
Post # 8
Our date is next week and we have a lot still out there too. I don’t know why it is so hard for people to check the box and send it back! I am planning on calling people after next week.
Post # 9
Wait until early next week then start calling/emailing. Just be prepared for people to ignore all of your attempts to get a response. People hate to commit to anything in advance, and those who know they can’t come don’t like to admit it so they just ignore you.
You will be hunting people down up until the day before your wedding, I guarantee it. And you won’t actually know who’s coming until they’re there.
Post # 10
If it makes you feel any better my wedding is in 2 weeks and I think I have had 19 rsvps.
Post # 11
We texted/emailed since it’s a little less invasive than calling….about 15 people we contacted said yes, they never even showed up! It cost us about 1k for them……talk about RUDE! Can’t wait till their wedding!
Post # 12
I think my guests think because they saw me at a wedding last month and gave verbal RSVPs they don’t have to send theirs in.
Post # 13
well, at least i’m not the only one! time to send out some emails…..
Post # 14
I think I’m going to have to assign the contacting of guests to one of my BMs, cuz there is no way that I am going to be able to keep any passive-aggressive snarky remarks out of my inquiring “it must have been difficult for you to drop that pre-stamped card in the mail!”