Post # 16
Couples therapy kinda saved us. Like, no lie. And it had nothing to do with our interactions with one another (we have always been deeply in love), but it had EVERYTHING to do with his horrible family, my fear of them, my anxiety about moving so far from my family, and how we were going to establish boundaries with his family going forward.
And maybe the absence of inner problems between the two of us made it easier for us to succeed so well. I’m not sure. But truly, the therapy worked. It really, really did.
Post # 17
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
excellent. we aren’t really taught relationship skills of any kind in school. or even communication skills. Learning how to be better to each other has been absolutely vital.
Post # 18
Another vote for couples counseling. We had been dating for two years but things just weren’t working. We broke up for a couple months, and got back together by deciding the only way we would try is if we did counseling. The concrete reason we broke up were his issues, but it really helped me learn how to communicate more openly. It was not fun, that’s for sure – uncomfortable but so necessary, and it’s been a different relationship now that we’ve done it. We’ll hit 7 years in May and are getting married in Sept. My BFF was also having issues in her relationship. I encouraged her to at least give counseling a shot and it seems to have really helped them too, but we’re just two data points. I’m sure it doesn’t work for everyone. Most important thing is to find the right therapist for you guys (both of you need to like and feel comfortable with the person equally). It might take a couple of appts with different ones. Good luck!
Post # 19
We haven’t had couples therapy, but my SO and I started individually having therapy, not related to our relationship. We both used to be extremely poor communicators- not necessarily limited to our relationship, just in every way possible as we both hate conflict and tend to let things simmer instead of speaking up. Therapy in general has helped us both work on ourselves, and the results in our relationship have been amazing. We have become such a stronger team and so much better at talking through hard stuff and supporting eachother with some of the stuff raised in our individual sessions. I think therapy is amazing if you find the right therapist and my best advice is not to give up if you don’t click, try a different one