Post # 1
If you were invited to a wedding (a few days after Christmas) where the couple asked for Charitable donations in their name instead of traditional wedding gifts would you think that guests would give more, the same amount, or less than what they would give if the couple were registered for traditional gifts?
I’m having a debate about this with some family members and wanted to know what you ladies (and men) think 🙂
I should add in that the charities are: a local food bank and a the children’s wish foundation …. incase this alters your opinion 🙂
Post # 4
Depends on how I felt about the charity, but I’d probably give more actually, for a few reasons: 1) I’m in the Christmas spirit, and 2) I’m more likely to spend the entire amount on a gift, rather than having some go towards shipping and tax (which can be a significant expense!). If it was a charity for puppies, definitely more. =)
Post # 5
In my opinion, they should give at least as much as they would have spent on a traditional wedding gift. However, I bet a lot people would give less.
On a side note, non-profits shouldn’t disclose the donation amount to honor card recipients, but some do.
Post # 7
I think my guess would be less. I’m much more willing to buy a great gift or give cash to the couple, than donate money to a charity I may or may not personally support. Now, if they said to donate money to the charity of my choice, I would donate the same amount as a gift I would have bought. Aren’t I a biatch? I can’t help it! 🙂
Post # 8
I’d give less since the couple is not a direct recipient…I’d rather spend my money on the couple instead of a charity of their choosing. I already give to charities that I want to give to. I agree with rebecca that I should give the same amount, but realistically, I wouldn’t – especially around Christmastime where I’m always broke.
Post # 9
I think I would spend the same amount. If it was a charity near and dear to my heart I may give more.
Post # 10
I would give the same or more because it is Christmas time as well. I think charity donations are such a lovely thought.
Post # 11
I think given the proximity to Christmas, I would feel compelled to give equal to a traditional gift or more, but if it weren’t close to the holiday, I probably wouldn’t give as much unless it was a charity I supported.
Post # 12
Less…and some people might even skip it altogether.
Post # 13
My aunt and uncle did this – and we gifted them $100 for the charity. Which is what we nomally pay for a wedding gift for friends.
However I’m with V – some people may skip it all together. I would do a dollar dance inhonor of the charity and donate that money, some people get a great deal from those and this is a way of insureing that something is donated.
Post # 14
I like sweeney’s suggestion – what a wonderful way to celebrate the union of you and your Fiance – and yet provide your guests with an activity that will put $$ in a charity of your chosing. You could include the entire bridal party to increase the donation – prehaps $1 for a groomsman or a bridesmaid and $5 for you or your Fiance – I like the idea so much – it is giving me ideas.
My Fiance and I are well established and were at a lose as to handle those who might wish to gift – I’m loath to find a spot for another toaster – and my china/crystal has been complete for years.
Post # 15
I’d give the same amount. It seems like the couple intends to have the generosity you want to show to them go to the charity. I think giving less would take away from what they inteded to do.
Post # 16
The dollar dance is not really an option. It is not something I have ever seen at a wedding.
It seems like most people think that guests would give less….. this is slightly discouraging, but I guess it’s better than nothing!