(Closed) What is your biggest insecurity?

posted 8 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: What is your biggest insecurity?
    Weight : (136 votes)
    56 %
    Skin : (38 votes)
    16 %
    Teeth : (27 votes)
    11 %
    Hair : (9 votes)
    4 %
    I don't have any, I'm perfect! : (10 votes)
    4 %
    Other - see below : (25 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 31
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    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I’m the only one that voted hair! 

    I have SUPER frizzy hair but it looks fabulous when I put 1+ hour into it. Which I do almost every single day. It’s worth it but it has taken me years of practice to get it the way it is now. At least hair is fixable.

    I used to be nearly overweight. Now I am borderline underweight. 

    @hopefloats:  I hear ya! I have bad scoliosis and have to try REALLY hard to sit up straight. Sucks.

    Post # 32
    Member
    31 posts
    Newbee

    WEIGHT! I want hip-bones SO bad.

    Honestly, it’s something I don’t know how to deal with as I went through a bit of a stint being eating disordered. Now ‘watching what I eat’ kind of triggers me.

     

    I know I’m not that big. I’m 5’4 and 133 lbs, but it doesn’t matter. Ideally? I’d love to be 113 again. 

     

    Other than that funky issue? Hmm. I’m not good at styling my hair. Seriously. 

    Post # 33
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    1087 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I have adult acne that is only semi under control :(. And my face scars bad even when I don’t pick at it. I don’t like to wear heavy makeup, so its kind of like when I break out, it is all there to see.

    Post # 34
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    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It used to be my teeth now I got braces so that is out the window. When I look in the mirror all I see is Fat. I used to weight 145 and now I am close to 180. I try to avoid looking in the mirror.

    Post # 35
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    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I have to say my body (not really my weight). I really hope no one is mean about what Im about to say. As a dancer for 15 yrs, I was critisized, weighed and pressured to be tiny and thin. Now that Im almost 30, Im not a stick anymore. I have curves and although I still ordered my dress in a size 2 (I was between a 0 and 2), I feel, well not ‘thin’ enough. I know I have body dysmorphia and Im working on it but its hard. AGAIN, I really hope that I dont get insulting comments. I dont see what others do and I know many women wished to be a different size. We are all beautiful in the shape God gave us!

    Post # 36
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    2305 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I said my hair. I’m a natural red head, and my natural color is very… well bright. Here’s a completely ridiculous picture of myself in high school with my natural hair (I had to go back that far, since i Haven’t had my natural color since then! and I don’t usually have that look on my face)

    Anyways, my hair is a very brassy red, and I’ve been teased about it since I was very young. While both my parents are redheads (my dad natural, my mom by choice), my siblings are both blondes, and they decided early on it was something to pick on. And so did everyone who ever met me. It’s a sore sport for me.

    So i’ve been dying it different colors since I was about 14. I’ve been every single color possible- blonde, brown, dark red, black, fire red, green, blue, pink, yellow, teal, purple, pretty much if I can do it, I did it. I’ve since given up on the odd colors, but I probably will never stop dying my hair. I hate my natural color that much, thanks to kids being kids and teasing me! And even if people say “OH I’D KILL FOR YOUR COLOR!” a milion times, I still hate it.

    Post # 37
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    2273 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @justmoi22:  I understand after being one way for so long it would be harder to deal with the change. It would be hard to change the mindset 🙁 

    It really is a pity we can’t all love ourselves the way we are – I know my Fiance loves me just the way I am now if only I could see me the way he does hahaha

    Post # 38
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    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @Cash000- Hun try SKINN by Dimitri I got it on the Shopping Channel and it is AMAZING. I had bad skin, breakouts, lines, dryness. My skin is so nice now!

    Post # 39
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    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    @justmoi22:  I have never been a dancer but am obsessed with dance, anyway. I definitely get what you are saying. It is tough to be in a profession where your body is so highly criticized and then praised for being stick-thin. I am also a size 2 and never feel small enough! (Although, a size 2 these days is not really that small anymore due to vanity sizing, ugh.) 

    Don’t feel bad for thinking that you’re not thin enough. Just take control of it and don’t let your thoughts get the best of you. There are a million girls out there that would KILL to have your body. 

    Post # 40
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    1212 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I hate my body right now. I feel like it’s a reflection of how badly I’ve treated it over the years. I’ve never been “skinny”… I was always a muscular and curvaceous girl, but I was always very fit – a size 4/6 or so. I always thought I was fat, so I dieted and worked out like crazy to avoid gaining even a pound. Then, I became emotionally healthier and gained a little weight. I was harshly criticized and bullied for it and eventually became so miserable with my body that I stopped even trying. It was like eating crap was punishment to myself for gaining weight. The thing that makes me sad is that I know I would have lost the small weight gain once I balanced my emotional health with my physical health. Instead, all of the horrible things I heard just pushed me to a bad place where I stopped taking care of myself. 

    I’m a size 10 right now and I just feel like I’m in someone else’s body. It’s not that I think a size 10 is so horrible (I know a lot of people bigger than myself who I think are gorgeous), but I feel ashamed because I know I did this to myself. 

    Post # 41
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    1443 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Mine was always weight. 🙁 it hasn’t ever been a secret on here. The huge bummer now is, after years of making myself sick from bulimia, I now hate my teeth!  They used to be straight and white and nice…now they are yellow, almost see-through on the edges, and have cavities. I  am terrified to go to the dentist because the second I say”ahhh”, they can tell what happened.  I wish I would have loved my body the way it was when I was a teen/in my 20’s. All that pressure to maintain a certain weight really took a toll on my body. 🙁

    Post # 42
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    1443 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

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    Post # 43
    Member
    6891 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    It has always been and continues to be my weight. I say that, but I wasn’t a chubby child. As soon as I hit puberty though, I had this weird stubborn belly fat that hasn’t gone anywhere. I later (last year) find out that it’s probably my PCOS and hormone issues. Oh good, 12 years later and I FINALLY know what it is. That doesn’t erase my anxiety and body image issues over the past 10-12 years. I look back and realize I wasn’t that big in high school (around a 12/14, but I am 5’10) and I’m like…I want that back! I’m bigger than that now, not because I eat unhealthily or don’t exercise (as the media and rude people would think) but because my hormones have been attacking my body and making it pretty close to impossible to lose weight. It is literally three times (or something like that?) as hard for women with certain disorders to lose weight. I don’t hate my body, I’ve come to terms with it so to speak, and yes I do feel pretty some days. But in general? Not a fan. :/ Boo.

    Post # 44
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    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @brenda.m.fields   You’re not the only one. 

    My Fiance just said “I can’t believe you’re 28 and still getting zits.”  He got a nasty look for that one.

    As for weight

    I’ve battled weight/shape insecurity for a long, long, looooong time.  I finally just got fed up with hating the way I look.  So I don’t.  I just dislike it :).  I work out 4-6 days per week, and I’m pretty much at a point where if I’m doing everything I can to be fit, I just can’t justify hating my back fat, or soft spots, or whatever.  My body is strong and does exactly the things I tell it to (except dance well, lol), so I’m learning to appreciate it for those strong points.


    My skin, on the other hand, is disastrous.  Giant pores, ruddy complexion, and HUGE painful zits at least twice a month.  I’m just exhausted financially and emotionally from trying to fix it, frankly. 

    I also hate my thin, flat, unladylike hair.  I would consider terribly immoral things just to have a nice, thick head of hair. 

    Post # 45
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    724 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @justmoi22:  I’m the same way. I was a dancer for 14 years. I was always the “heavier” one in my dance company at 5’7 and about 128 (which I now realize is not heavy at all!). Since I stopped dancing about 6 years ago, I have gained about 20 lbs and am just not comfortable in my skin. I workout and eat healthy and I know my weight gain is due to hormonal changes and not killing my body like I use to dancing 6 days a week for 5+ hours per day. I’m not sure there will ever come a time that I don’t want my dance body back! 

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