Post # 1
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Helper bee
Hi bees! So I recently admitted to Fiance that my biggest insecurity about myself is not that I’m “plus size” – I’m comfortable, for the most part, with that. It is, however, the fact that my teeth aren’t straight. I have crowding of my front teeth, on the top and the bottom. Apparently it’s not that noticable to some people (cause when I mention it they look at me like I have two heads) but it’s definitely there and I feel like its all people see when they look at me.
That said, I went to the dentist today and talked about getting invisalign! I’m going to go sign up and do the impressions TOMORROW and the doc said my treatment will probably only be 1 year – and since we’re not getting married until October 2013, that means I will be able to have the big, confident, STRAIGHT smile that I see in pictures of other brides on their wedding days!
I am so excited and Fiance is completely supportive (since it will cost $4500) and encouraging!
So, that brings me to my question…What is your biggest insecurity? Does your SO/FI/DH know what it is?
Post # 3
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Honey bee
Weight/ shape. I have a love/hate relationship with my shape. I’m getting better at accepting it.
He knows I’m a little insecure about my weight – he’s very happy with how I look, and to be honest, I think he likes me bigger.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I have light skin and some moles, it bothers me. AND I missing a tooth in the back on one side, but normally it’s not super noticable.
Post # 5
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Honey bee
Yay! Thats wonderful news about Invisalign for you! I have traditional braces right now (still have another year) and I am so so happy I did it as it was my biggest insecurity as well!! Unfortunately my weight is another issue 🙁
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
I said weight because there are areas that seem SOOO stubborn and I think to myself if it was just like THIS instead of THAT, I would be happy. I wanted to choose teeth also because I had braces forever…my teeth are straight, I get complimented on my smile but OMG I feel like my teeth can be soo much whiter! It upsets me because I think I wouldn’t be so critical (on my teeth moving a bit since braces 4-5 years ago) if they were blindingly white like you see on tv lol :((( depressing thread. We are soo hard on ourselves.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
Other, cellulite or dimples on my Butt and upper thighs….yuck
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
Ugh definitely as of lately my skin. It has just gottten so bad this past year, I am embarrsed to go out. And in fact this week I am supposed to join the gym, but the only thing holdingme back is my acne problems. It just really is that bad. And it’s everywhere…. 🙁
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
My teeth. I grind my teeth at night. I’ve tried wearing a mouthguard but I can’t sleep with it in.. really bothers me. My dentist has told me that it’s very noticeable that I grind. They’re also a yellow shade naturally.. ( I swear, I’ve whitened them professionaly three times, and it doesn’t get any better than this) I wore braces at one point, but they eventually got crooked again on the bottom, and I’m missing a few important teeth so I have vampire fangs. I hate smiling to show my teeth and I’m afraid it will affect my wedding photos 🙁 Just don’t have the funds to fix them.
Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I’m overweight, but I’m super fit, and I love my body even if I wouldn’t mind being a bit smaller. I’m 180, 5’7 or 5’8, size 12.
My skin on the other hand… I’d love to not have adult acne at the age of 28, but all I can do is manage it.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
@MissTX: I know, it is a depressing thread. But I can’t explain the relief I felt when I admitted to Fiance that I was insecure about my teeth. And he seemed shocked – he had no idea it bothered me. And I am so excited that I am finally doing something about it!
I think it’s ridiculous, the pressure we put ourselves under to be closer to physical “perfection.” But I haven’t met a woman who doesn’t. For me, its not easy to admit my shortcomings – physically or otherwise. I didn’t mean for this post to be negative or make people feel bad about themselves – I think I meant it more to show everyone that we all have things about ourselves we’re not happy with or that we wish we could change. And it’s okay.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
@mrsSonthebeach: UGH I hear ya there! I didn’t have problems with my skin until I went off of hormonal BC and got an IUD a few years ago, now I can’t seem to control it! I didn’t even have skin like this when I was a teenager! I’m actually having the IUD removed this weekend and am curious to see what happens with my skin when I go back on the pill (or the ring).
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
Mine would definitely be my skin.
I came to terms with my weight changes after I had DS and just started dressing differently… yea sometimes I miss bikini’s BUT it really doesn’t bother me…..
The fact that I’m almost always broken out in some sense DOES bother me though. It’s not always terrible but it seems that I only get 2 or 3 clear days out of the month and go from oily & broken out to dry & broken out regardless of my skin regimen.
I. HATE. IT!
Post # 15
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Helper bee
Mine is actually not about my looks, trust me my body is not perfect, but I’ve always been pretty confident about my physical appearance. My biggest insecurity is coming across to people as being unintelligent. It bothers me to ask questions, that I feel like I should know the answer to.
