Post # 1
I was having a discussion with my dad about attire. Our invitations specified casual attire. To me that means our guests are welcome to wear whatever they feel most comfortable in, be it jeans or a nightgown or whatever. I even gave one of my SILs permission to wear her signature pajama pants and t shirt with no bra! I suspect that all my friends will be wearing jeans. And I know that my gentleman will be.
Dad says that when an invite says “casual” it means business casual (dress pants, button down shirt) and everyone knows that as common sense. He says he’ll be offended if people show up in jeans.
So I guess I’m wondering what casual attire really means?
Post # 3
I absolutely think there is a difference between “casual” and “business casual.” Your dad is correct about what business casual attire IS, but that is not the same as casual.
We’re having a pro-jeans friendly wedding too. At first, my dad was taken back when I said that neither Fiance nor anyone else was not going to do a tuxedo or suit because we were having a casual wedding. But when I showed him pictures of what I was going for (nice jeans, button down shirt for FI), and further told him that I would prefer if he wore his regular jeans and cowboy boots because that is how I know him to normally dress, he warmed up to the idea and is excited about it.
Post # 4
It probably depends on the age group that receives your invitation. Older? Business casual. Younger? Likely jeans and a t-shirt. If you really want to drive home the point, you can make it more specific, like “everyday wear”.
Post # 5
The occasion itself sets some of the tone for the attire. “Casual” on a wedding invite is not the same as “casual” on a birthday party invite. For the casual birthday party I’d expect everyone to be in jeans or similar attire; for the casual wedding I’d expect guys in dockers or similar pants and collared shirts (nothing less than a polo). As a guest, I’d wear probably a sundress to a casual summer wedding, and I’d think anyone in jeans were kind of sloppy and not properly acknowledging the occasion.
so technically both you and your father are right. But I’m definitely on your fathers mindset.
Post # 6
@Aquaria: For me, casual is pretty much anytghing goes, ie, there are no ‘rules’. I would call the type of thing your dad is referring to ‘smart casual’; if I received an invite stating smart casual I would assume that, for eg, men were required to wear long pants (not jeans), and a collared shirt.
However, if I received a wedding invite with a casual dress-code, I would probably still err on the side of caution and dress smart-casual.
Post # 7
Casual to me means jeans and anything goes. However, because it’s a wedding, I’d probably go dark jeans and a nice dressy top or something
Post # 8
If the only thing I had to go by was the invitation, I would lean more towards business casual, or maybe a jersey dress.
I would only wear jeans to a wedding if it was going to be cool and the venue along with the invitation suggested it would be appropriate.
Post # 9
If I received an invitation that said dress was ‘casual’, I would wear a sundress with maybe a wedge heel or embellished sandals.
Post # 10
I would wear business casual to a casual wedding. I would wear a dress, but nothing fancy.
Post # 11
To me, casual to a wedding means sundress and sandals. If you’re okay with guests in jeans, then go for it. PJ’s and no bra, however, is unacceptable (for anything outside the house, especially a wedding) IMO.
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Post # 13
i would wear a sundress or shirt and dressy top. i would assume men would wear khakis/black pants, and polo/buttom down top
Post # 14
Casual to me would be a sundress and flats, guys in jeans and a polo. And I don’t ever get why people get so offended about jeans at a wedding, it has absolutely no reflection upon you if another adult choses to wear clothes “outside” the dress code. They are adults andncan chose to dress themselves.
Post # 15
@fishbone: Took the words right out of my mouth 🙂
Post # 16
For a casual wedding I would probably wear a cute dress and sandals. FH would wear dark jeans and a button up shirt.